Jordan Peterson: What to Do If You are Stuck in the Past?

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How can you tell that you are stuck in the past? How do you fix it? This is from Jordan Peterson’s last live appearances before his illness treatment. Taken from the third lecture of our 6 part series. These lectures are taken from Dr. Peterson's 12 Rules for Life Tour.

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[brianmags]

Depression comes from living in the past
Anxiety comes from living in the future
Peace comes from living in the present

[greydogedmdriver]

I constantly have regret cringe. I find myself thinking about and reliving the really bad, hurtful things I’ve said or done. Especially past relationships. I keep telling myself that it’s in the past, that they are life lessons and that I can do better.

[justamangoddamn]

I went back to school to finish my degree at 40+yrs old thanks to this man!

[seanmcclure]

This is me. Someone is actually, finally talking to me. I’m not ashamed that hearing him say exactly what I’m going through made me choke up. My memories go all the way back to high school. I am bipolar and I will catch myself cringing thinking of all the bad things that have happened to me. The good far outweigh the bad but are all that seem to be popping in my head.

[rawacoustics]

The Elephant Rope (Belief)

A gentleman was walking through an elephant camp, and he spotted that the elephants weren’t being kept in cages or held by the use of chains.

All that was holding them back from escaping the camp, was a small piece of rope tied to one of their legs.

As the man gazed upon the elephants, he was completely confused as to why the elephants didn’t just use their strength to break the rope and escape the camp. They could easily have done so, but instead, they didn’t try to at all.

Curious and wanting to know the answer, he asked a trainer nearby why the elephants were just standing there and never tried to escape.

The trainer replied:
“when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

[xfire]

I`m tormented by my past . Every negative experience in my life is rerun like a film over and over .

[patrickbateman]

This man has helped me through more in my life then I think he can even imagine.

[tomd]

One thing about growing up in the 90’s was you didn’t have the ability to search your phone and find people who were having similar problems. Here people give advice and maybe get a different perspective. I think that’s good for young people today. And everyone else too.

[michellemichelle]

One thing that helps is to change your regret into gratitude-
I have a hard time forgiving myself and relive the “what if” and “if only” scenarios but when I look at my past with more compassion love and understanding it turns into some forgiveness and love and mercy - it helps me to see that even though I can’t go back and change that choice that I can be grateful for the lessons that it’s helped me to learn and the person it’s shaping me into.

[lenBrill]

I'm 50. I find myself dwelling, thinking hard about things, and reliving the darkest parts of my life.
More and more, I find myself thinking of these bad times. It bothers me. I tell myself I'm living in the now and to stop obsessing over things that can't be changed.
Half an hour later, I unconsciously find my self in the past again.
I go as far back as childhood.
Frustrating

[Lunias]

I regret not studying, I regret mingling with the wrong people, I regret not appreciating someone who loved me, I regret being stupid, I regret being a loser, I regret living my young teenage years with no sense of self awareness

[zenstoryshare]

At 40+, I finally fulfilled my dream of finishing my degree! Huge thanks to this man.

[tomallen]

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” -Eckhart Tolle

[naseralshamsi]

I’m stuck in high school where I used to feel anxious daily since most of my classmates disliked me at that time. I was threatened all the time that I will be attacked at any second and won’t be able to defend myself+ I was already abused as a child so I didn’t feel safe most of the time and didn’t learn methods of how to defend myself. I lived in this situation for months until I graduated. This happened five years ago and I’m still stuck there. However, I know I’m stronger now. I survived this sh*t without anyone knowing about it even. For anyone going through hard time, you are capable of handling it. Trust me!

[diesfastest]

My problem is living in the past with all the good times, ppl that are no longer here etc………as it makes me smile it also makes me cry

[theunknown]

The prison that holds you captive. Has no walls.

[shibbidydoowop]

One thing that I've always found admirable is Peterson's breadth of vocabulary and the way he articulates concepts. It always clicks perfectly

[MrFredstt]

Just turned 23 and honestly I've been really struggling with coming to terms with a lot of things, one of those being too attached to memories and regrets of things I didn't do but should have done. This video has helped me some.

[leeoliver]

Many painful life experiences are the direct result of being abused in several ways, bullied, cheated, and so on from OTHER people.
People are the problem.
Choose your friends and acquaintances carefully. Discard those who would be mean spirited…and remember, don’t be too nice…

[tsbiyem]

It’s been years and i can never let go of the past. I hate myself for all of my past, it haunts me there isn’t one day where it hasn’t crossed my mind at least once since. How can you move on from events that are awful? Awful things you’ve done ? Hurt people who didn’t deserve it? I care more and more everyday as if that’s humanly possible. Thing is i can’t be sure i’m willing to live with it forever and i haven’t been able to before leading to awful moments. It’s hard.