8 Simple Steps to Overcome Shyness!

If you want to learn how to overcome shyness and social anxiety, this video is for you! If you are a girl or a guy and want to stop being shy or even a little bit awkward, we can help you through it. Enjoy the video!

Sources:

Painfully Shy

Varieties of Shyness in Adolescence and Adulthood

Shyness: Development, Consolidation, and Change.

Why the Most Effective Solution to Shyness Isn’t Greater Self Confidence

How to Overcome Social Anxiety

Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety

Thanks to Tristan Reed (writing), Troy W. Hudson (VO), HowlingCreations for helping to create this video!

[HumansOfVR]

*_Just want to clarify that being an introvert doesn't mean you are shy_*

[FireHaxrd]

1. Make a fear scale. Use it gradually to come out of your shell.
2. Decipher your relationships. You can be Secure, Anxious-avoidant, Anxious-ambivalent, or Disorganized.
3. Familiarity with unfamiliarity. Practice going to new places. (Though I personally disagree with this one. I am much less shy in new environments.)

4. Coin your phrase. It's a 'catchphrase' that helps you get through the intro of a conversation.
5. Direct your attention outward. Don't be self-adsorbed.
6. Rearrange your expectations. Helps you develop your ideal self that gives you something real to look forward to.
7. Conquer one new challenge. Invest you time and energy into one single challenge.
8. Eliminate your scapegoats. Figure out what habits you use to protect yourself, and then get rid of them.


Please put the list in the description to save us a lot of time.

[ossen]

- Work on self esteem
- Test your boundaries
- Practise socialising

[tammy]

Another great video. On focusing your attention outward, if you are the type who worries what will people think; am I looking, walking, behaving like I should... Well know this.. people are probably not even paying that much attention to those things that you are worried about. They are also too busy wondering what others are thinking about them. And I would say the use of the word shy is really more unconfident. I think we like to use that word because it feels safer and for girls it may even seem cutesy but it really is about not feeling confident or good enough. Something that has always helped me is knowing most people are feeling the same way. We are more alike than different. Relax, breath and know you are ok just the way you are. People will respect you when you are ok with who you are. 💕

[carmeyever]

I enjoyed watching this. Is applies to a ton of things for me. The desire is there to do what I dream of achieving but so much hesitation, self doubt and criticism over the years has made little hills look like mountains.

[sabrinaderose]

One of the best ways to start changing your behavior and stay motivated throughout the process is to gamify it.
I’ve come up with a few games for you to play that will help you start being a more social person.


1. The 60 second game

The first is called the 60 second game. Within 60 seconds of going into an event, coffee shop, anywhere, you’re going to go up and say hello to someone.
If you decide later you’re done saying hello and would like to use a different phrase, that’s fine. But the point of this game is to beat your anxiety by taking action before it takes root.


Overtime, this game will desensitize you from having any type of approach anxiety and you’ll be able to strike up a conversation with anybody in no time.
2.The phone game
If you see someone using a phone or see someone reading a book you can say, “what kind of phone is that? I’ve been thinking about switching for a long time”. Or you can say, “what book are you reading? I’m looking for something good to read”.
Do that 3 times in 24 hours.
Just like the first game, this will desentize you from having social anxiety. Over time, playing any one of these games (and hopefully all 3) will lead you to becoming that social butterfly that’s been dormant for years.

[doriancroatia]

I wanna make friends so bad but nobody's interested or are always too busy when I try to talk to them or when I try to invite them to my place or hang out with them..Even my wider family.

[gokulpraveen]

My father was an extroved person he likes to make friends usually go out hang with them no problem for him. But i am opposite i feel shy to talk difficulty in making conversation and avoid social interaction

[aland]

Learn that everyone have bad and good things so you will be able to be confident .

[huytinnguyen]

1, make a fear scale 2, decipher your relationships 3, familiarity with unfamiliarly 4, coin your phrase 5, direct your attention outward 6, rearrange your expectations 7, conquer one new challenge 8, eliminate your scapgoats

[labradormcgraw]

If I were a wealthy man,
Such things I'd give to thee:
All gauges and guises
Of umpteen surprises,
And wealthy I'll someday be.


If I were a clever man,
Such things I'd build for thee:
All manner of modes
Of humble abodes,
And clever I'll someday be.


If I were a travelling man,
Such things I'd bring to thee:
All features and faces
Of faraway places,
And travelled I'll someday be.


If I were a braver man,
Such things I'd promise thee:
All valour in verses
Of tethering curses
Will someday be set free.

[prestressed_courses]

Once I'll reach level 10 and obtain new friend - Death.

[sportif]

here's several things to try
Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step in solving an issue is to understand why you have it.
Be comfortable with yourself - this makes it easier when you are with others.
Challenge youself - you will gain confidence by taking action - especially by doing things that stretch your limits.
(I read these and more ideas on sebs shyness tactic site )

[czarinajaynedannug]

the greatest info that i've had was by following the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - I found it the most helpful resource i've seen.

[raudelgomez]

Best detailed information, Shyness isn’t better than us!

[thebarbender]

Hey everyone... m scared to dance..i get extremely nervous in parties bt m going to kill this fear by joining a dance class..
Best of luck to everyone!

[marquezedwards]

The majority of people are either quite or shy at mainly school or don’t know how to start a conversation which proves that school is an environment for us students because the more fear you have the less life you live and to be unhappy and nervous I just wish the government could fix this it hurts me seeing someone by themselves it makes no sense how teachers don’t teach this instead of stupid poems or presentations instead we have to watch YouTube videos come on are u serious☹️☹️☹️☹️

[lightningchef]

Me wishing I watched this before 1st day of school

[erroreliminator.]

Do you think extroverts aren't also me, me, me and more me as well? LOL

[ritugupta]

Thanks a million for this video !!....Your new subscriber and follower 💙...you people are doing great work, MAY GOD BLESS YOU ♡