How To Cure Shyness | Russell Brand

What is shyness? What do you think about shy people? Are YOU one of those shy people?!
So many questions!

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[TheRealTommyJoe]

Silence can actually be a sign of confidence, being completely okay with yourself and not needing to prove yourself to others

[margaretmattina]

I spent my whole youth, right up until adulthood, being painfully shy. It was horrible... I missed out on normal socializing, parties and even was too shy to put my hand up in class to answer a question. Then, one day, when I was about 20 or 22 years old, I was given the best advice by someone.... They told me that 99% of the people you meet are much more interested in their own life and problems, and after you've had one of your painful interactions (or embarassing moments), they will most likely not give you a second thought as they walk away. They won't be thinking about some stupid thing you might have said or done. They have their own life and this attitude really stuck with me for the rest of my life (I'm 61 now). After all, we're not so important that everyone we meet will want to analyze and criticize us for the rest of their day. I hope this little bit of advice works for someone out

[evltwin]

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[kreri]

I have been a very shy and socially anxious person for as long as I can remember and so many times beaten myself up about it. Although I often wish I was a social butterfly who can meet new people and be in all sorts of social situations without feeling like it's a great mission and get completely drained after, I have come to realize that shyness isn't all that bad in many situations. I've learned to accept the fact that I will always be a shy and introverted person. It has given me some good things in life. Because I'm always so aware of my own behaviour and thoughts, I've also gotten really good at analyzing others. I can very easily read people and their emotions from small subtle things. I also tend to absorb their energy very easily. This is something I think goes for a lot of shy people. We tend to become very empathic toward the world around us. We build up a great moral compass and tend to care a little extra about the small things in life which by others are overlooked. Studying very social and extroverted people I've noticed that they often lack the same ability to truly understand others and their emotions, as they often seem not to pay that much attention to their own or other people's behaviour. All generalised of course, it obviously doesn't apply to everyone.

[Tilly]

If you've been rejected since you were a child, you're hard-wired to expect rejection. Which hurts. I've managed to change that thinking to an extent with therapy, and expect to change myself more, but it may always be a part of me.

[DrummerLittleBrother]

Im shy because I got bullied when growing up, no more no less. Keeping my guard up.

[ern]

Introverts will think about the consequences of their actions before doing anything socially. This is a big difference between self-absorption, and self -obsession as those will have no problem talking about themselves endless. Shyness is usually a product of low self esteem and not product of a big ego!!

[Keepinitreel]

If you're not loud and confronting these days people always think you're shy.

[ssafiaa]

With shyness, yes, there is self obsession, but let's think about why. We are receiving subtle and overt messages from the people around us about how we fit in. If the people around you treat you as if you are inferior to them, how are you supposed to respond? We can all try to take the moral high ground and think that we are all equals, but it's different when you actually experience it. I don't really think the self obsession of shy people is self imposed, it's forced on them.

[sp-gwzl]

I was born shy. How can you be shy when your 2 years old ? My Mom always said I used to hide under the table. I was always self aware. ☺ Telling someone who is shy not to be shy is like saying don't be yourself.😕 Why is it acceptable to be loud ? What's so bad about shyness ? It's like a dirty word. Yeah your shy so what ? We are all different it's that's just fine . BTW shy people aren't shy around everyone. 😄 That's my very shy and humble opinion 💕 there is a gene responsible for shyness js ☺

[ossen]

*When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.*

[truegirlanna]

Shyness is the exact opposite of being “self-absorbed” or desiring some “attention” or “praise” from others...it is ACTUALLY precisely caring too much or being fearful of what others think or say about you. It is a fear of rejection or being treated like crap because of something you did or said.

Shy people are some of the most broken down and mistreated people I’ve known. They have had pretty messed up situations or people in their lives who have pushed them down, left them out, and taken their self-confidence in the process.

I love shy people. They are some of the kindest, smartest, and overall most relatable and humble individuals I’ve ever met.

[Simonknowsall]

Shyness is nice and shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to (c) Morrissey

[PickerLeech]

I just get bored of peoples small talk and I'm aware that I'm pretty crap at chipping in on nonsense conversations that I don't care about. And I have no wish to convince myself that I should.

[PfEMP]

Is it self-absorbed to want to be accepted by your environment? ... Bc I think that's a much more prevalent reason for shyness. Shy people usually open up when they know they're safe to do so - when they are around close friends or when they've had the chance to get to know a new acquaintance for an extended period of time. So really, it's self-protection and a coping mechanism (as others say below) to avoid being exposed and judged and ostracised.
And this is driven by previous experiences of that sequence of events happening.

[staceychance]

I think there is a difference between
being shy - real physical symptomatic social anxiety - (and or) just being an introvert.

[jonathanryals]

If you are feeling shy, try slipping into something more comfortable like a open bathrobe. You have something right there to talk about, it's an excellent icebreaker.

[glpjr]

My late wife was very introverted, and anything but shy. I, on the other hand, am both introverted and shy, but will readily overcome it and walk into any situation fearlessly, though on the inside I may be dying.

[jimmiebarfield]

Being SHY is just that you a AWARE of your surrounding and in TUNE with your spiritual being. Once you learn to embrace your inner SHYNESS only then you will learn that you are RARE among the human race only then can you release the part of your spirit that BLOSSOM like a LOCUST FLOWER🌹

[ninnithecat]

Shyness to me is about being overly sensitive and afraid about how other people are going to impact you and how you are going to feel about it. It is an overwhelm of emotions and emotions can be scary. So then you avoid the situations and the shyness becomes worse. I don't think it has too much to do with self obsessing. Because many people who are loud are also self obsessing. If someone tells you that you are talented and beautiful, and you blush, that's really cute. But the person who experience it can in an instant become overwhelmed with anxiety. I've seen several people overcome shyness, and they usually become someone negative, like the opposite, really loud narcissists. To me, shyness is a non problematic trait to have. It's good karma. Painful, but so innocent :)