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[daliakm]

My ex turned out to be very abusive the day after we got married we had our first fight and then the fighting just kept on and on and kept getting worse until I left. I remember telling myself OUT LOUD “I am a good person, I know that because I have people in my life who love me, my friends and family love me, I am a good person” when he would say that I have a black heart, that I am basically a lying fake and evil beech

[dwlsn]

I dated a guy for 14 months before the “mask slipped”. The second time I found myself in tears, I snapped out of it and recognized what was happening - the “devaluation phase.” I broke up with him the next day. His response: “I never expected this from you.”
(Yeah, I know - good for me!!) ❤

[vrenireidel]

Can you do one about spotting toxic self talk and how to break your own toxic traits you might struggle with as a result of trauma?

[Isabella-gjqr]

I really needed this as people often say this to me as I am more of an emotional person. Will definitely be looking at more of this series. Thank you 🥰

[victoriagreen]

GIRL!!!! YOU ARE THE FIRST THERAPIST IVE SEEN THAT ACTUALLY HELPS LIKE THIS IS BRILLIANT!!!!

[janellehood]

I’ve seen a lot of your videos, but this one earned my follow. SO HELPFUL!

[sacredweeds]

You are great for me!! I adopted toxic behavior as normal over years of abuse. It’s very nice to be able to recognize it for what it is and to learn options that are healthy!!

[vfntwei]

Thank you so much for this video and your channel. I’ve had to learn this in order to heal. In one instance, the toxic person in my life dropped a bomb on me that my uncle had terminal brain cancer with one year to live. Moments later, she reprimanded me to stop crying and get it together before I ruin dinner. Growing up I was told not to cry. Now that I feel I am learning to process my emotions, I feel like I’m healing. Thank you for your channel, and all the work you do, I think it really helps.

[samanthapettibone]

I'm so happy to see these videos. If it wasn't for a podcast and a lot of self help books, I would still be in the depths of toxic sludge that I grew up in and had filled my adult life. Everyone needs to see and recognize the signs.

[harukademoneater]

I really appreciate how you show how to work through it in the moment. I've been away from a seriously toxic family for just over a year and I'm about to get married to the best man ever, but I still get flashbacks and it still helps me on that moment. Thank you!

[DrDread-vbwo]

This helps so much. My brother will say some really cruel stuff but will turn around and say it's a joke. There isnt ever a joking tone in there and I didnt know if I wasn't picking up on it because I'm autistic but my mother says there is no hint of a joke either. Thank you so much

[olivest]

Can you do a series on spotting when you're perpetuating learned toxic behaviors from your past?

[title_theme]

i really appreciate this advice right now. i dont currently have a therapist (hoping to get one soon!!) and i have a lot of trouble working out coping mechanisms. this is super helpful <3

[peachlue]

Oh this is such a good one. Stoked to see more spot and soothe!

[AngelJimenez-csyq]

As the usual toxic one, I’ve actually had to make a habit of reminding myself of this about other people 😭

[kunjanchheda]

I have been facing this a lot where something hurtful has been said and then covered up with 'its a joke' Making me confused if I am over sensitive or is me feeling hurt valid and idk how to communicate it

[kellsbellls]

The best way to sooth this situation is to stay away from that person

[falconcat]

My brother always did that to me. Would have been nice to find this a while ago, as he doesn't do it anymore, but thank you :)

[cryptico]

I'm a very emotional person. I explain it kind of like this: People feel big emotions, and little emotions. All of my emotions are big. What I mean by that is that when I feel something, it's typically very strong.
Ex. Something small but upsetting happens. Where most people would just get a bit upset, I would cry. I just feel emotions more strongly than most people I know.
It's something my family, especially my dad, constantly criticizes and ridicules me for. They tell me I'm too weak or sensitive and that I won't make it in the real world because of it.

[SilentSwordswoman]

I was thinking of sending this to my mum cuz my parents taught me that if I cried growing up I was being overdramatic and/or silly (this means I find it very difficult to cry in front of other people, and literally cant in front of those I dont trust unless it's an extreme amount of sadness - e.g my grandmother's funeral)

Unfortunately I'm pretty sure she'd flip it on me and it'd just cause an argument and I'm just too tired of unnecessary arguments anymore. I'm already pissed at her for making food for the rest of the family and skipping me out all the time (I am 20, my bro is turning 27 tomorrow so its not an age thing since she cooks for him too)
I end up making food for myself every night, I don't starve, it's just upsetting to clearly be the least favourite kid yknow?