How to handle your Christian parents after you come out

If you're LGBTQ and your Christian parents aren't supportive, it can be incredibly painful. Here are 7 DOs and 7 DON'Ts for maintaining a relationship with them without losing yourself in the process.

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[musiqchild]

I hate that we have to be psychologists in order to facilitate these conversations with parents. Though this is super helpful this is overwhelming.

[zPencilPirate]

Boy I wish I'd had this advice when I came out to my mom.

[lollybell]

As a Mama Bear, it hurts my heart that there are people out there who don't have loving and supportive families to be there for whatever you need, especially if claiming Christian values.

[KennyVert]

I will be 32 in October, and my mom still makes me feel like I’m a 13 year old boy who is confused about my sexual orientation. I have a very accepting dad, and for that, I’m thankful. I have 3 siblings that have not been great at engaging with me on this or really, most topics. I have definitely felt like the oddball in this family of mine, but I’m holding onto the hope that Jesus loves me just as I am. Thanks Justin. I know you’ve helped a lot of LGBTQ youth. Much love, -Kenneth

[rlyhot]

Not me coming out during an argument... and debating the Bible... and her finding out through one of my tweets instead of me telling her... and not having a big story to tell because I’ve just now accepted my sexuality myself... holy fuck am I screwed

[hpe]

I’m bi and my parents are Christian and homophobic, I’m really scared to come out to them

[Aceofspadess]

This really helped me! I am planning to come out to them on my birthday! This helped me so much.

[Suoufield]

My parents are very homophobic.. when we were watching Dateline, one person was gay and they immediately changed it and said “Gross, right?” And I said yeah because I have to fake being Homophobic. I’m Pan and NonBinary and when I said the Bible says to love everybody, she said “they made Adam and Eve for each other not Adam and Joe” and my friends are all LGBTQ+ (My friends are pan, non-binary and gender fluid) I’m really nervous about telling them because my dad gets upset easily and we’re going through moving stuff

[priscillatellado]

My dad is very Christian but I’m am lesbian my parents have had very very hard lives and I just want to make them happy so I play the part as the straight Christian daughter to make them happy every time I try to tell them I chicken out I just love them so so much I can’t hurt them like this

[Xenonmorph__]

I've studied theology for almost my entire life before I left the church. I've argued theology until I was blue in the face. If God is love, and we are called to love one another, we are called to love everybody and every soul. After being sent to conversion camp/ mental health 'treatment', I had to leave the church. Their church does have a LGBT support group but they will not go because it's not biblical. My chosen family is super accepting of me and I love them. Even if my family will not accept me as a bisexual cisgendered woman, sometimes we have to radically accept that we cannot change them. I love you for you and be your authentic self. ❤️

[sleepyghost]

My mom always brings up the bible when it comes to mental health and/or me being part of the lgbtq+ community

[BreadofLifeChannel]

Dear Justin,
Wow! This is such a helpful video for those who are struggling with how to come out to their parents. Thank you for being such a godly example and a source of help to people in need. God bless you, brother!

[simamarcus]

I'm considering coming out to my family and I'm really nervous about it, so thanks for this video.. It's super helpful and your voice and presentation are really calming and supportive

[cammrennn]

it’s father’s day and i can’t help but think about how once my dad finds out about me he won’t love me anymore

[microwavemicrowave]

I’m a Christian but I’m trans and queer, , uh, , this will be scary

[thatyellowyoshi]

ngl I had thoughts of them disowning me for this..

[tartarus]

Came out about 10 years ago and my relationship with my parents never really healed. My biggest piece of advice is to wait until you are financially independent from your parents. That was my mistake and I ended up homeless for a while.

[tofu]

I needed this video my parents are Christian and I want to come out the closet

[gregvest]

Thank you for everything you are doing ❤️ and Thank you for being selfless and allowing God to use you❤️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙂

[cindyhawes]

Wonderful, as your videos always are, Justin! You have helped me, as a mom, immeasurably. Hope to meet you some day to express my appreciation.