Mourning the Loss of a Partner you Wish you Had

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Do you find yourself wishing your partner was a better listener, more forgiving or more aligned with you about bringing up your kids? Maybe you had imagined and expected that your initial romance and love would conquer all the quirks in the relationship that you dismissed as insignificant earlier on. Perhaps you've put in a massive sustained effort to get your partner to change and be who you need and want them to be - but are now left feeling defeated and empty.
This video tells you about the importance of mourning the loss of the imagined fantasy partner you created in your mind so that you can make room for the partner you actually have - the real person who has strengths and qualities that are valuable but just not seen by you in your fantasy world. In order to have a real mutually rewarding and supportive relationship with your partner, you have to let go of that wish, that dream, and that fantasy that you have been clutching so tightly - attempting to forcing it into becoming real.
Mourning the loss of a wish is especially hard because it's your creation - your baby. But babies need to grow up and live in the real world. So be sad, be wistful, be disappointed and be angry too. That's all part of healthy mourning. Then make room for a vitalized real vitally thriving relationship that is real and can offer you real fulfillment.
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I wished for a sensitive, loving, tolerant and containing partner, which i had when i was 20. But eventually i ended up with loving though impatient partner which is emotionally agressive when angry. I mourn the partner i had almost 20 years ago...

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I really appreciate your videos, thank you so much for posting 🙏😊

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