Why a Narcissist Can Never be a Good Parent

Master Coparenting with a Narcissist:

Chapters
00:00 introduction

01:15 Master co parenting with a Narcissist

01:44 You realise This when you get married to a Narcissist !

02:39 What does that mean ?

04:03 Narcissistic parents hate parenting

05:26 I was left & abandoned by my mother !

06:38 My mother to this day doesn't truely acknowledge this !

07:11 Why do they have children if they hate parenting?

08:08 They are horrible parents !

09:40 They think parenting is very simple

10:37 The actual victims are cornered !

[truthmerchant]

They regard children as a possession but they really resent the maintenance required of said possession.

[pkgpiyo]

The most painful feeling in the world is when you realise that your narcissist mother never truly loved you.

[louisanow]

Narcissists can’t stand anyone else ever coming first before themselves - even briefly. Same reason they’re never ever a good true friend or partner.

[debrapalmer]

They want all the attention on themselves not the children. And they resent the children for it.

[streaming]

You forgot to mention they're full of self pity. They wrong someone but suddenly they're the victim. Woe is me is all you hear from them until they've convinced their friends of this distorted crap.

[RonSafreed]

Also I have noticed that they like the kids as babies & children/kids until they are 12-13 years of age!! When a kid becomes a teenager, they "leave them alone" & teach them nothing about becoming an adult & how to survive out in that big/cruel world & that world is definitely known for its pouring rain!! Let them experience the "school of hard knocks"!! Oh narcissists want kids to go through the school of hard knocks!!

[jasonhaynes]

I've often said this many times...to a narcissist parent, the child is nothing more than a trophy for them to show off to others.

[susanrarey]

That completely describes a childhood surrounded by two narcissistic parents and all narcissistic siblings.

[kryssysmith]

The realization that when a narcissist says "I love you, " they actually mean "I love what you're doing for me and being my supply, " was a difficult and confusing aspect for me to grasp. Growing up, I experienced profound neglect, to the extent that they (the people who brought me up) would even forget to pick me up after basketball practice. It was an overwhelming feeling of being forgotten, as I often found myself having to remind them to come get me or make the necessary arrangements myself. This upbringing left me grappling with understanding genuine expressions of love and the true intentions behind them.

[paulakyle]

I too was raised by two narcissists. You described the confusion, deprivation and private hell a child goes through perfectly. Thank you, Danish.❤️🙏

[itstime]

My parents are narcissistic. I was diagnosed with a brain tumour at 16 years old. The tumour was malignant, on the Amygdala part of the brain where stress is processed. I’m sure it was a result of my relationship with my parents. All through my childhood I had extremely painful headaches everyday but I was never acknowledged as having them. By the time I got to about 9 years old, I gave up telling anyone the pain I was in as I just assumed that was life having to live in constant agony. Once the tumour was removed, I was then berated by my dad as being absolutely fine and nothing wrong with me, if I ever reacted, he’d put me into a headlock and call the police, this actually happened to me only days after coming out of neurosurgery.
I then was diagnosed with epilepsy which has ever since been destroying my life with gran mal seizures every 4 weeks. My parents then used the epilepsy to tell everyone I was going mad and dangerous. They called the police on me multiple times and called in social workers, the police had me arrested on multiple times even whilst I was still in bed, the social workers believed every word my parents who were both teachers at the time, and eventually made me homeless 3 years after the brain operation at 19 years old. All because I started pointing out their dysfunctional ways.

19 years on and I’m still receiving the same treatment. I’m not allowed near my family and I’m never helped with my epilepsy. The mad thing is everyone thinks they’re the kindest people on earth. My mother helps at a food bank once a week and my father helps at the church, so there is no way on earth anyone will ever believe my side of the story other than God. The beauty of this is I had a massive spiritual awakening at 25 years old. I found God and I was told by the divine to have no fear. I saw a vision of the future. The vision was karma for people like my parents being exposed through the lose of their ego. I’m still very confident this will one day happen on a global scale. Maybe this 8th of April solar eclipse might be related? Who knows, but I’m very happy with the 5 dimensional consciousness I’m now in and the beauty of knowing we are all loved by something greater than our families.
God bless you all. You’re not alone x

[JesuisLord]

“For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice”

[fagbamilabukola]

They lack sense of responsibility and empathy

[zmnmzgc]

I am still a single parent even though I am divorced from my ex. My son always asks to talk to me even if he is at his dad’s house because he knows I am his parent. When my son is alone with me, he tells me that I am the only one he can trust and talk to. It makes me cry when I am alone because wish he wasn’t going through this as a child.

[ingodwetrust]

I lived this! Painful knowing my children had a father with no love. A burden, an object absolutely. He ignored his son as he stood next to him while
saying "Dad, Dad, Dad..." painful to watch. Daddy only had corrections and scolding for his daughter. I tried to give her the best attention.

You are so right. Narcissistic should never marry and never have children.

[Candace-Hooker]

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

[carparthero]

having a narcissist parent is horrible because it's an abuse that society ignores, and damages a child for the whole life.

narcissistic parents don’t do what’s best for their children - they do what’s best for themselves.

they see their children as extensions of themselves. they don’t recognize their children’s feelings unless it matches their own.

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[kdhrjrj]

Hey Danish! I have good news! I got my daughter back from him!!! She is so happy in my arms with her sister! I'm so happy and I thank God with all my heart! ❤❤❤

[millertime]

You’re 100% correct! They don’t have the patience or empathy to truly care. They don’t coparent, they counter parent. Thank you 🙏

[CCelia]

❤The reason they are always giving money!!! They have nothing to give from themselves❤