5 Signs You're Dating a Toxic Person (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness.

They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence.

I’m not going to let that happen to you.

In today’s video, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dating a toxic person so you know exactly what to watch out for…

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[lodiedodiee]

I told my ex let's talk and he said "here you go trying to argue" I was like wtf...

[tanzimnawar]

The most scary ones pretends to be the best/nicest only to reveal his true colors later, when u r most vulnerable around him.

[LilyBeth]

If you feel like you're in a toxic relationship, please get out of it. I stayed in one for a long time because I hoped things would change and I wanted this person and all their good qualities to shine through so we could have a healthy relationship. That person was sometimes there, but I'd have to endure all the pain, manipulation and anxiety of everything you've mentioned in this video. It really took a tole on my mental health and after the relationship ended it took me a while to feel like myself again and feel strong. Please don't let anyone break you. I started to see the world from his perspective and not my own.

[afshah.]

From time to time I come back to this video to evaluate my relationships. Notes for myself...
5 indicators of toxic people
1. In an argument they look to inflict damage (try to protect themselves), not solve problems. Matt gave an example of how they behave revengefully like in a scorpion mode.
2. They treat everything like it's an attack. When you come to them about something you are not happy with in a civil and rational way and choose your words carefully, you'll find they will meet you with aggression.
3. They make you the root of all evil whenever there's a problem. They become very good manipulators. They can make you believe and convince you things are your fault that have nothing to do with you. Proximity is power. Those accusations, their belief system will eventually get through you. You will begin believe that and it will erode your confidence overtime.
4. They'll show you the most love when you are hurt. When you are at your lowest ebb and they realise they have broken you completely, then they'll give you love because at that point they feel they are safe to do so. Because in the moments when you're feeling strong, they're feeling weak.
5. They get uncomfortable with your success. They will belittle your ambitions. They make you feel unworthy even when you are doing well. They will try and denigrate what you have achieved because they prefer you when you are weak. They get either aggressive and viscous by making you feel guilty or they get detached as if they don't care and get distant from you.
Love you Matt ❤❤

[nookiearts]

The sad part of this video is that realizing that you are the toxic one. :(


Whoa! Thank you for all the support guys, still struggling but we'll get there! :)

[bumblefaith]

If he tells you that you just want to argue when your trying to resolve an issue, dump him.

[irishdeetalks]

A toxic narcissist, run as far as you can, they will damage your mental and emotional health. X

[natubb]

3 things to remember:

- A toxic person doesn’t necessarily mean a bad person
- This applies to every relationship, not just romantic ones
- This also applies to yourself. You can be the toxic one and you may not realise.

Thanks for this video Matt!

[YouCantHandleDisz]

Toxic people also hate confrontation, they don't like to hear what they did wrong.They’ll make you feel guilty for bringing it up and end with lines to make you be quiet or act like that they don't care to weaken your arguement. Id always call out on his bs but was made to feel like I was the one doing and bringing the 'drama' when actually he was deliberately hurting me! Made me feel pathetic for feeling upset, and was more focused on ending conversations acting like he doesn’t care! Toxic people avoid being told off, than to actually make things right. They’ll use this twisting tactic to make YOU feel like you're the crazy one. Remember that your feelings are valid no matter what! Never let anyone devalue you in any kind of way. I learnt this the hard way, even after everything he simply just never gave a shit. This video is so important, the affects of a toxic person really is unhealthy and can fuck you in the head. I promise that someone that truly loves you will always try with you listen to you and try to make things right so that ends meet. They would never put you in a situation of doubt or where you have to question your self worth!

[firstladyqueen]

1)In a disgreement they try to inflict damage/sweep things under the rug.
2) they treat everything like an attack no matter how logical and calm you are-now you're walking on eggshells
3) they make you the root of all evil-in denial and blame you instead.
4) they will show you the most love when you're hurt-cause they cannot stand when you're happy, confident, strong and secure
5) they hate your success
Wow well my lifemate just happens to be the 1st 3. 😕😞
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[hawleyrigsby]

“I don’t care how strong your frame of reference is. I don’t care how strong your confidence is. Those comments, those accusations, their belief systems will eventually get through.”

This. So much this.

[nd]

Toxic people don’t always show love when they have broken you. Mine just walks away.

[Nina-vvev]

They also pick fights & get triggered easily

[bienevanhuizen]

I believe there is also a number 6 and 7:
6: That person puts his own needs first at all time. He does not value or respect your boundaries, he has little understanding for your needs and gets you to tend his, even though he gives little. He gives just enough for you not to walk away and invest even more. (He might even blame you for not taking good care of him, being selfish or needy.)
7: He pulls away: he is emotionally unavailable. This leaves you in the cold. It's like giving a silent treatment. It is very damaging. Withholding someone from love, attention or affection is one of the most toxic things to do. It is at the root of self loathing, self doubt and emotional instability. Again, a person may give you just enough to stay in the relationship but punishes you when things don't go his way using this 'tool'.
Both these signs give you a feeling of being schizophrenic. It leaves you so flabbergasted that you don't know what hit you. It happens so skillfully and sneaky that it's even hard to put a finger on: if you were to try and tell another person it would seem ridiculous. That's how deep this toxic goes: it is not visible for the naked eye.

[katjean]

I didn't even realize that I was loving a man like that, but when Matthew said walking on egg shells, that was an eye opener for me.

[vivienoblivion]

The moment when you realise the relationship you have is exactly this.

[haleytruslow]

I just broke up with my boyfriend over some of these reasons. I was sad on the night that I did it but honestly after that I have felt such a huge sense of relief. I know that I made the right decision and I am so much happier without him. I'm grateful for the relationship because I learned so many things from it. I should never have to ask someone to show me he loves me. I should never have to feel like I'm walking on egg shells when I talk to him about an issue. I should not have to be afraid of bringing up an issue because he will blow it out of proportion and make it about something totally different. I did everything I could to keep our communication open and to bring up issues just like you said, not as an attack, but "Hey, this is an issue, how can we fix it so that we're both happy?" I even said flat out "I am not attacking you" but he just always took it as an attack. I'll stop ranting but I am so relieved because that relationship was a dark cloud over my life and I am excited to move on

[thisispi]

Truly toxic person doesn’t show love even when you’re hurt. They take pleasure from it. They have no empathy.
And all people who have empathy show love when someone is hurt and that doesn’t make them toxic. However they also show love when you don’t hurt.

[outsidernews]

A TOXIC PERSON:
1. Inflicts damage rather than resolves issues. It’s the toxic person’s protective mode.
2. Treats everything like an attack by you. Toxic person is defensive. It feels like you are walking on eggshells.
3. Blames it all on you. You are the root of all evil. Never admits his/ her fault and never brings positive changes in him/ her. Good manipulators.
4. Shows you love only when you are broken down by him/ her. Toxic person feels safe to show you love once he/ she has won.
5. Uncomfortable with your achievements. Berates you (not the same as constructive criticism), aggressive, or becomes distant from you and gives you less love!

[narimaneamour]

the problem is that I feel tired due to my toxic relationship Idont even wont to get into another relationship because iam feeling exhausted