10 Signs Someone’s Always Playing the Victim

Do you know someone who has a victim mindset that everyone is out against them and everything is completely out of their control? Do you find yourself drained while they stay in a perpetual state of discontentment? To better explore what a victim mindset is, in this video, we’ll discuss some of the signs someone is always playing the victim.

Disclaimer: It is important to use your best judgment if someone is truly in a victim mindset. There are people who have hardships that are valid, even if hard to understand. This article is not to discredit or devalue the experience of others, but rather to shed light on an issue that may be used to manipulate and harm other people.

Writer: Sidney Thompson
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Sam Rain
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

Are you guilty of this? raise your hands if you are. Oo. The first step towards change is recognizing the behavior in yourself.

[SilentTrip]

I can sometimes fall into the victim mindset, but try to correct myself when I notice it

[venuss]

Btw don’t let a narcissist accuse you of playing victim after they treat you like shit. This happened to me and last month, I had to go to the ER for a panic attack because of all the psychological stress I got from dealing with my abuser. Sometimes people really are victims and it’s not because they are crazy. Please upvote this so we can let others know.

[gilliannrosario]

10 Signs someone’s always playing the Victim
1. They Try to manipulate you
(it seem like there's ALWAYS happening bad to this person)
2. They place blame Elsewhere
( TEND to blame their shortcomings or external factors
3. They hold onto the past
(Holding grudges)
4. They make excuses
(always say excuses in ANY situation)
5. They’re okay about their situation
( DISSATISFIED with the way things are and yet do nothing to change it / use dissatisfaction in their life so you take pity on them)
6. They don’t trust you
(they become NEEDY so that you’d give their needs / no matter what advice you give them, they wouldn’t LISTEN)
7. you feel drained when they're around
( you always support them but NOTHING seems to change)
8. They’re Passive
( they don’t speak action even if it’s NECESSARY )
9. They’re insecure or unstable
( believing there’s no way to CHANGE themselves)
10. They attract Drama
( it seems like someone is ALWAYS mistreating them)

[unbeatabel]

I love how people who watches this channel are so self aware and actually try to correct themself

I'M SO PROUD OF ALL OF YOU💜 we can be better and we can do better💜

[faesahl]

Once I had a friend who’d *purposely* exclude herself from conversations then accuse us of ignoring her.

[catherinejackson]

Not everyone going through a bad time is playing the victim card nor do they want advice. They want someone to listen and to feel heard. I went through a bad time and was talked with a friend whom I had supported through a rough time. She would interrupt me with advice and then would get angry when I wouldn't take it. Her advice was bad because she didn't take into account who I was. She was a bold extrovert and I'm a shy introvert. Needless to say we haven't spoken in years

[yeehaw]

i am absolutely guilty of this. i used to try so hard to blame everyone else for my problems instead of myself. in reality, because of it, i wasnt accepting my responsibility for my wrong doings and it was preventing me from actually being happy. with therapy though and talking it out, it has helped me so much to move on and now im actually so much happier than ive been. thank you so much for making these videos. i hope it can help someone like me realize their faults and try to work on them.

[bennurmi]

With growing up with narcissistic parents, I find it hard to know if I'm playing the victim to people or if I'm going through a PTSD moment from childhood. Each one of these points fit, even though I can trace the evidence back to them and the cultist church that my siblings and I were raised in.

[fatefulverdida]

I swear.
The first few seconds of the video instantly made my mind click.
"I was playing the victim game the whole time? Was I actually manipulating others?"
And that was way before the disclaimer.

[chadpowell]

Gotta say I live around people like this, always never their fault they’re always the victim yet somehow the hero of their own story

[suewint]

I think we're all empathetic towards any victim and want to help, its when they have additional motives to ruin other people's lives while they victimize themselves...that's when you start questioning everything they do!

[kimr]

I think this is helpful to educate someone that might have "unprocessed trauma" and/or "sexual trauma" instead of them playing the victim.

[beatricebenitezsalgado]

What if they aren’t playing the victim but just constantly feel down, insecure and unstable all the time?

[rottencandyco]

I usually don’t realize I’m playing the victim until afterwards, and that makes me mad and disappointed in myself. I know everybody isn’t out to get me but I feel hated by everyone around me sometimes. And I complain about it. I try my best not to now though. But at least I don’t have most of these things.

[Ace_Maus]

There's a fine line between PTSD/mental health symptoms and this. Some of these things, I do out of trauma, depression, and anxiety, some I do out of the thoughts/habits my narcissist abuser (who also acts like a victim) implanted in me. It's difficult when you oncenwere a victim and get stucj in fear and habits that won't let you move on even when things are improving. So, either way, yes, professional help is needed.

[suk_luvie]

I've always felt like I had a victim complex but then I realized that I just wanted to be listened to and heard by people. I don't really like to ask for advice either. I always want to grow as a person and try to be the best version of myself.

[ll]

I've been told that I play the victim card a lot and honestly, I kind of do though I'd say it's extremely unintentional. I hate being the victim, I never want to be the victim and for a while, I end up becoming and embodying this role fully. It's sad really. I hope to detach myself from this mentality one day.

[Im_Julissa]

Title: "All the reasons why I unfriended my best friend"

[BastarB]

I can see myself in every single trait shared in this video, and I've been aware of it for some time now, the only exception is that I mainly blame myself extremely harshly about my shortcomings, not other people around me. I'm amazed how much it takes to learn to take true responsibility for my actions and for my life, I've realized that the victim mentality have been like in every corner of my perception for years, and It takes alot of time and effort to change those toxic habits of learned helplessness that I've been dealing with. I mostly sorry for all people in my vicinity who has been negatively affected by my negative behaviour:/