Single Mom Shame – Part 1

Do you think single moms are shamed?

[jalissaoneal]

I agree with adrienne! When my mother was pregnant with me, my father did a 180 and left, never looking back. She didn't let that fact bring her down. She held her head high, excited to be a first time mother, no matter how hard it was going to be, and I admire that about her. Happy mother's day to all those beautiful, hardworking, slay all day mommas out there!

[kk]

Why is there never a conversation about these guys being absent ? Or how come a man is never shamed for having multiple baby mothers . !?

[animec-dramaskpop]

To anyone who reads this HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!! to all the hard working mom's out there. Stay blessed 💖

[roberthanger]

people are so hard on single mothers and they forget they didn't do the baby alone, behind of every single mother has a single dad.

[tau]

the thought of being with a single mother depresses me

[selenahnjoloma]

Adrienne, it’s easier said than done. Pregnant moms are super sensitive and many people are incredibly insensitive.

[Chaptersaudio]

Sad, there is a double standard. My dad raised 11 kids all by himself as a single father. Ya'll if you could have seen the revolving door of women from the church and neighborhood stopping by with food for "single Pastor Jim"....it was ridiculous! Yet single Black mothers receive very different treatment from Black men. It's an unfortunate position to be in.

[Onur]

I expected that loni would get emotional since her mom raised her alone.

[javiaogletree]

I’ve dealt with single mom shaming a lot too. I’m mixed race (black) & a look a lot younger than I am and would get shamed a lot esp by middle aged white women. I used to always feel the need to explain myself by letting people know that I WAS engaged to my sons father, but left because he was abusive. Fast forward to now, my son is 3, I just got married and my husband is military so we are in a whole new city and people see my son & i then look at my ring or see all 3 of us together and I get treated COMPLETELY different. It’s really a shame. Being a single mom is hard, but you never know why a woman is in that situation. People are so quick to shame single mothers yet nobody ever says anything about the deadbeat fathers who are the reason for single mothers. Motherhood is beautiful weather you’re married or not.

[SuckerPunch]

Why is this even a question? Of course it’s hard for single moms. It happens too often. My mom was a single mom.

[cassidysatterfield]

Single mom here I was in church today and this older woman said I'm glad to.see young mom's in church, made me feel good ❤

[sydneywolfspeak]

I support a single mother in college, and she makes such great YouTube videos. I end up defending her a lot on her channel. Her haters are not stopping her grind. Start supporting all mothers period. Who cares!? The child is what matters. Single moms, engaged, married, and you should be proud to be a mom period. 🌷💕✊🏽 🤰🏽

[JessicaHeartsMakeup]

It’s absolutely awful that people shame single mothers especially other women because at any moment you too can become a single parent since your partner can leave you at any moment. I admire single parents since it means they are strong and independent. Happy Mother’s Day!

[MajesticMyronn]

I feel like sometimes single parents don't get the credit they deserve especially women of color... I have a mom and a dad but my mom was a mother and father to me for about 10 years and she still is raising me and people KNEW she was married because you're not gonna play me and treat me weirdly because I'm by myself... as long as I am RAISING MY CHILD then you should not be worried about me or who I'm with or if I'm with someone !

[danyielsays]

Having a baby is a blessing...its a brand new life/soul into this world🙏there's women who can't have kids or don't take care of them!

[OfficialRell_]

They Promote Single motherhood which is sad af😭 being a SINGLE MOTHER ISNT A GOOD THING

[victoriaoghuan]

Who else thinks loni looks bomb in bright colours 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💙💙

[TheJSmithBA]

The problem is there's not enough shame.

[zulyreyes]

Adrienne makes me so proud !!!! I love her !!!! Been a single mom for 8 years 9 counting my pregnant months, and I own it! My child lacks for nothing!! She’s a happy and stable child!

[SeychelleSunshine]

There are a lot of single mothers in my family, so I have a fair amount of insight to comment on the struggle from having been so close to it. There are multiple reasons, all of their stories are different. My mother was in each relationship long term and things were always great the first few years. None of the baby fathers proposed that I know of. She had the baby or babies and the relationship fell apart shortly after. Each man has left. She didn't choose to be a single parent. The fathers had a choice as well- to stay after they broke up. None of them did. It's not just her decision making that made her a single parent. If all of these men had chosen to stay and co-parent their children, she wouldn't be a single mom. Single mom shame is bullshit because it usually only blames the mother of the child. "You should have chosen a better man". And he should have been a better man. Plus, he could have been a great guy before they got pregnant and switched up- this happens WAY too much. "She should have been married before having kids." I get what the statistics say but there are way too many variables to judge these people off of statistics. Marriage doesn't guarantee a happy home or that he won't walk out and many of these women are also divorced- some because of abuse, also many are widowed. There is no one narrative about why someone is a single mom, plus shaming them obviously isn't helping to reduce the recurrence of them, so it's just unnecessary and cruel. Not to mention that single dads don't get the same stigmas, so it's often gender biased which helps no one, least of all the children who are usually with mama. I'm not saying to congratulate people who don't use any protection, knowing they don't have the resources to care for a child. Or people who just have kids all willy nilly. I'm just saying that societal shame does nothing for the mothers- and more importantly for the children we're claiming we care so much about in all this. It makes no sense for humans to relentlessly treat other humans like absolute garbage, and then wonder why everyone and everything is garbage. I get that it's idealistic to expect people to care about other people, but if we all actually did, the world and its children would be in a much better place. Shaming people who are already living out their "consequences" doesn't do anything but hurt people who are most likely already hurting. The children lose the most, so why are you further hurting kids is a good question.