Narcissists Keep You TRAPPED with Induced Conversation #relationship #emotionalabuse #narcissist

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[googlespynetwork]

That's why they get mad when you are super brief with what you say.

[jotilochun]

Shit yes! Endless pointless circular conversation until you just go back to how things were

[Narc_Hunter]

Hey Ross! Professional musician here. That kind of microphone doesn't capture sound from the top! You can position it vertically and speak into the front! It will sound better 🎉🎉

[sequeira]

Its the loop. The only way to break it is you ascend into higher levels of awareness.

[paulmonte]

I have unfortunately experienced many of these relationships. I have finally learned that I cannot engage or have any sort of conversation without opening the door. Completely no contact is definitely the only way.

[zuko]

I thought I was the only one who noticed this strategy. They love bomb and keep talking to you and pretend like everything is normal until you forgive them again and the cycle goes on and on.

[marcirobins]

I’m officially anti-induced conversation. The freedom and the joy! ❤

[stevennelson]

So true! Once I realized and confirmed it, I called her out on everything and left her, I told her many many times I would only communicate through text, not once did she acknowledge or respect that boundary, if I came to pick up or drop off the kids she would be outside waiting and always try to talk to me sobbing and in distress, while I sat in my truck with the doors locked, because she always tried to get in. I am severely codependent, so i would eventually roll the window down a bit and engage, while trying my best to remain detached, which usually led to her hanging off my window trying to break it or get her arm in to unlock the door.
I also started audio recording these events which helped me greatly to gain clarity in the situations. Going back and listening to them a day or two later I could clearly see the patterns. Guilt, shame, anger, and silent treatment, every time.
Even now after having been moved out for a few months, having to rent my own place because she refuses to leave my acreage, she still manages to Hoover me back in through the kids until i realize again an snap out of it stating my boundaries once again, and enduring the melt downs afterwards.
It’s a constant cycle every week, threatening self harm and suicide every month in attempt to get me to come back home, and then trying to guilt and shame me for “not even caring”. I just send her the suicide hotline number now and tell her to talk to them because I’m not a professional and can’t help her with that, but pray she doesn’t do anything. The less contact i have with her the better i feel mentally and physically

[DavidTower-Frasier]

No contact. Wash rince repeat. No contact. Protect your Peace 🕊️.

[michaelbradburn]

I cannot believe how accurate this is and how much this applies to what happens to me every time 😔

[BryonLee]

Once you don't need their validation you're not hooked on the oxytocin from their caresses you don't need them to listen to you then it doesn't matter how cunning or intelligent somebody is because you're not going to bite on any hooks and self-awareness is the highest form of intelligence by the way. I was locked and cells for 23 hours a day 24 hours a day 20 years in prison with every imaginable kind of nut and my own mental problems and emotional problems. In a really hard prison they read psychology and philosophy books, they read meditation and yoga The suffering brings that out of you. Self-awareness if someone's own cravings, needs, whether or not they need it, and especially the involuntary thought stream awareness of all of that of the total process of oneself, to move with every thought and every feeling and never to say it's right or wrong but just watch it objectively that is the highest form of intelligence. Imagine someone inside you watching correcting every error no matter how small. That's how you stay above narcissists and other crap.

[RustyInSeattle]

induced conversation followed immediately by being cut off at the knees is what I have experienced from a covert narcissistic boss. Crazy making.

[Potato-fvns]

I'm not naturally co dependent. I was taught that's just how you do relationships. I don't innately relate to people that way. I just felt it was expected to operate that way. And to submit. Which is impossible and hellish with a narcissist. Really sets you back. Which gets worse when a Narc demands it and you are just trying to relate and make it work the way others say it needs to. Never again will I put aside my ideas or knowledge or nature for others dysfunctional demands and what makes them comfortable in that dysfunction.

[Asia]

I refuse to engage in any conversation 💯

[sarahjmount]

Yes 💯! And it worked every single time. I have a trauma bond from hell.

[letsfaceit]

Calling people narcissists just because they hurt your feelings or left you is often a way to process personal pain rather than a real diagnosis. True narcissism is difficult to assess, especially without knowing someone deeply over time, and it requires a clinician’s evaluation. When we use “narcissist” casually, it risks oversimplifying complex human behavior into a label that doesn’t always fit, much like calling someone a psychopath simply because they don’t want to be friends. Ultimately, we all have self-centered moments, and overusing these terms reduces meaningful experiences to labels that can distort rather than clarify.

[AngeleyeGuidance]

Greyrock, you can rock them so hard that the silence becomes deafening to them. Then they use every other person against you. Unfortunately many are dealing with co( counter) parenting.

[sarahmccollum]

If you go no contact then when they insist on speaking again, let them talk. You'll find they never shut up. They will also tell you much about their lies they kept, because they MUST be in the spotlight. Even if it's not the safest place for them.

[sunshine]

I'm dealing with this right now. I will be doing great and feel strong, he comes around and then insanity starts again. He throws me back into the loop of what happened and there I go saying the same things over and over and he plays dumb still not taking accountability. I hate it!