Drifting Away from People: The Dark Side of Solitude

As a lover of solitude, I think it’s useful to look at the dark sides behind turning our backs on society. This video explores why we drift away from people, the resulting loneliness and estrangement, and the associated dangers.

Video: Drifting away from people | The dangers of loneliness & estrangement

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00:00 Introduction
01:50 Why do we drift away?
05:37 The dangers of estrangement
10:24 Distorted reality

[frido_lino]

Being alone feels great, feeling alone is the worst.

[genxtechguy]

I’m selectively introverted. Most of the time I am very comfortable being alone, but I have moments where I want to get out and be around others for a period of time … and then back to solitude to recover. It’s difficult to make longterm / close friends with this cycle. Most people need constant human contact, I don’t do well with that.

[Jeremus]

Solitude enriches us, loneliness diminishes us.

[godot]

"Being disgusted with humanity and distancing yourself because of that" hits really hard at home. I've never been happier ever since I made the decision to distance myself.

[gracesanity]

Embracing solitude saved me. I was so depressed and traumatized...l had to isolate. Healing began.

[Chill_Mode_JD]

“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone”

—Robin Williams

[jonpark]

I will take solitude(any-day of the week) as opposed to being around fake friends !!!

[seal_l_l]

I never feel alone when I'm with myself. I feel alone only around other people.

[Anthony-djnd]

There's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely

[SharkyJ]

Embracing my autistic self at 40. 🙂 I've always loved being alone with my pets in nature. I never wanted to work, have kids, be married. I'm not here for all that. I tried, I got the degrees and worked in big tech, ran the triathlons and got the medals, married and divorced. I won a couple of discrimination cases and became a bit of a whistleblower, experienced all types of familial and institutional betrayal, religious trauma, medical trauma, hence the need for solitude. The weight of mischaracterizations has become too much to join in anymore. I try not to perceive myself through anyone else's limited reality. More time for art, being, preparing healthy foods, helping my body, reading and growing.

[anitaheart]

I’m a loner and I love it. I actually thank God for it, it’s brought me huge spiritual growth and a totally new way of experiencing reality. It helped me realize that my purpose in life is actually NOT having a purpose: just being and allowing everything to be as it is, in total appreciation.

[MsGechi]

People talk too much. They tell too many stories to get attention. They drain my energy.

[eddohan]

"I dont hate or dislike them, I just feel better when there not around" 😁 Charles Bukowski

[ENIGMAXII]

The older I grow, the more experience I get..
The more I avoid people.
Just do not have the tolerance any more to deal with people.
Solitude is a good thing that feeds ones soul well..

[kenamaro]

I find it more fulfilling and peaceful to observe people, rather than engaging with them…..I’ve eliminated toxic people from my life…. I stand stoic, and alone….

[rahulradhakrishnan]

The more I try to socialize and talk to people, the more I realize how different I am from people around me. I can never find common ground. It's like I just don't fit in at all.

[skeptickhan]

"Hell is other people" — Jean-Paul Sartre

[pythonxz]

I grew up with family that judged me for everything I did. They told me that I would end up just like my mother, broke and uneducated. I was also told by teachers in school that I would never amount to anything because they thought I wasn't applying myself. It took everything I had to get through school, since I'm not that smart. That experience left me traumatized, on top of getting Lyme Disease, then cancer. My family (other than my mother) didn't care about any of that, and told me to man up. All they say is the usual nonsense about "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps". All of them are well off and always have been. They never lived paycheck to paycheck.

When most of my own family has basically been spitting on me for my whole life, it's no wonder I don't trust people.

[WuweiJOM]

No matter how much you give and sacrifice, everyone leaves eventually. You better get used to solitude, it is our true essence but you need hobbies like running, reading, gardening, etc., and don't just serve yourself, learn to serve your community, any gesture, no matter how small, whether it be planting a tree or cleaning a beach, can be anything really causes a positive impact, serve for the greater good, this gives meaning to your life and humility.

[DanHammonds]

This video really resonates with me. I've become something of a recluse the past couple of years, simply because I don't relate to modern culture and society. I'm searching for likeminded communities and people I can share deep and mind-expanding conversations with (such as this), but most people perceive me as too heavy and a drag or treat me like the town drunk.

I'm not feeling sorry for myself. I'm just struggling to find people I can relate to right now and not really sure where to find them.