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In today's video, Thais Gibson shares the secrets to healing a fearful avoidant attachment style as quickly as possible. Watch now to learn about the dynamics of the fearful avoidant attachment style as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:42 - Dynamics of the Fearful Avoidant
00:04:07 - Reprogramming Trust Wounds
00:06:42 - Elements of Trust #1: Congruence
00:06:58 - Elements of Trust #2: Consistency
00:07:16 - Elements of Trust #3: Consideration
00:07:33 - Elements of Trust #4: Context
00:08:02 - 14-Day Free Trial
00:08:52 - How Does This Apply To The Relationship
00:11:19 - Summary / How To Repair Broken Trust
00:12:19 - Conclusion

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[LuisBarroeta]

Vulnerability and speaking up for what you need as an FA is critical. It takes a lot of internal work to be able to do this an FA 💯

[Darima]

Trusting someone with my heart has been the most difficult thing in my life. It's sad because I dream of a soulmate kind of love. But I know that requires a huge amount of trust. It's difficult because all I hear about are stories of betrayal in relationships.. That's why I stopped watching true crime 😅.

[Fresh_Baked_Bread_Is_Life]

One wise commenter said on a PDS webinar once "Maybe you don't trust people because you don't trust yourself." I remember being perplexed by this comment initially, but hearing you say it again after doing the work to heal, it makes so much sense.

Over this past year I've started showing up for myself more instead of others and what a difference it made!

While I test secure now, I'm not quite there where I'm ready to let anyone in. Romantic relationships have never been a priority to me and I already have kids, so there's no clock ticking. I'm in the mindset that if it happens organically then I'm open. I'm just not looking for it.

[ismaelmarksteiner]

I’m going to watch this whole playlist while waiting for a spot in therapy, this is actually affecting my life heavily, probably one of the biggest factors holding me back in life, it’s time. 💗🙏🦋

[NicolaDietrich]

I'm working on trust at the moment. I noticed that I don't communicate my needs, so I've started communicating my needs and I've noticed that people don't want to meet my needs. They deny or ignore my needs. What I've done is communicate that this was not negotiable. People are then showing up to meet the need that I've said was needed, but I'm finding that there is resentment for having to meet my needs. I'm not meeting these people that are willing to meet my needs. That is why I don't trust that people do want to meet my needs, but I do understand what my needs are. I do understand that I must communicate my needs and repeat them when they don't get met, but this free flowing trusting relationship simply doesn't exist.

[Career_Change_with_Freda]

As a fearful avoidant, trust has always been hard for me, but I am learning to trust myself and make the right decisions for ME. Choosing someone who is congruent and shows up when they say they will is the key, but after being in a long term relationship now I need time to heal myself and learn to reprogram my core beliefs. This channel has helped me so much.

[PerrySkyePhoenix]

As a fearful avoidant, trusting myself is the first step. People have to prove to me that they're trustworthy though. I used to blindly trust, until they proved otherwise. That didn't work for me.

[nathalieeex]

My last relationship was with someone that I finally let myself fully trust and they turned out to be a narcissist. I don’t want to ever do it again.

[kmbrlia]

I have a hard time with trust and it bothers people when I don't put my life in their hands. I have been called selfish and it reinforces my lack of trust 😂 I don't like when people project onto me and I don't allow it.
I no longer bother to be "understood" by anyone. Vulnerability is hard, but not when there are no expectations. It's hard to find those kinds of people though

[luketimewalker]

Oh my. It wasn't you who made it dawn on me that I'm actually an xious and fe arful, but you sure do confirm it.
It' also good to know that you were formerly FA yourself, and I learned yesterday in the comments that you are married to a DA person. You really went above and beyond your own hurdle, and the world can thank you for that - I for one, thank you.

I found your page or rather thanks to the magic of youtube your page found me, as I started the journey of trying to understand why the woman I was in love with was so cold and uncaring. First steps into the larger world of attachment styles - a week ago or so.

I see that DA+FA couples are often a thing, and at this point I'm wondering why.
I can see how the Fearful Avoidant's hypervigilance and eagerness to please is a match for a Dismissive Avoidant, who hates to be in touch with his/her feelings, and expects others to just guess everything (and really, I'm starting to see how that stems from even worse childhood trauma than a FA's)

What I'm wondering at this point is why FAs are so often drawn to DAs. Is it because the honeymoon version of the not-yet-revealed-DA was so beautiful? (but that could happen with any attachment type. So why do they seem to flock to DAs? And not to, say, other FA's, or secure types?)
Or is it because they need to be needed and find reinforcement in the DA's unspoken neediness ("read my thoughts or else")?

[mariannealtieri]

I’m learning so much from you!!
I’m realizing how important I want to help others!!
I’ve been involved with a fearful avoidant for six years. I understand now why our relationship was a roller coaster ride.

[fr---]

I needed to hear this! You’re amazing! The approach to your audience, how you explain it in such simple examples…. Thank you for this video!

[darkredrose]

My trust is keeping get betrayed, so no matter how much I want to trust...I can't anymore. I give everything and I get 0 back. I give up on dating. I'm 36, living alone and already single since 10 years. People always HURT me, bleeding my soul literally... Best, a FA woman.

[Michelle-qqsd]

Self-Trust
Congruency - what I say I do
Consistency -
Considerate - how you treat your boundaries and emotions - kind to self
Context - understand self -
Communicate to others.

[kristinayanders]

@thais I’m so grateful I ran across your videos. You have helped me understand myself (as well as my current) so much better! Now to start the healing process so I can grow out of the FA and become securely attached.

[Conscious]

makes 100% sense. thank you Thais. God bless you & your work for the masses

[LeoMoon_Goddess]

I know this combo as disorganized avoidant.

[stephanied]

Trust is hard. More so the more I get to know a person, or the longer I am in a relationship, the harder it is for me to trust them. I can talk and rationalize why I am feeling a certain way and what I would want but some things are not rational…I think. And as the relationship progresses I just want out and to start over.

[Matthew-cpeg]

as much as I thought I understood, tried to move past. I was rocked the other day when I had an accident... and completely went the solo route, never said anything amd kept working, till asked fiancee for some pain meds... and was hurt deep when she asked why I did say anything, then compounded when she said she had gotten the meds... solo player runs deep sadly

[kimberleepike]

Building self trust is going to be the hardest with untreated BPD. I just wanted to share that until I can deal with the traumas of hopefully maybe integration, then I won't be able to trust myself because if I slide into that trauma personality I have no memory and she is not a nice person. But I have goals and that's one of them cuz I would love to be able to trust myself completely