8 Phrases That Scream Narcissism

The core ingredients of narcissism are well known: selfishness, entitlement, need for control, low empathy, and more. Dr. Les Carter takes us off label by identifying 8 very common phrases used by narcissists. As you educate yourself about the many facets of narcissism, you are positioned to choose a much healthier path.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[rstroud]

I left my narcissistic husband. The last thing he said was, "I don't love you." I said, "Tell me something I don't know." Ciao.

[reddawn]

When you try to discuss how they’ve hurt you, they accuse you of living in the past or holding a grudge.

[oldsoul]

I had a narcissist say "you'll never find someone else like me" my response was THANK GOD FOR THAT as I walked out and closed the door. 😂

[cpascal]

Another phrase that should be on this list is, "After all I've done for you!"

[jolesliewhitten]

I never argued with my ex-narc. I tried a million ways to please him. I just planned secretly and LEFT—smartest thing I ever did.

[Denise-yc]

To a narcissist, respect is only for them.

[SuntoryPop]

Here’s a classic…anytime you try to explain something to them….”I know that already”…..or something to that effect. Remember…they know EVERYTHING!

[teresarenee]

They don't let you ever finish a sentence.

[gthktty]

I recently heard "Victims talk about the abuse, Abusers talk about the victim" and felt nothing has rung true more

[Carol-wjgw]

As my father once told me …if a person really and truly loves a person, they won’t hurt them…

[cathybutcher]

My son was recently in an accident where he was seriously hurt but will recover just fine. My sister asked me if I cried when I found out because she cried her eyes out. Like it was a weird, creepy competition on who was more hurt. Who the hell competes over something like that? The weirdness never ends. Very low contact. I look back at what I used to put up with and can't believe I'm sane.

[drunkenrampage]

Instead of them saying "I'm sorry for what I did." They will say, "I'm sorry that you feel this way."

[GG-hxdk]

Yep, started with "you are so perfect", turned to "you're too sensitive", "nobody understands you like I do" -and when I started to show signs of leaving, "you'll never make it with out me", "nobody will love you like I do" - now, after leaving I am living a very succesfull and happy life....❤

[parajacks]

Narcissists project all the time. When they say something positive about themselves, they are actually talking about someone else's character, probably you. And when they say something negative about you, they are usually describing themselves.

[katjongeward]

#7 nailed it. they will never say "let's talk this out." nope. let's NOT EVER talk about it and hope you forget why you were mad.

[sr]

They never say they are sorry even if you flat out tell them they hurt you.

[dianamatson]

My ex-husband used to proudly introduce me to his colleagues and clients as "my beautiful wife." In the beginning I thought he was genuinely proud, but he never, ever complimented me directly, and I finally realized that it was the "my" that was important to him. I was his prize. Not any more.

[MrFahrenheitk]

I'm a narcissist in therapy and you've made a great point about when narcissists do admit their fault (or more like pretend to admit), but then only use it to stop the other person from being mad at them. That's something I'm currently working on. Very often, even when I understand that I'm in the wrong, I do believe that there's some sort of limit that the person has to have in being mad at me. And if I interpret their reaction as "too much", I often forget how rude I was just 10 minutes ago and start defending myself. It's like the flick of a switch. And then the person have to remind me how bad it was for them in order to bring me back. I'm progressively getting better at recognizing my tunnel vision and not losing it during the argument. At first I had to deal with severe anger inside myself, but now it's more like an irritation and is more controllable.

[twelvmnkys]

I love that dog sleeping on his couch!

[Anita.Bonghit]

I think it can be dangerous to victims to say “they’ll never say sorry”..some narcissists have figured out that they DO need to apologize at certain times when they know they’re about to be exposed. They’ll apologize to reel you back in or make you question yourself, especially if you’ve ever accused them of being a narcissist before.