No Contact And Marriage Separation To Get A Husband Or Wife Back. Does It Work?

Does the No Contact Rule work for marriages that are separated and headed toward divorce? Can no contact get your husband or wife back if they have left you or want a separation or divorce? If your spouse has left you stating they want a divorce you might be wondering if you should contact them or simply leave them alone to have the best chance of reuniting with them and re-attracting a husband or wife.

Coach Lee explains a modified form of the No Contact Rule that works for marriage and also goes over details of behavior and expectations for interacting with your spouse (or separated spouse).

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[donh]

No contact definitely works in a marriage. Several years ago I tried everything to fix the marriage when she wanted the divorce. Only when I went no contact, did things turn around and she came back to work on the marriage. A few years later I caught her in a affair. I went no contact again just so I could heal and move on. Sure enough she made effort to creep back in. But at that point I couldn’t take her back

[CharlesTvMotovlog]

3 months of no contact and she is calling me 20 times per night, i dont want her back anymore

[TanzaniteHayley]

6/7 months after an ugly (and I mean ugly) separation and we can laugh and Joke about things, inside jokes, past references. We went for a meal with our son on Sunday and we are back to be normal and friends again. But you can only get there by giving them space at the start, limiting contact, staying emotionally stable, not talking about the relationship, not asking for them back etc. Your spouse needs to want to come back on their own.

[scottveron]

My wife and I just separated last week. She has told me over the years that I need to change. I would try to fix what she said was wrong, but it was a repeating cycle and I couldn’t figure out what was the reason. Talking to a fellow veteran, they clued in when I told them my wife said that when I come home, I’m there, but not there. My friend explained I had PTSD. Depression, anxiety, hyper vigilance, insomnia. It made sense why I kept regressing. I had no idea this was ruining my marriage. I found a note she wrote pouring her heart out on why I want to fix things 9 years into our marriage. I’ve been watching your videos and am doing limited contact bc we have kids. I’m going to the VA now for help, but I’m not sure she will notice or want me back. I love her dearly and wish I knew I had these issues years ago. I would’ve addressed them way back then. I can’t fix what I don’t know is broken. Thanks for all your encouragement

[Taran]

YES! I used no contact on my husband and he came back six months later. Was easier since we didn’t have kids.

[erikdiaz]

Thank you so much for this video. It's great to know that the majority of us (men) do the same mistakes during the moment our wives say they don't love us anymore and want to separate. In my experience, I just felt a void in my stomach and reacted in a selfish manner, only thinking how that made me feel.
I will be listening your videos. Thank you so much again.

[juniorfelix]

Thank you Coach Lee, you are the best relationship coach! Your details are uncanny, and your deliverance is superior to the rest. : ).

[Farmhome]

Great video. I love the approach and vision. You are doing a lot of good in this tough emotional space. I’m giving a tip and you deserve it.

[geefour]

I love these videos but im putting my faith in God

[martyedwards]

I wish you could do a video where a mid life crisis might fit into this. If it does at all.

[Dad_Brad]

Great channel, solid guy with good advice.

[Mat_libi]

Today I broke my nc after 5 months lol, I went to the cafe (best In the town) that she always there, I found her with her friends (two guys) and I went straight to the counter to buy coffee (take away) and then off the place, completely I ignored her existence there. 😅😅

[wondur]

Hi Coach Lee. Would love to see a video (if there isn't one already) on best ways to act or what to expect if you work with an ex or run into an ex randomly during no contact. I work with my ex in a company of 200 people and ran into her today for the first time in about 17 days of no contact. I played it cool, said hi and was polite. She was also pleasant, but said something like "Hey stranger, how are you? I haven't heard from you in awhile." I thought it was strange since she dumped me that she seems to think I should have been trying to get in touch like normal or maybe she just said the first thing that popped in her head. I'm remaining no contact unless she reaches out directly but would love to get some insights on what an ex might be thinking or how they might act if you randomly run into them during no contact and how we should respond. Thanks! Also, I really like all your content and the breakup kit. Helps me get through the moments when I'm weak and want to reach out.

[kingasordyl]

During no contact my husband moved to another flat, leave job and preparing to close everything and moved back to his country. Possibly now he has another wife and family. I am on your channel so its mean its still painful and I can't forget him.

[sandymaldonado]

I made the mistake of getting into it with my husband when he expressed his anger. I feel like i held back quite a bit but i did debate even though i listened and understood his point of view. Feel like i took a few steps back. He is still at home until his apt is available. And i am trying to maintain smart contact while under the same roof. And i felt like progress was being made.

[whatwouldtarado]

After 18 months of me going NC after he had an EA, MLC, and he bailed on me and our son (who he has also had NC with) after a 20 year marriage, I filed. Bye.

[tamanthahickok]

This is great! What about a video specifically on the no contact rule in marriage if your partner is in an affair with someone else... I really need guidance if I can save this marriage when there is such a strong pull by someone else. I have less hope every day. I do by best to not initiate contact unless business related (we have no shared children) and it may be days to a week without anything. If he contacts or calls I will respond - not always right away. I really need more guidance and a pep talk in how to navigate this path in hopes to reconcile my marriage.

[pinaopina]

My husband and I been separated for a year and a half. He’s the one who doesn’t want to work on saving our marriage but does not make a move. “He’s not dating”or filing for a divorce. What game is he playing? 🤷‍♀️

[samlev]

I had to break no contact bc he contacted a lawyer & will file a petition tomorrow

[mariusdanciu]

and if I have nowhere to go to apply non contact, because the house belongs to the bank and we both pay installments .... I have no friends I can stay in such situations ... how could I apply no contact, please a advice I am destroyed .... with esteem and consideration !!!