When The Avoidant Realizes They Lost You | 2 Types of Dismissive Avoidants

When an avoidant realizes they lost you 1 of 2 things will happen. And it all depends on the type of dismissive avoidant that you're dealing with. Watch this video to learn about the types of dismissive avoidant attachment styles and how they react to loss.

[KD-hybi]

When they’re invested and they cared they shouldn’t have run. But I get it. They got triggered. Regardless, they hurt people.

[barbara]

Let's get real. There is no such thing as someone realizing they lost you. They simply will push their feelings aside to avoid shame or make you out to be the bad guy, but they will never see you as a lost. On the flip side, they will always look for you in other people. Go figure.

[seansworldkc]

My ex girlfriend DA broke up with me about 6 or 7 weeks ago. She made vague excuses to break up with me. She wouldn't really tell me what she was dealing with. But I knew she was going through something mentally. Then 2 or 3 weeks ago she makes a post online praising some guy to make me jealous and attempt to get angry reaction out me. I didn't respond. She has confessed to people that she was a bad girlfriend to me. I doubt she would ever try to come back because mostly she knows I would reject her and use the vague excuses as a reason not to reach out.

[alchemicalsoul]

I only look back if I want to. If I don't want the person back, there is no chance.

[Flufero]

I tested secure attachment with a small FA percentage. My ex FA monkey branched to another after four good years with me. He wanted to remain as a friend. Nope. I wished him well and let him go without tears or drama. NC forever for me. My intensive inner work has paid off. I no longer resonate with the man I remember him to be. I don’t want him back. I would never put myself through that trauma again.🙏❤️

[marvinbean]

Equal give and take.. we teach people how to treat us . Which is sad because they would much rather go elsewhere rather work things. It all vines across as a cat and mouse game

[tylerawiseguy]

I’m going through a break up myself. I’ve been struggling and my heart is broken. A couple weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me after I lied about my age and then I told her the truth. She said she didn’t care that I was a little older but the fact that I lied she didn’t feel comfortable or safe about it. I apologized and asked for forgiveness and a second chance but now I’m doing the no contact.

[hugorcedeno]

What about the dismissive avoidant type that never looks back? I know many DAs that say so, do they still fit as passive or are a different type?

[matejahorvat]

As da in recovery, 5 years +, I never looked back, when relationship was over, or contact any of my ex. I think you are talking about fa, leaning on dissmisive side or narc...I never had healty relationship, no helty person would participate 🤷‍♀️ we are emotionaly closed, very logical.I never cheated, ..., have friends, I am a good mother...still have a lot of fears, but with therapy, thriving. If you are thinking of taking back your ex...advice...if he is taking therapy, is good comunicstor, didnt cheat, or lie, can tske acountability, then you try, but it had to be their decition an effort at the begining ❤

[poiloyov]

QUESTION: Years ago, at the beginning, before I was even aware of this concept, my DA returned because I dumped him. today I don't want to dump him just yet but I am in no contact. My question is; does that mean that he is the returner type?

[stewartbatcharRTRP]

Is it applicable with bipolar disorder?

[georgedaccache]

Will my gay ex ever talk to me again he is a dismissive avoidant and told me he wants nothing to do with me ?