How To Talk To Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere

0:00 Has this ever happened to you?
1:36 1: Address the Elephant
2:12 Example
3:42 2: Enter Action With Boldness
4:30 Example
5:42 Secret Trick
6:34 3: What Do You Want?
9:02 The ultimate HACK to talk to anyone

[Lukas-mink]

As a man I really agree with the compliment topic. Someone complimented my jacket. Not only did it brighten up my day, I also still think about it to this day!

[vabriga]

I went into language class (first hour) and asked "Is this AA meeting?". The best ice breaker ever.

[michaelralston]

Dude, I'm 57 and getting divorced 33 yrs. 40 yrs. together. A life time. The emotional low is unbelievable. You vids are an inspiration. your "Fuck it and just do it" attitude moves me. Yesterday I was a 17 Year old bad ass US soldier, Reagan years. Today, I have no idea. Haven't thought about my self in 33 years. Once the house is gone, I what to get your program. I never was much of a conversationalist. Need the help. Motivation right now is hard, to do ANYTHING. You talk to us like we have been best friends forever and, kick us in the ass when we need it. You have a special gift brother. I am grateful that I found you channel. Your the friend that will give a pep talk any time I need it just by a click. Thank you Denmo.

[benzaryaputra]

For real though, my social skills have gotten better ever since watching Denmo. Thanks mann

[stewbeats]

My issue isn’t starting conversation it’s trying to keep engaging conversations with people who are naturally awkward 😂, I’ve always been social but non social people really be giving the most dry responses all the time

[Enviz]

How to Talk with anyone (be in a good mood)
1. Observe something in the environment
2. Point it out to others
3. Talk about it

[crazetadpole]

My problem is that I am extremely socially awkward, especially with girls who are attractive and in groups with several people. Every single time I have this uptight, insecure feeling in my chest and stomach, where your breath suddenly stops and you can't think straight. That's why I now avoid the things mentioned above so that I don't get into this predicament. Even though I would like to be able to do it again, I don't feel comfortable in these situations and unfortunately I can't hide it. I pray every day that the people I don't want to talk to, or rather that the people I'm "afraid" to talk to will just leave me alone. As a child or young teenager, I was exactly the opposite. I always wanted to be the center of attention, make people laugh and generally just be seen. Nowadays I hate it when people only even look at me and I mostly want to be alone.

[nbayern]

Thanks Denmo, couple days ago I went into a coffee shop, worked up the courage to chat to these 2 blondes from Ukraine, end up sitting with them for a couple hours. Feels good to not give a damn

[jrm]

The phone pull is something I see so many times in public when the setting/ context gets a little uncomfortabele. Its very sad. How can we stop people looking at phones the entire day. It makes me hate my own phone more and more.

[Johnnyboybravo]

I have no problem breaking the tension. My problem is that after I get people talking, I go silent and I can't hold the conversation. I find myself wanting to leave it. It's as my mind goes completely blank and I can't gather things. Yes, I can say something like "oh look at you being all pretty and what not, when did you color your hair" she will answer with a big smile and after she talked for a minute or two, I will say that's cool and then it goes silent hoping she will continue the conversation. Sometimes I can repeat things she said to make her feel heard, but that's all I can do because my mind does so well in conversation. Is this adhd? People say I'm extroverted and cocky type, but I feel as if I'm introverted.

[outhouse.wholesaler]

*goes to starbucks*
"Hey pumpkin spice latte, i wonder how much sugar it has. has anyone had it?"
*crickets*
*everyone avoiding eye contact*
*girls in the distance say something to themselves and laugh*

[CameronAlford]

I loved this video, sometimes the basics take you the furthest in life and you speak to them well

[cashpay]

Before learning these, make sure youre comfortable with pause and silent first. Talk because you internally want to, not because youre tryin to fill in the blanks

[jamesadams]

I actually /don't/ enjoy being complimented. My instinct is that that kind of interest and positivity is deceptive. Feeling like someone just approached me concealing an ulterior motive puts me at unease.

[BigBellyBrookes]

I got pretty good at this, including a following step of active listening. Going the extra mile and picking up on something someone says and bringing the convo to their knowledge base and interests relieves all the tension on you to even bring up a topic. You can just ask them questions and be more knowledgeable about a topic that you would have never taken the time to involve yourself with in the first place, and that's what life is all about!

That all being said, however, after 3-4 years of being thrown around by some corporate overlords, the public's response to COVID, Election Politics, and just generally living in a city, I've grown tired of having a conversation with anyone, anywhere, at any time. it's the opposite issue, I don't want to talk to most people because they either seem to have an ulterior motive, aside from getting to know a person, or they don't care at all what you have to say. I also have grown distasteful of whiney work talk or conversations about progress at a job the person obviously doesn't care about. I'm only in my 20s. If I had two things to add to this it's, one, learn to actively listen, two, trust in your interests, loved ones, and hobbies to lead a conversation and successes should typically be an end point, not the whole conversation. People hate gloating, but they like hearing you've succeeded at something you've worked hard for.

[tmac]

More often than not, when I have a random person compliment me or strike up a conversation with me, I immediately resort in my mind to thinking either, “Why is this person talking to me?” or “That was weird/awkward”.

Usually, it’s only in the moment it happens though and later on I realize they were just trying to be polite, make new friends or make me feel included or appreciated.

Wish I didn’t think this way and could just easily strike up chats with people wherever I go because I WANT to do that but I find that like Denmo says, there is a tension in the air in most places and it’s almost like people are waiting for someone to talk or that no one wants to or they are afraid to.

My Gym is bad for that.

[DontBeATree]

Denmo you do a great job of modeling behavior for less confident guys. It is the best way for people to learn

[FernandoHermosa-io]

This is how i wish our dad act like this our brotherhood. this guy gives me comfort of everything.

[zachdevalk]

This might be the best vid I’ve seen on the channel

[TKPVisuals]

Learnt a lot from this video, thanks a lot for sharing