5 Signs You Want To Be Single But Your Heart DOESN'T

We've noticed a lot of comments where some of you have mentioned being happy being single. In this video, we're here to ask, what if you aren't?

Have you ever uttered the words, "I want to be single," only to feel a lingering sense of dissatisfaction deep within? What if your heart isn't entirely fulfilled and happy with your single status?

To help you understand yourself better, in this video, we delve into the reasons why you might secretly crave something more and explore the signs that point to a mismatch between your desires and your happiness.

#relationship #love #single

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

We've noticed a lot of comments where some of you have mentioned being happy being single. In this video, we're here to ask, what if you aren't?

[NarcSurvivor]

You feel like something is missing in your life. You yearn for someone to love and hold you. For someone who you can love and share a vulnerable side of yourself with. That is a sign your heart wants to be loved.

[oriontherealironman]

I like the idea of a relationship more than the actual relationship.
That's why I'm single.

[sally.g.]

Some of us are rationalizing as to "why it's best for us to stay single, " but deep down is the fear of being unlovable that is holding us back...

[Yokubasu]

The hardest thing is wanting a relationship, being really lonely, but not being able to get into one and having zero hope of getting one. People say "just work on yourself and put yourself out there, also don't be afraid of rejection", but when you struggled with depression and social anxiety all your life, doing anything of that feels harder than rocket science and scarier than the darkest and deepest void

[sbplankton_]

I've had a Enough 😡😡😡
Timestamp

0:00 intro
0:41 Conflicting emotions
1:16 Craving Independence
1:54 Emotional exhaustion
2:41 Lack of personal fulfillment
3:18 Desire of exploration
4:32 final thoughts


(A Nightmare before Christmas movies Refercenes ) 🙂🙂🙂

[CyberHermit]

After 31 years I realized I want something completely unrealistic, which is someone who actually loves me and who I am instead of loving what I can do and how I can provide. That's why I'm single.

[anonymous_g]

As an 17-year old Autistic Male, this is so relatable, I think this is a result of us having a fearful Avoidant attachment style from childhood, particularly from emotional bullying and alienation from school.

[lilhuntress]

it's like y'all know exactly what I'm going through in this very moment 😭 thank you

[alexsimonenko]

Love and affection.
Care and Compassion.

It's all most people really want, myself included.
But then there's the expectation vs. the reality of a real relationship.

[SaganTheKhajiit]

For me it's the opposite. I don't want to be single, but my heart wants to be single. I didn't want it to be this way, but I feel so happy with my life by myself and every time I try to bring someone else into my life it feels like I'm splitting my time between being happy and being in a relationship. For my entire life I convinced myself that I just haven't found the right person, but in recent years I have decided that I need to stop looking. If said person show up: great! And if they don't: I'm already happy by myself, no reason to change a team that's winning.

[AloneRacecar]

As someone who has been in and out of relationships. I just want to say that there’s nothing wrong with choosing to stay single if a relationship isn’t convenient to you (anymore). But yeah it definitely comes to a point as to whether or not you want to have that kind of special companionship. Especially when we’re talking about filling in an empty space and whatnot.

[fafnir]

Guess 4 out of 6 signs you mentioned applied to myself

-craving independence
-conflicting emotions
-emotional exhaustion
-lack of personal fulfillment

For someone like me who has a low self esteem it really hits hard for me

[nobodyblahblah]

The idea of being in a relationship hits so different to me. I love imagining myself being in a relationship which felt so freaking unreal like reading a book character's love life. But in reality I'm not feeling I'm into being in a relationship. I watched your "why higly intelligent people struggle with love" video and that felt so much like me. And I wanna add another reason for it. I'm afraid of being in a relationship. Because of the relationships that I saw, the relationship that my parents shared etc. And I'm freaking out when think of being in a relationship because I feel like it's gonna turn bad whatever you do or whoever you are in relationship with.

[Susaryp]

I think my biggest fear when it comes to not being single is having someone be willing put their whole life and happiness on the line to be with you. It feels like a resposibility I'm not sure I can handle. I mean I bearly keep myself afloat most of the time so what grounds do I have to even help others in this area? Looking at my parents I just wonder how much they've been through and if I would have the courage to go on the same journey with someone.

[UrgentCabbage]

My heart literally aches about having a future partner to spend my life with but in reality I am content with being single. It's such a struggle but I have learned that just because my heart wants something, I have to listen to my brain and wait patiently for the right person to come and not rush into things for the sake of my emotions. I've learned this the hard way but I don't regret it because now I have the mindset that if I wait patiently, in the end both my heart and my brain will be happy :)

[everfaithfulunHim]

I've always been happiest single. Relationships are cool ... until they're not.

[theconfusedvampire]

I talk about how happy I am single, because, I feel head over heels for someone that I couldn't be with. Going on dates with strangers from the internet after that feels so wrong. I'd rather wait for the right one to show up naturally even if that's never. I couldn't give up that feeling in a relationship...

[GachaRobloxianAndrew]

I'm in college, and I am still in my Freshman year. I have seen many of my friends in relationships, even a few of them engaged. Whenever I hear my co workers talking about their lives and their relationships, I just feel this sense that I am missing out on things. I've always questioned it, but this channel is helping me understand. Thanks for your helpful videos!

[robbiewilliams]

I was kinda shocked once I saw this notification, because it’s exactly what I’ve been going through. I had let a couple failed relationships completely warp my perspective about being in one. Now I see the bigger picture so thanks for giving me clarity about it.