How To Cope With Difficulty or Tragedy

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SUMMARY:
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What can we do to face life's most difficult moments with grace?

1. Don't hide or fall into silence thinking you are alone. When something bad happens, we tend to close off and not to talk to anyone because,"they don't understand me, " or "they haven't been through this." But, as harsh as it might sound when you are struggling, the reality is that nothing you are going through right now is unique. One of the greatest ways to cope is to realize you are not alone and to get social support. Call a friend. Go to a support group. You might be surprised how many people care and can help and provide perspective.

2. Define your meaning. When something bad happens, ask, "What does this mean to me?" Find an optimistic meaning for what you are going through, even if it seems like nothing good could come from it. You will get stronger if you decide the meaning of the event is there to teach you something, to allow you to grow, to urge you to change or be kind or take action. What lesson can be learned that will make you better or happier or more successful in the future?

3. Keep your perspective. Remember, you've been through tough times before and your circumstances will change. The struggle will lessen. It will hurt less one day. Trust things will improve. This too shall pass. Even if life sucks right now, you have to believe things will get better, there will be light soon, you will make it through. Remember your blessings and strength and values and dreams... those things will keep you grateful and ready.

4. Keep a vision of the future that draws enthusiasm, excitement and engagement. No matter what, every single day, keep your enthusiasm for the day and for tomorrow alive. You control the meaning you give things, and thus the energy and emotion of your life. Keep a bright future at the forefront of your mind and everyday take at least one step toward it. You can do at least a few things today to move yourself forward. You are stronger than you imagine and a brighter day will be here soon.

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ABOUT BRENDON
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Brendon Burchard is one of the most followed personal development trainers of our time, and he is in the Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket. A car accident at the age of 19 inspired Brendon to turn his life around and follow his dreams to be a writer and trainer. After failing at first - he went bankrupt trying but he never gave up - he became a multimillionaire by the age of 32. Since then, he has dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world.

Brendon's posts now reach more than 10,000,000 people per week worldwide. He is the star and executive producer of the #1 self-help show on Youtube, and his podcast, The Charged Life, debuted at #1 on iTunes across all categories in multiple countries. His seminars include High Performance Academy, the legendary personal development program for achievers, and Experts Academy, the world’s most comprehensive marketing training for authors, speakers, coaches, and online thought leaders. For these works, Larry King named Brendon "one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world" and SUCCESS Magazine named him in their Top 25 Most Influential in Personal Development along with legends like Oprah, Tony Robbins, Joel Osteen, Dave Ramsey, Deepak Chopra, and Wayne Dyer.

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[eunhawaii]

"You're not alone" makes me cry. Thank you so much, Brendon!!

[ClickThief]

I lost a best friend for making some stupid decisions, just listening to this video helped me so much, it let me cry something I was holding onto for too long. Thank you. Whatever people say Brendon, whatever happens keep doing what you do. I felt as if no one else in the world understands but you do. I'm going to watch your videos every single morning, mid-day and afternoon for now, that's my 3 things.

[morningglory]

I completely agree & I am living proof of it. A couple of years ago I was living in a dark place where I felt trapped in my hellish nightmare, then I made a conscious choice to help myself. I knew no one was going to save me so I took it upon myself to to pull myself out of my own hell that I created in my mind. I recognized that I was overpowered by fear & where there is fear, love cannot exist. I had to teach myself to be strong & learn to redirect my unsettled thoughts into peace. I knew I wanted peace in my life & that became my stepping stone to transformation. 

[xnighthawk]

So fucking glad I found this guy. Exactly what I needed in my life at this point. Thank you man so much..

[FUGYOO]

Thanks for another great FREE video. You are blessed . I still think you look like mma ico and former world light heavyweight champion, Rich Franklin.

[helenpaul]

Brendan gives the best inspiration by far..simple realistic n achievable. Something most of us already know n have...BUT WE NEVER REALISED esp we felt lost n down

[ahmadpowerdream]

Thank you Brendon, as i was watching this video i felt like you were speaking straight to my soul. I had dealt with depression for a number of years and have been struggling to let go of it. Knowing that I am not alone, I have made through it (which I need to give my self credit), and things will get better, gives me the strength to move forward, again :) Thank you.

[kseniawilcox]

Dear Brendon. I am so happy, that I found your channel few months ago. You are such a great man! Thank you for everything! I watch your videos every day and it helps me to go through difficulties and it forces me to feel happy again. Thank you for everything!  

[dannyreyes]

I understand everything you saying Brendon, We all go thought things in life, we all have  lost a family member I'm sure but when is someone as close as your children it's tough. You see I lost my 2 year old daughter 2 years ago and it was hard on myself and my wife. I was blessed to have had family and friends to support me and love me. It's was still hard to go back and  live your so call life but we had no choice, we have a  7 year  old boy to look after. I know there's other people that have lost their kids and believe I'm in a few Support groups to help. I also found you online and you're helping me get the life I always wanted to have, even with my Angel. Thank You for speaking the Truth!!!!

[OutlawMantis]

A little over six years ago I was diagnosed with epilepsy. It still causes me a lot of trouble, but this video makes sense since as a result of the pain I've endured I'm a much stronger and more understanding person than I used to be. Fortunately I might get my brain surgery soon enough after waiting years. The condition has wrecked what many would call the best years of life, but if I recover I'm going to make what's after much greater. I've not given up. I keep hope, and whatever you're going through, I hope you'll keep hoping too.

A friend of mine recently hanged himself. It was very sad news, and I felt terrible that I didn't help him more than I could have done. I hope these few words will help you at the very least, whoever you are. You have a future. Good luck.

[ctvtoulouse]

God bless you Brendon this is all I needed to hear .Your work is incredible, it's a daily dose of joy, happiness,pool of knowledge and deep fulfillment .You changed my life

[adamlovejo]

Thank you Brendon, I feel with a loneliness sometimes, so that I often think to leave my relatives and runaway
, I attempted to open lines with them, but unfortunately I reach to closed road. .. I know life needs struggling ans striving to catch our desires...anyway I got a lot of things to support me in advance.

[olgakucharska]

I've been waiting the whole day to find out that I failed my exam, but now I know I can cope. Thank you Brendon. I needed this. I'll retake the exam and pass it ;)

[isabelguevara]

Amazing teachings you offer. Thank you for sharing them with people who are willing to learn from them. Have you consider offering them in Spanish? . I have lots of Spanish friends and family who will definitely benefit from them. Thanks again .

[syedasrarahmedthebrandsaa]

Amazing! Live fully, Love openly and make your difference today! Love it so much!!

[казахстанскиебойцы]

Thank You Brendon for making this video!

[howedelamitri]

Brilliant, compassionate, wise! This guy needs to be a household name

[liyanasafie]

Gosh just the right time thanks brendon ;)

[olgakucharska]

I've been doing my powerpoint presentation for 12 hours. I have not finished it. I'm exhausted. I just wanted a few seconds of pause and relax. And what I found? This video. Is it an accident? Thank you Brendon.

[mntk]

This's so helpful to me. Thank a lot !