This simple habit changed my marriage & self-development

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In this video, I share one simple tweak to our daily routine that my husband and I made in order to grow more as people, increase intimacy, and increase passion. It's going to seem very small when you hear what it is--but the impact it's had on our lives is worth sharing in case this helps someone else, too.

Intro music: Church of 8 Wheels by Otis McDonald
Outro music: Lensko Let’s Go

[susans]

That's a wonderful idea! My husband and I watch too much TV. I just learned that to keep up to date on the news READ the news. Limit news to 10 minutes only to decrease anxiety. Watching news on TV with all the videos is harder on my mental health.

[finsta]

Me and my bf are doing duolingo together and workouts at the gym. We do different languages and workouts and truly it does give us something to talk about

[SkyeM]

Love this idea! My boyfriend and I do this occasionally and we'll even take turns reading parts of our books aloud to each other. It's cool to see how different our preferred reading is and get glimpses into each other's minds and interests

[diamonddiamond]

I love this! My boyfriend and I do something sort of similar. We journal through the week and then in the weekend we meet up over coffee and read each other’s journal together and talk about it.

[vicefaun]

this is so cute, my LDR boyfriend and i had been reading books over facetime for months and now we’re moving in together :3 it strengthened our bond and gave us something to share about

[juanmartinez-nedd]

It’s sound cliche but is so true. Everything with moderation.

[aleidius]

I'm not in a relationship, but this is something I have fantasied about doing.

[jordans]

I dont think I have the energy at the end of the day to read. Im usually mentally burnt. Im gonna try to commit an hr per night to it as an experiment.
Thanks again for sharing Ana

[kyussannn]

I totally get your point Ana, about doing something together that actively stimulates reasoning, discussion or anything similar. I just don't think that our routine should be productive all the time and that watching tv is necessarily a passive activity.
I'm sure you're aware that watching a movie or a series you love can encourage discussion over ethical or even technical topics (for ex., you're also a writer so you may give your take about the storytelling or chara-development), intense feelings, and even self-analysis.
A couple of weeks ago, my brother and his gf were watching a imo terrible movie, where basically the protagonists were a couple but always fighting. Leaving aside how I was constantly noticing how bad the movie was, watching the characters with an almost detached feeling, make possible for me to get an important takeaway: "shouting your needs in the face of someone else won't make them meet your needs". And I next told about this idea to my therapist.
I say again that I totally agree that some good amount of shared activity with your dear ones is absolutely vital for any kind of relationship, but this can be anything, even watching TV, even playing videogames or simply sharing house chores, as long as you can connect to others through that. I don't think there are good or bad activities, but as you said just a good or bad way of doing them. Productivity really isn't the point, for me.
Thank you so much for the video as always! I hope you don't take this comment as a critique, I always appreciate how you share the little doscoveries or changes in your life with us to inspire, and so you did here. 🙏

[braumski]

The way I do it is I dont sit to watch a show or movie unless I know theres something cool I want to watch beforehand. I don't netflix just to netflix you know. I'm usually trying out shows I was either told about or I thought looked cool. And when I run out, I stop watching show and do something else. But its hard to notice when you fall into the habit

[Emma.]

this is so wonderful, my husband and I started doing this almost a year ago and now we have the most interesting discussions about the things we read, we even set the goal to read the Brothers Karamazov at the same time so that we could talk about it as we go and it was SO MUCH FUN!!! it was similar to binging a tv show haha there have been times during my marriage when I have feared being a boring partner and not having interesting things to say since I'm not very talkative but I have always loved to read, specially fiction, and now that we got into this habit I believe it will enrich and deepen our conversations so much more. ♥️

[jellyrcw]

Congratulations again on your doctorate and marriage!

[mkayyy]

Such a simple yet sweet piece of advice

[AuroraBisMe]

This is great advice. My partner and I have had a book club going for two years now, where we alternate between reading books separately and together.

[jjhassy]

I love the absurdly jarring loud space bar press sound effect when things pop up on the screen

[JugglingG]

We used to do that it's so nice! We used to read to each other, and I would crochet when listening.

[cambriajenkins]

Brandon Sanderson fantasy books are very active! Highly recommend!

[wellingtonsboots]

Thank you, since i have been in a new relationship i only watch TV in the early evening. If i read at night, i fall asleep really quickly. We go to bed and talk and do things like watch youtube videos

[Zazooma]

Gonna suggest this to my partner. She already likes to read, and I never make time for it anymore. Would be nice to do together after dinner. Trying to convince her to come to the gym with me too lol

[klaudiawitek]

I love reading books that’s such a great idea to spend time with each other.❤