How Does a Christian Woman Handle a Narcissistic Husband?

What do you do when your husband is a narcissist and you want to honor God?
In this video we talk about how a Christian woman handles a narcissistic husband.

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[Matthew-czgk]

God delivered my narcissistic husband!! With God all things are possible!!

[ruthkoning]

I was married for 31 years to a porn addicted "Christian" narcissist . He controlled our finances so I was trapped. It took me 20 years to find language for the abuse I was living in. We went to counseling but it was more damaging for me because he used the things I shared to gain more control. I finally got out 4 years ago and for 2 of those years he stalked me and the police had to get involved. The divorce process took 4 years because he used this to try keep me. As of Friday I AM FREE Thank you for sharing this video.

[rosehealy]

I was married to a nassitius for 41 years and then the Lord released me. The Lord is so dear and precious to me.

[sharonbarker]

My husband gaslights, he gives the silent treatment for days. He is a liar, he goes places, while never telling me where he’s going, or how long he will be gone. He appears to get pleasure from being cruel, he is rude, he speaks to his family and our dogs with kindness, and speaks to me in a totally different tone. He NEVER apologizes—under ANY circumstances, EVER. He gets his feelings hurt constantly! I have to weigh out everything I say before speaking. He can even get offended if you offer to do something for him. That’s a sign that you think he’s stupid. He accuses me of things that he does. In fact, the very things that he does, he accuses me of. He is an alcoholic, passing out drunk, yet denies it. I begged him to go have a physical. He would say, “no, I’m perfect. You’re just trying to speak negative things on me.” Then on October 15th 2022, he had a massive brain stem stroke, and is paralyzed on his right side. Then four months ago, he had TWO heart attacks. He is now back to getting drunk every day, and eating nothing but junk. He is incapable of having a normal conversation. He doesn’t even know how. I’m sorry this is so long. I’m just venting. I feel like I’m going to have a stroke myself, if I don’t get away from him. He is the most passive aggressive person I have ever been around. He is constantly playing games, and bragging about being able to mess with people. Who does that?
He has NEVER been affectionate, in fact he’s cold! He doesn’t tell me he loves me, he doesn’t hold my hand, nothing. He says the woman should ask for sex if she wants it—she’s the door keeper. It’s SO creepy and weird. Living with him is hell. The problem is that I’m a Christian. I pray every day, and never miss Mass on Sundays. I feel like I’m drowning:( I started watching this video, and now I’m going to go back and finish it. I pray it has the advice I need.
Oh wow! Amen Sister—done!

[rhondawallace]

I do not agree with you that there are only two reasons for divorce. If a man is emotionally and mentally abusing his wife to the point where she has a nervous breakdown- God does not expect a woman to endure that type of treatment The Bible speaks of abandonment as a reason for divorce. Emotional abandonment is a real thing, is extremely damaging and can be worse than physical abandonment

[tg]

My daughter is married to a narcissist. We are praying. It is so hard as a mother to see the pain her husband causes her. I sent her this video. Thankyou for making this video. She is so tired and depressed. They have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. My heart breaks for them.Pray for my daughter please.

[nanaable]

46 years with a narcissist husband he's only gotten worse. When he gets angry he yells and screams at me and calls me nasty names. He lies about everything and it is not only destroying my health but I can barely function. I just want peace.

[deborahlacy]

I went to my pastor and his wife numerous times for at least 10 years but my husband never changed however, one day someone said to me that maybe I was praying the wrong way. I said, I don't want him to die, I just want away from him. The next day I started praying daily that if my husband was not going to straighten up, then I ask God to remove him from our home. Within 2 months of praying this same prayer daily, my husband moved out, and I helped him move and gave him any and all decorations in our house that would make his new place be more homey for him. I knew God was totally behind this and I praised him every step of the way.

[rosebettencourt]

She is right.. I just left a 16 year toxic, covert narcissist.. I was a minister..I prayed hard.. spent hours every day with God.. did everything in the book and I drew very close to God as he began to open my eyes to the severity of the situation. I had no voice, no money, isolated from friends and took care of his dysfunctional drug addict and narcissistic family and had to ignore my own, Stripped of everything, micromanaged my every move, recorded calls, suspended my phone. I had so much before I met him and lost it all.. After I received deliverance from the dark forces that drew me into such horror.. God RELEASED ME. I moved away and God even released any grief or sorrow.. to the point where I don’t miss or desire to return to the vomit. When God releases you.. it is a whole different ball game! Love yourself

[dottiEpre]

I’m hear to testify that God has turned it around for me. My husband has been changed and it was all through God speaking directly to his heart through prayer, the Word and a Holy Spirit filled Christian counselor. There was a time He had no interest in counseling, respecting me or anything. Talking to Him wasn’t working anymore. I truly feel loved and valued again by my husband. Be constant in prayer ladies and I thank God for this video because I literally thought my husband was possessed and didn’t even know what to pray. He was covert. I listened to this video and it described the exact change in my husband. Stop talking and start praying against this Narcissistic demon. It was a long two years of pain and confusion for me before God restored my husband.

[dawntate]

Hi Kris, this is Dawn. I think I'm the Dawn that asked you the question that you made this video about. I just came across the video tonight - 2 years later. I've been divorced from him for a year and a half now. I just couldn't live with his craziness anymore. I know it wasn't Biblical reason but i was setting a horrible example for my daughter's of taking way too much in my marriage. I'm free and at peace most of the time now but still struggle sometimes. Thank you so much for what you do.

[ruthmacharia]

I left my narcissist husband Three months ago after 6years in marriage with 2 kids and this was the best decision I have ever made.Narcissts never change

[writer]

Yes, the confusion. I've been married to a covertly narcissist man for 5 years, and I didn't realize it until we had our firstborn. My husband is self-centered, sensitive, rageful, negative, arrogant, easily jealous, you name it (plus all the sweet stuff that makes me go "Ah, this is why I married him"). It took me physically leaving for him to fall off his pedestal and agree to therapy. The changes are slow, but I'm now strong and assertive, and my husband is more thoughtful and gentle towards our kids and me.... Thank you, Lord, indeed, for staying with me and my family all this time.

[katesims]

Doesn't have to be physical to be abuse. There is also financial and emotional abuse, possibly others. These are the 2 I know about. Been married 22 years and only found out recently that I'm living under these two. Would have left years ago if I'd realised.

[triplekids]

God’s timing is perfect, I was married 33 years to covert narc husband, God said too me put your trust in me, and on August 28/2015, I did, and on August 28/2020 I left all the toxic people in my life, I’m now on my healing journey, and I give God the glory!

[jennytaylor]

Amen! 33 years of covert-ness along with sadistic-ness. SO many lies, affairs etc. Etc. God and faith is the only thing that got me thru my chronic illness, surgery and seeing things OH SO clearly. Then I worked on me and my codependency issues while separated. We tried couples and individual counseling before and thru separation but it was clear he was never going to change. I waited and waited and prayed patiently for over a year. There was no choice but to pursue divorce. I just am sad for my children….I’m now in a much happier place and on the road to healthier day by day!! What she said is true - God doesn’t expect nor ask us to stay and be abused mentally OR physically!! I almost lost my soul so please put you and your children first before this happens. You will have a very hard road but in the end you will get your life back!

[miller]

The tantrum of a child is a perfect way to explain the state of mind a narcissist is in. They are content for a while with the lollipop 🍭 until you take it away.

[johenderson]

My husband doesn't even tell me he loves me and hasn't told me for years. No physical abuse but a fair amount of verbal abuse....not as much as he use to give. We just had our 40 anniversay and I can honestly say I haven't felt loved for 30 years. At the time of our anniversay I discovered narcissism on youtube. I am like mom or at least that is how I feel, and I am very tired of being the housekeeper. I want to be loved....not used. He has all 7 signs you stated in covert narcissist video. I care about him but I can honestly say I don't love him anymore. And my relationship with God has gone down hill for the last 40 years and I want God back in my life very much....I will have Him back!

[talshaharfamily]

I had a toxic wife and endured abuse for 16 years. I felt it was a duty to love her. I was literally blinded the whole time. She died and I remarried shortly afterwards where my 2nd wife showed me all the abuse I suffered. Literally scales fell off and I rushed to counseling.

I still have issues but God has been faithful.