Should I Contact My Ex To Wish Them Happy Birthday, New Year, Christmas, or Congratulate?

In this video, relationship expert, Coach Lee, answers the question, "Should I wish my ex a happy birthday, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanuka, Happy New Year or congratulate them on an accomplishment in their life such as graduating, getting a promotion or starting a business?"

Should I contact my ex on his or her birthday?

Coach Lee explains if it will make things better or worse if you contact your ex on his or her birthday or on a holiday. If you are in no contact and are wondering if you should make an exception to contact your ex on their birthday or another special day, be sure to watch this video all the way through. This also applies for Smart Contact and Limited Contact during Christmas, birthdays, and other holidays.

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[CorporateQueen]

No contact is no contact. Give them the thoughtful gift of your loss..

[Janeintheok]

I'm a person of faith. Going no contact is easier for me, because I place the person in God's hands. I have faith that it will work out to the good for both of us.

[desecrator]

In general the rule of thumb is to do the exact opposite what your emotions dictate.

[signsignsign]

Today is my ex's birthday. I am giving her a nice gift of silence with a bow on top. I hope she likes it!

[joannab]

"The only way that your ex can know that they want your presence, is if they don't like your absence." 😂 Loved it!

[mscisland]

See this is the thing about breakups. If they leave you after all the thing’s you’ve done for them. That ex of yours never loved you to begin with. If they truly “Loved” you. Wouldn’t you think they’d still be with you, and you wouldn’t be watching this video. Your ex may have found someone else. Or they might go back to their ex. But just know that no matter what it might be. Your ex mind is always on you. They might show off the impression that “They are happy”, Or “They don’t need you because of their distraction” ( The rebound person ). You’re, and will forever be on her mind. It might take day’s, weeks, month’s, or even years before you hear from your ex again. But that doesn’t mean that they won’t ever reach out to you. Focus on yourself, and live your best life. Give them the break up, and give them the Best gift of all. Your absence. Silence speaks volume. Trust me. Good luck to you all.

[eliswerekio]

1. Respect the decision of a break up 2. He made the mistake of letting u go so its his own fault that he doesn't get the happy birthday wish

[ldm]

Never contact an ex. Give them the gift of your silence, especially on their special occasion.

[haleylynn]

No- the only reason to do so is because you want your ex back. And you’re looking for any excuse to talk to them. As hard as it may be to hear, someone who dumps you doesn’t want to hear from you.

[vainarrara]

You saved me from embarrassment. Thank you coach

[Alden]

I Believe ... in the power of absence. Reaching out/contacting an ex on their birthday or any other holiday is a lame excuse for reestablishing contact and can easily be viewed by one’s ex as exactly what it is: manipulative. The only gift he’ll be receiving from me on his birthday and Christmas (a day apart) is my absence ...The Sound of Silence.

[jasondelgado]

I think one thing that needs to always be mentioned in these videos is that... there’s a chance that your ex is absolutely confident in their decision and y’all just didn’t connect the way you thought you did and no amount of disconnect or absence is going to change the outcome of the relationship. I’m not saying this is what always happens but it needs to be said that this is a possibility because some people will hold on to their exes forever but sometimes it’s best to just let go...😪

[miegestag]

I've heard "Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I've also heard 'Out of sight out of mind'. I agree my friend, because I don't need closure.

[carolloraine]

Dont ruin your holidays with their nonsense!!

[damolaadeleke]

Please, guys don't ever wish your ex anything for any reason. Just cut ties and keep moving, speaking from experience and it doesn't put you in the best position trust me.

[DerMelodist]

Answer: No Contact. My ex has Christmas, New Years, and a birthday all coming up, but I am not contacting her. We even have our first date anniversary on New Year’s Eve/Day coming up. She broke up with me. She said she was sure about not getting back together with me. So, while I improve myself, let her reach out if she’s going to change. My victory is getting myself back and ending this year with freedom from this year’s relationship. Thanks coach!

[redshadlizard]

I was thinking about this today. We loved each other for a year and have been apart for a year. She's been with a new guy for a few months. I was crafting a Merry Christmas email tonight. Deleted the draft. Thanks, Lee.

[Faithplayer]

"Getting your ex back is largely dependent on your understanding and knowledge of how to react in certain situations and what to expect." Truth to be told. Thanks!

[traviswepfer]

I like your blunt demeanor. People need that, in my opinion.

[simplicitytrading]

Hi all. Just wanted to share a success story! I went no contact and after time went on my ex started reaching out to me a few times which I was polite until we met, where she said she felt worse and worse as time went on as she realised I was not in her life!! No contact is the only way. We are much happier now and in a great place!

Edit: it is one year to the day we broke up. What a difference a year can make, stay strong everyone, if its meant to be it will happen, only if you let them realise what they have given up!