Why You Need to Stop Saying What People Want to Hear | Kyle Cease on Impact Theory

Former standup comic turned transformation expert, Kyle Cease helps people evolve through ditching their “old story”. He started performing stand up comedy at the age of 12 and was headlining by the time he was 18 making him one of the youngest headlining acts in the country. He is the author of the bestselling book “I Hope I Screw This Up” and on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, you’re going to see how the story you tell yourself may be the wrong one.

SHOW NOTES:
Why Kyle doesn’t prepare or plan [2:20]
The difference between goals and intentions [5:09]
How to get rid of your past story [8:00]
How to break out of the process of repeating your old stories [11:45]
The 2 voices you have that decide your life [14:56]
The building blocks of a healthy self-story [18:11]
The story of Kyle’s mother passing away just 6 weeks before the birth of his daughter [19:23]
The story of how Kyle personally had to release an old story [21:37]

QUOTES:

“I feel like if I planned ahead you wouldn’t be hearing me, you’d be hearing something I prepared.” [2:24]

“We live in a world where we don’t say what we’re thinking. We say what people want to hear.” [3:21]

“Life can mirror what your intention is” [5:26]

“If you undo yourself from the old story, you can change really fast.” [7:38]

“Society’s kind of crazy.” [7:38]

“I really believe that no person has ever broken your heart, but they break your expectations. And by breaking your expectations, they get you closer to your heart.“ [21:56]

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BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
The Illusion of Money: Why Chasing Money Is Stopping You From Receiving It

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TV SHOWS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Comedy Central Laugh Riots Competition
Comedy Central Stand up Showdown
Jimmy Kimmel Live
Chelsey Lately

MOVIES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

[karlmhlanga]

"When you're feeling lost, you're just addicted to seeing the old story." WOW!

[clareshirleen]

When he said, " If your mind comes up with a justification, that means you don't want it..."- I felt that.

[mansiveer]

Kyle is an amazing healer. literally felt my body releasing lot of pressure when he said, "Whenever you let go of something scary, you are scared only because your mind can measure what you'll loose !!!
but what it cannot see is what you'll gain. "

[browngypsy]

When he spoke of the death of his mother really resonated with me. When I stood over her body before they locked her coffin I looked at her and asked, "What am I supposed to do now?" I lived to make her proud and with my other siblings having children and families I always tried to stand out in her heart. Now I'm still trying to figure out what I want for my life 3 years later. Thank you for your content Tom.

[unleashingpotential-psycho]

Trying to please other people is the death of happiness.

[sarah]

I literally think I learned more from this interview than anything else I have ever watched here on YouTube. I feel like this guy really gets it, the point of life and why we are here. Thanks for sharing your story.

[mellevandenwildenberg]

People cannot really break your heart. They broke that expectations that you had of them.
This makes so much sense

[marthahorton]

“The part of me that was seeking her approval died too” that hit me!

[shiftthatmatters]

I got goosebumps listening to this episode. The best part I liked was when he talks about your mind trying to justify something is a sign you don't want it. Wow, that is profound!

[TiffanyHallmark]

This video really spoke to where I am in life right now. I need to stop telling myself the stories and to stop saying what I think people want to hear. I have been very guilty of using all empty talk and taking no action or control of myself. Thank you so much for sharing this. I need to take some time to really evaluate myself.

[Xscapeplan]

"No person has ever broken you're heart, but they broke your expectations"

[ExiledMango]

I have a feeling that his messages will elude a lot of people, but this guy is next level

[lh]

"When you say I'm nervous... And I love it, you free yourself...
The problem isn't the thought it's your RESISTANCE to the thought"

...Yep. Letting that set in now...
Mahalo.

[michaels-meditations]

Being authentic is so important. You may get short satisfaction and compliance from the other person but you break integrity with yourself, that is not good in the long term.

[SiimLand]

To change your life change the story your telling yourself

[gu]

so powerful, his consciousness is on another level

[dominiquesanchez]

"They didn't break your heart, they broke your expectations." Wow.

[rachelharris]

"When your mind comes up with a justification, that means you don't want it".... that was really powerful!!!! :o

[melissarose]

Every time I watch one of these videos I say “this is the best one yet” and then the next episode is somehow even better. Thank you Tom and Kyle!

[ricardogamboa]

I love his answer to the final question. Woohoo! I love that he wore a shirt that says patience... Not complacency or complicity but real patience...Tom, I love that you invite guests who push you to find a better answer REAL BALLS