Should You Give Your Ex A Christmas Gift?

Clay Andrews addresses a common question this time of year about whether or not it makes sense to give your ex a gift for Christmas.

There are some people who might think... NO! You shouldn't get your ex a gift! They broke up with you! Make them suffer and give them the cold shoulder.

On the other hand, there are people who believe that giving a gift may be a genuine expression of love that could melt their ex's heart and make them love them again.

As usual, the truth is not so simple and black and white...

[jjjzsquad]

How about if you just want to give it to them not expecting any outcome.

[dannycolwell]

No. They’re exchanging gifts with their monkeybranch or rebound.

[NurseTwoFeet]

My ex and I split up last week and I bought her a gift prior to us breaking up. As our break-up is so very recent, should I still give the gift?

[TR]

I have been preparing my exs Christmas gift for months now... But he broke up with me last month and he has a new girl already... 😢 I don't know what to do anymore

[seizuregirlllll]

My ex got my daughters gifts and myself gifts. Granted we have a son together, BUT it’s one thing to get my daughters gifts but me…and the gift being multiple candles which is something we used to make the L word…and he has a girlfriend. It’s just odd. I wouldn’t get him a gift, nope. But the candles came right and time for Friday night 😂

[ClayAndrews]

What do you think? Should you give your ex a gift?

[yuyink]

Hi Clay, one question please?...my ldr ex says that he truly loves his new (coworker) girlfriend (they are together now since 7 months, which is exactly the time we've been split up), but also he struggles with being too sexually attracted to me (which is one of the reasons he avoids me sometimes, he told me after having a same team conversation, after I kindly stopped him sexting me. (He reached out because he dreamt of kissing me in his sleep.) He said it's just his hormones, though he really likes me.). And then he always says he wants me to find my soulmate, so we can go on double dates.(I told him I'm planing to move to his city on the other side of the world next year.)
Is it possible that he truly doesn't have any feelings for me anymore and only for his new girlfriend??? He gave up on us because of the long distance (7 years on and off) and said if his new relationship won't workout, he totally would try with me again, if we live in the same area then. But he doesn't want me to wait, since this breakup with his rebound might never happen.... So has he really lost feelings for me even though we didn't have a fight or anything? (When i first reached out after 4 months no contact he considered maybe getting back together with me living there, but the next day he completely shut down that possibility, wanting to stay with his new girl and saying of course he felt that way a day ago, simply because of the memories I reminded him of)