3 Small Words That Greatly Threaten A Narcissist

Narcissists fixate on your shortcomings to the extent that they keep reminding you of your presumed problems. Dr. Les Carter highlights how the problem may not be with you at all, but with the narcissist's need to crush you. He offers 3 simple words of advice that the narcissist will find threatening, but that you can find liberating.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[MPR]

Talking with a narcissist is equivalent talking to a devil. ITS USELESS

[rindarossouw]

I would say a Narcissist engages in self idolatry.

[niklassarri]

Narcissists are easy to understand. All they need is everything. And some more. Also, when talking to them, remember your Miranda rights. You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

[Seraphim]

Standing up for yourself to a Narcissist can make you feel like a Narcissist.

[patriciajoseph]

They're experts at everything except their own personal lives. What a shame.

[leandrahackwith]

My 3 words:
You be you.
Not my job.
Not my problem.
As you wish.
I don't know.
I don't care.
I choose...(this).
Not an option.

[lanie-ok]

Reaching out to a narcissist is like reaching out to a viper. Just. Don't. Do. It.

[---Joy---]

'I need someone to blame. Oh, there you are!' 🤣 Truth!!

[musicisblood]

What's quite strange, is that this superiority is flexed on anyone they meet in real life, yet they still admire people on movies, television, etc.

[MB-sgdx]

My covert Narc husband is so competitive that I can’t even remark on pretty flowers when we are on a bike ride without him telling me the ones he saw on his OWN bike ride yesterday were prettier. We don’t enjoy anything together because it’s all about one upmanship

[Grace-ftep]

To the narc "letting it go" means relinquishing control, they can't do this because from their perspective, not controlling/dominating the situation, makes them a 'nobody'

[sweetwaterfilm]

one expert says, survivors live in a special kind of hell with malignant narcissists -- no contact is the only way!

[cp]

Proverbs 13:20 "He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." Dr. C is a wise man!! ❤

[mellevanderwerff]

"Take the time to listen" . They don't listen. They will interupt and try to upset you . Talking to a narc is like clapping with one hand.

[paulfredrickson]

Take a lesson from Zen. Non-attachment. Detach from a Narcissist be happy with your own life.

[lockstar]

Narcissists are famous for crossing the line and then acting all indignant when you push back. I've found that even when you're experiencing what on the surface appears to be "compromise" from a narcissist, what you're getting is a momentary semblance of a reasonable person.
They will be looking for the credit and honestly feel that they've gone, above and beyond, just for being /achieving the state of compromise.
This is the kind of thing that illustrates their disdain for other people's differences, loud and clear to me.

[bridgetjacobus]

It's always just a game of avoiding accountability with the narcissist.

[tbunnyshy]

“I’m onto you.”
Edit: Add “You’re not special!”

[aaronkwolfe]

“I know better.” You can’t convince them of anything, but realizing they can’t convince you (even with gaslight) cuts them deeply. For me it worked best when repeated after every gaslight attempt.

[rochelledenise]

Recently we were snorkeling on Maui. We saw so many beautiful fish and a sea turtle! When we were talking about what we saw later that day he said, “I saw the sea turtle before you did.” I hope my blank stare said it all. It’s always a competition with these people.