Narcissistic Fathers Never Take Accountability

[dr_kaschabrigittelippert]

Absolutely true. My father suggested a psychiatric clinic when I tried to communicate how he affected my whole life (and I am 64 yrs old now!) by his behavior.

[kathleendinsmore]

I sure wish I could have heard this information years ago with regards to my mother. Sometimes outside validation is really needed because it helps to confirm what you already know is true!

[Goldenheart]

This is one of those hard truths and conversations that is heartbreaking for a mother to have with her child. Knowing that there is nothing you can do to change it makes it even more difficult. As adults it's difficult to process that our spouses are not capable of change, but thankfully we can walk away and go no contact. For our children this is less of an option. All we can do as moms is to teach our daughters to love themselves and remind them how much they are loved by us and others.💛 Such an important clip Lisa on a 💔 lesson that they need to understand, so they can learn to protect themselves and begin to heal. Open communication, non-judgment of the narc parent and creating a safe place seems to help. 🙏❤️✨🕊️

[sparklingloveandlight]

Lisa! 💯 I'm no contact with my narcissistic father. I've written him notes, he tried to give me money for Christmas. He wants in my life but won't take accountability or change. I've tried

[sturobertson]

Yikes Lisa.. One of the sadder things I've learned after over 2 years listening to you is my dad has N traits.. All my life I, and everyone else in the fam just called it "grumpy".
Vv difficult to get my head and heart round it. Nonetheless, I am still grateful to you.. You've given an explanation to what we've all been puzzled about for years... Tho I am now understanding "how its affected me"
Cheers Lisa. All the best from Stu in England 🙏☀️🙏

[sparklingloveandlight]

Mine says "Why can't you remember the good??" I don't remember much good 😕

[CherbearAnn]

Very, very true indeed. I’ve tried and most recently he said he didn’t know what condescending meant, although he ‘ knows’ everything else and one ups us on every little thing. Thank you Lisa!!! You have helped me tremendously.

[aaloha]

No Narcissistic parent wil take responsibility for their actions. They Narc-splain everything. My mom Narc-splained ‘why’ she told me my whole life I was my fathers child and tried to convince me that that was the reason ‘why’ he could punch me each & every day ‘for fun’. Fact is, if he could act out his punching ‘stress release’ urges on me (while laughing like crazy person) he wouldn’t beat her or throw her out in the back yard for ‘buying the wrong nuts’ (seriously). My mom also Narc-splained ‘why’ she body shamed me for life and always told me I would be morbidly obese like my Indonesian aunts who survived WWll Japanese Internment camps, just ‘because I had loose skin’ as a baby.
Fact is, my sister looked like her: Caucasian and I look like my dad’s family: Indonesian-European.
Fact is, their mental health issues & insecurities had nothing to do with me as a child or as a human being in general. 🙏🏼
Kept this to myself for decades, I needed to share it. 🙏🏼 Thanks for ‘listening’ 💕

[age]

When I tried having a heart to heart with my neglectful mother on why I have so much anger and resentment, I brought up how she let me stay over with older men when I was 13 and her reply was, “You were a good con when you were younger, ”.

[teresafraser]

Nor do I feel my Mother had the notion of what her hurtful demonstration of abuse had upon me

[Themaxim]

Very true ♥️ and i think IT applies to all narcissists

[erockfreedom]

This is a painful truth for me. He faked it for the better part of a decade in my adult life. It's so painful because they've effected me, but also his other 2 children (one who's no longer around--and a lot more to that). He approaches things in terms of blaming and shaming -- he would never be able to switch that paradigm with me, to have an "open, honest, compassionate mutual conversation, " like you said. Same with me mother, they enable each other, and it's more and more a moot point in terms of figuring out 'which one is the narcissist' ... They both are on the Cluster B spectrum, at least their behaviors to a frequency and *degree* that I find, frankly, horrifying. They want me to stay stuck. Of course he would adamantly try to prove otherwise to anyone who will listen.

[abbykendrick]

My narcissist father actually blamed me at 7-8 for completely abandoning me. Something in my personality .. would tell me all the things wrong with me at 7-8 years old that justified his leaving, never contacting me and moving away without telling me.

[yourworstfan]

I agree. They will sometimes express some vague regret, but it's always very sparse or devoid of details, and typically the general category of thing they sort of regret (without apologizing) isn't even the same category of thing that hurt you.

[tanikawright]

My mom’s sperm donor, the man who knows nor asks about my life, tells me that I have issues with men when I’ve tried to discuss how his absence, manipulation, and inability to be honest affected me .

The audacity.

t’s for this reason that I do not talk to him and I literally get nauseous discussing and semblance of a relationship that this I should have with him. Just a few things that he has does to convince me that he’s total incapable:

- Wanting my to wish him fathers day
- Telling me I drop the ball in developing a relationship with his son which he actually blocked because I won’t have a relationship with him
- Brags to me about gifts his girlfriends daughters give him
- Offered to take me out to lunch only ti manipulate me into paying
- Lies about no having other children … he has at least 4 but only “claims my brother and myself” lucky us
-overall, lies about our relationship to his relatives and drives by blaming me for the distance


I truly despise him and wonder if karma is in his future

[HalloweenQueen]

Nope he never will take accountability for his actions 😢😢😢😢😢😢ever

[LucasCarroll]

Keep small talk. Totally a defense mechanism but one I developed with out realizing why.

[angelnative]

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