What To Do When Your Boyfriend Lies To You

Finding out your boyfriend lied to you can be devastating. On one hand you’re angry about him being dishonest with you, and on the other, you’re probably pretty upset, or maybe even feeling betrayed or let down.

The good news is there’s usually a reason behind why your man felt the need to lie in the first place, and knowing it can help prevent further dishonesty down the road… if you can forgive him. But we’ll get to that soon.

Hey YouTube, Amy North here, welcome to my channel. Seeing as you’re watching this video, you’ve probably been in a situation where you found out your guy was lying to you, which means you know how much it sucks, and how hard overcoming it can be.

Before I start talking about what you should do if you find yourself dealing with a lying boyfriend, I want to ask you something. Have you ever ending a relationship because of lying? To answer, simply click yes or no in the top right hand corner of this video. I would love to hear from you and participating will give me some insight for future videos.

Also, if you answered yes in the poll here, then I hope what you’re about to learn can help you down the road if you find yourself faced with a dishonest partner. If you answered no, well stay tuned, because you’re going to learn some tips that will hopefully put an end to you having to face that sort of situation again.

So without further adieu, what should you do if your boyfriend lies to you?

Well, the first thing is to find out why he lied to you. Typically, there are three reasons for doing so.

The first reason is to make himself look good. Meaning if he’s trying to impress you, or feels like you’re out of his league, the he may try to make himself seem greater than he really is.

This kind of lying usually happens early on in a relationship, or if one person is feeling insecure. As innocent as it may seem, making up stories to make himself sound good, or fabricating situations so you’ll think he’s someone he’s not, is still not healthy in a romantic relationship. Again, his intentions may be good, but if he’s only this amazing guy in made up stories, then how great is he actually?

For instance, maybe he tells you about worldly travels to sounds more fascinating, or perhaps he lies and says he’s up for a big promotion at work to make you think he’s really ambitious or accomplished. The problem with these sort of lies is that the truth usually shines through. When it does you’ll have to decide whether or not the lies he told were too deceptive, or if you can let it go.

The second reason men lie is because they’re afraid of how you’ll react if faced with the truth. In this kind of situation your guy is hiding something from you because he’s worried that you’ll freak out, get upset, or be disappointed if he tells you the truth. Usually these lies are intended to be harmless, and are told to prevent a fight. For example, lying about why he’s late, saying he loves the burnt dinner you’ve cooked, cutting the number of beers he had with the guys in half, or saying you’re the only woman he finds attractive… these are the kinds of lies he’s telling to be kind or keep the peace. Sometimes it’s easy to get past these lies, other times, it can be tough to let them go – especially if these are ongoing and get you doubting the other things he’s telling you.

If you want your man to be completely honest with you, then it’s important that you take a long, hard look at the way you behave and react when he does tell you things you may not be happy hearing. For instance, do you yell or scream when he shares news you don’t like? Are you quick to get defensive or do you blow up on him?

If your boyfriend is afraid of your reaction, it’s likely the reason he’s not always honest with you. If you do want complete transparency from him, then you’ll need to prove to him that you can handle the truth, and that he won’t have to deal with the consequences of sharing it with you. Remember, men despise drama and will do whatever necessary to avoid it.

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[everydaynabil]

the irony is that, catching your boyfriend lying is more devastating than the truth itself. You just, lose your trust.

[rebelliousnation]

liars will drive you insane... I say move on especially if it keeps happening over and over. Lying is a sign of immaturity in my eyes.

[fukifukidasuki]

if u are watching this video, u should not trust him anymore because u wont watch this video if he doesn't lie to u

[sagealice]

Especially when the person you love the most in the world CONTINUOUSLY lies about a bunch of different things... From small to big. How are you supposed to proceed when you can't believe a word they say? But how are you supposed to move on when you love them more than life itself?

[oyukipineda]

The worst is when they deny lying and act like the victim 😒

[GobisPad]

Yeah especially when he lies and then uses excuses about “not trying to make you mad” while their selfishness to keep things from me is the only reason I would be mad in the first place.

[Bee-tgun]

It's very simple. Don't trust him ever again.

[deevee]

I have ended marriages when an old bf started chatting me on facebook. I let them be sleezy and then I sent it to their wives. More than once. I fight for fellow women.Keep on knocking dbags.

[louisekatiemccarthy]

I think when they feel the need to lie on even the smallest of things that can cause trust issues and make you then wonder what else he lies about and I think if they keep lying and you don't trust them then walk away.

[loloqueenbee]

Let’s have these liars take responsibility for their deceptive characters For goodness sakes... THIS VIDEO PLACES ALL THE RESPONSIBILITY on the person who was lied to. Is she for real!?!?!?! I am about keeping your cool. Why throw pearls to swine... no need to beg ladies. You can find a partner who has an honest character. It doesn’t matter why they lied. You’re reaction to deceptive behaviour is NOT a reason for their dishonesty. THEY make the decision to lie. If someone knows what they are about to do is hurtful and they STILL do it, that means they didn’t give a damn about your feelings PERIOD. So YOU trying to then treat them with kid gloves, watch your reaction while being hurt (perhaps you are being cheated on, so you’re reaction may be to cry). Why is all the responsibility on YOU to treat the offender with kid gloves so they don’t pull back? What happened to people having to face the destruction that they cause?

[raramoss]

Girl men will still lie if you are calm. The goal is not to lose you. He could really care less you get mad.

[shanikabryan]

Ive never ever lied in a relationship. I dont do things i know i would not be able to tell the truth about.

[rilakkuma]

literally crying right now cause my boyfriend is lying to my face and he's very insistent in denying it. I know the truth and I just want him to tell me things truthfully but he keeps lying. It hurts even more

[shawnabattaglia]

What if he won't admit that he was being dishonest. I have caught my boyfriend in a few lies and he won't admit he lied. Kind of hard to fix the problem if he denies there being one.

[stephanieszady]

YUP!
My guy either is a natural born liar
Or
He’s trying to empress me.
Either way...
I payed $390, 000.
For a divorce & dumped the biggest liar 🤥
& im done ✅

[emilyabbey]

I had the second lie spoken to me. I do freak out every time because I get jealous. He told a girl that he had a girlfriend through text but told me he never texted her. Now I will keep my cool and calm down when he tells me bad news. I didn’t realize. Now we can fix things. I’m happy 🙂

[MadiSmiles]

My boyfriend constantly lies and has lied about so much. I tell him JUST BE HONEST and then there isn't an issue! Still he continues to lie. And then guess who's in the wrong for being upset about it? Me. He flips it all around to try and make it about me being upset that he lied and how THAT is wrong.

[Kaylee-ekjt]

When your boyfriend makes up a fake trip 4 hours away when in reality he’s still at home 😋 and never responded to your texts or calls

[boshgezenyan]

It's worse when " family" you've belived for years, lie to you HUN.
BF lying & cheating is very bad ughh

[paraconsistentjojo]

Men despise drama? 😂

Where do we get these gender myths? Oh yeah, from men