10 Signs They're Just Being Nice, But Not Into You

How do you know if a person likes you or if they’re just being friendly? You may be getting mixed signals from someone and not know what to do about it. Does it mean that they’re romantically interested in you or do they just see you as a friend? If this is something you’re struggling with, this video might help!

Disclaimer: This is a disclaimer that this video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional if you are struggling.

Writer: Chamae
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Elisa Stanis (new animator)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[anishamelton]

Honestly, if I've learned anything after my last relationship, it's that it's always good to be friends first if you can help it. This just helps you to build a better foundation for a relationship if you two decide to be more than friends. It also just helps you to see all the different complexities of that person and decide if that's someone you'd wanna be with

[Christopher-mske]

NEVER be friends with someone and do things for them in hopes that they will like you romantically.

[alexrseeberger]

liking someone you know could never like you back is so painful. especially when they send sort of mixed signals.

[samuell]

One thing I think is worth noting, if someone doesn’t return your feelings, you don’t have to be their friend. If you feel the friendship isn’t worth it or too hard without it becoming more, you have every right to move on. I remember when I was in college this girl I was pursuing romantically didn’t return my feelings. I felt I wasn’t getting anything out of the friendship and I always wanted more, so I eventually decided to distance myself and move on. I was happier that way and it made me feel a sense of relief. She was a bit upset I wasn’t hanging out with her anymore but she eventually got over it. Just like a girl doesn’t owe you romantic feelings for being nice to them, you don’t owe someone time and effort when you want something more but they don’t.

[viper]

Remember, fellas, just because a girl or boy doesn't like you in a romantic way, that doesn't mean this person doesn't like you, even if it's just as a friend. And if you can accept that fact, then the best friendships can result.

Don't be desperate for love. Or for a special person. I'd say, if you don't need a relationship to be happy, you're ready to be in one.

[xieale]

Liking someone is so stressful, but it makes me feel so happy.

[richarddillinger]

I've learned years ago that friendliness isn't the same as flirting. As a result, very rarely do I tell anyone I have feelings for them. Recently, I told someone how I felt about her, but she didn't feel the same way.

Now it's awkward, and she avoids me. I respect her choice and her space, so I don't interact with her anymore. While certain people may be fine just being friends, I think it's not worth maintaining if you still have feelings for them.

I don't expect to be in a romantic relationship, simply because it's typically expected of men to approach, confess, or even ask out on a date. Again, very rarely do I express how I feel about someone. Waiting for a woman to reveal her feelings for me or ask me out is very improbable.

[memoire-jm]

A college story of mine: I enjoyed being alone as an adult, but hate feeling the pain of being lonely. Like last year I was contented of being a loner in my college life. Later, as my school life progressed I'm still the same old me but with a feel of being helpful and kind to everyone especially my close friends. Until one day, I met a girl whom I was kind to since she felt a bit lonely. So I did all my best to be friends with her talk to her, listen to her problems, life, and so on. Discovered that she had a troubled past. I remembered last year she talked to me about a certain problem and she didn't want to talk to anyone about it except for me and while we we're talking she suddenly cried... We were like best friends.

Months later- I told here there was this one girl (now an ex of mine) who confessed to me first. I didn't want to say no because I was curious of where our relationship take us. Unaware of what might happen at the starting of March she was being distant at me in purpose even though I had no clue what was going on... She was being passive aggresive, and pretend I'm not even there anymore, etc. I wanted to apologize if there was something I've done but she said there's nothing I've done that would start her to hate me but still she's being distant at me. Also I discovered that she now have a boyfriend and I'm happy for her (His personality reminds me of him). But still couldn't know why she is being distant at me. I told my friends that I've developed a crush on her a year ago and to that extent that I've said it to my friends I've also discovered that she had a crush on me last year... But now I've felt devastated that I was too late to realize it and the thoughts of regrets coming. Even imagined what our alternate timeline would be if it was the two of us. Some of these parts are pretty much my fault but, damn I blame my dense personality and for being slow.

I love being alone but scared and hated the feeling of loneliness.

P.S. This vid made me more aware now. Thanks 🙏

[LiGHTProductions]

Pro tip: don't get sad if they don't reciprocate your feelings. Move on, focus on yourself and make you never come back to the very same feelings.

[khalilahd.]

I feel like I always connect the dots that they don’t like me AFTER I make a fool out of myself 😭. Wish I could have seen it then

[Boogie_Boo]

Sometimes I think “why would anyone like me, what do I contribute to this world that’s so worth being with?” or “what’s actually appealing about being with a person like me?”, and dwell in self doubt. Honestly sometimes I don’t feel like I’m actually worth loving nor loved at all.

[dymoure]

I had a group of friends in college. I liked one of them, and one of them liked me. It’s weird because if I would’ve known about the girl who liked me, I may have given her a chance. She actually helped me out a lot when the girl I liked rejected me and the group started to fall apart. It’s a shame none of us are friends anymore, but I'm happy they’re both seemingly doing great.

[Raghav-txym]

0:20 They don’t reciprocate your advances.
0:48 They get confused by the things you’re doing.
1:20 They talk about the people they’re seeing.
1:44 They treat you like how they treat their friends.
2:15 When you hangout, they bring other people.
2:42 They say things that make you second guess their feelings.
3:12 When you get teased together they laugh it off.
3:38 They ship you with other people.
4:10 They ask you for favours.
4:30 They ask you to set them up.. with other people.

[mahdude]

Haven’t watched it yet, but I have a feeling this is my crush. I used to think they liked me, till I saw them with their other friends, and they acted the exact same way. They’re just nice, not into me. Sad 😔

[duracell]

I’ve been with this channel for five years, and it’s still super fun to pick out the references throughout the video.

[maximilianmiernik]

1:02 i dont see many jjk references, this really made me happy, also keep up the great work, youre amazing.

[dr.bright]

Guys I have a solution... don't talk to anyone you find attractive and you'll never be disappointed!

[somegoofballwhohasinternet]

Me after getting stuck in the friend zone: “I got a friend, Woo!!!”

[arzuozturk]

yooo anyone reading this rn, it is like the best happiness drug to be into someone that is friendly to you too, i swear, my life has been like 10X better than say, a month ago before i met the person i like, 100% recommend

[littlemezz]

not only is this is so helpful and calming to watch... but the ANIME REFERENCES ARE JUST AMAZING