5 Stages Of Obsessive Love, Stage 4 Is The Most Dangerous!

In our previous videos, we covered the signs of obsessive love, not real love. Ever wondered what obsessive love looks like and how it unfolds? In this video, we’re examining the 5 Stages of Obsessive Love, with a focus on why Stage 4 can be particularly dangerous.

Our goal is to provide a clear understanding of obsessive love disorder, including its stages and the signs of obsessive love, to help educate and keep everyone safe and healthy. We’ll explore what makes an obsessive lover tick and discuss the differences between love and obsession, including concepts like love addiction and limerence. This information is crucial for recognizing and addressing obsessive behaviors in relationships.

#love #dating #relationship

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Delfina
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[someguywithapen]

She broke up with me just a few days ago, and I kept thinking of reasons for why. None of the reasons she said made any sense to me. Only now do I realize just how obsessed I was, and that she genuinely meant that this would be the best for both of us. I'm still in the process of grieving, but I will forever be thankful to her for teaching me such a valuable lesson.

[Boxanadu]

I was once like this. It was just horrible. I didn’t reach stage 4 luckily, but I did reach stage 5 and eventually found a lover who is better and loves me back.

[TwinMama]

when I was younger, I felt like I went through these stages of obsessive love. When I got older and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I realize that all the feelings of obsession and toxic feelings of abandonment were actually a projection of my own trust issues and abandonment from my traumatic childhood. the first stage of getting better is always going to be awareness and acceptance. Now I’m married to my high school sweetheart went through all stages that I put him through, but I left him alone and started loving myself, that’s when my feelings were reciprocated.
Now we’re going on 20 years and I couldn’t ask for a better partner to help me deal with, my issues and disorder.

[AC-nigt]

Oh boy.... Now I need to be WAY more careful.

[moreliatapoc]

1. 0:51 Infatuation
2. 1:27 Intensification
3. 2:26 Obsession
4. 3:51 Destruction
5. 6:03 Resolution

[Procraftbrother]

Glad I’m not in obsessive love with my gf. We don’t get to talk very much rn, cuz she’s in the process of recovering from cancer treatment. What I understand from my cousin (he had cancer) is that therapy and recovery take a ton of energy and her days are probably filled with therapy and sleep. I don’t hold anything against her. But that doesn’t fully help the pain of not being able to speak to her. I do miss her, but all I want rn is for her to get better, and us actually enjoy our relationship. Keep my gf in your prayers plz. Her name is Kiana

[jones]

The root is always lack of self love. I was reading the definition of insecure and the one definition said it's being unprotected and susceptible to danger. So I think when you meet someone and you are not secure in who you are, you just leave so much room for sense of self to be drained even more. I'm learning now to not only build up you self esteem but to guard your heart as well and know that for someone to be able to experience your love it is a privilege.

[Xiphoided_dev]

I was in the stage 2 of obsession, i was obsessed with a girl in my school, she was pretty, kind, smart, and everything i wanted. i was well known to my friends that i make music, make art work, and i was really talented.. but when she came into my life, all i cared about was her. my grades were going low, i wouldn't hang out with my friends. and i would tend to isolate myself from my parents. often eating in my own room. i was able to date her and she still is currently my girlfriend but when i watched this video, it really helped. i was often feeling depressed. insecure. and sometimes even mad when she interacts with others.. this video helped me alot into improving my love and improving mentally. i now focus on other things such as music, art work, crafting, programming. i filled my life with so many things other than love. I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much!

[titasghosh]

Look, obsessive love is very common for individuals with unstable/unsupportive family background or kids growing up without proper care. So, if your partner loves you obsessively, please dont leave him/her.try to make them understand where they went wrong and stand by their side unless they regain themselves and flourish❤

[patriciapat]

I'm kinda going through this in my current relationship. Things have been worse, but luckily they've gotten better. I'm on a journey with self love and trying to find ways how to feel good when my bf is busy or we can't be together at that moment and it's going okay so far :) I want to really get my shit together because no one has ever been so compassionate and understanding as he is and we have been together for 2 years and he never gave up on me. Even when I had severe anxiety and depression, he helped me through it ❤ I can't thank him enough

[Yeahyouheardme]

To see your life shown almost verbatim in a youtube video is a terrible feeling because I have been anxiously attached and fit most of what the video describes other than losing my identity. But it's also cathartic to know I've known it wasn't rational or logical and that my obsession was hurting the one I purported to love. I have never loved someone so much, and so even though we just broke up, for my mental health and well-being I'm going to give him space and cut off all communication because trying to be friends with him is torture. I'll always be there for him, but right now I need to heal before I can be a good friend so I have to say goodbye to him. I know it's hard but love yourself guys, know that you are deserving of just as much love as you are investing in someone.

[Tofu_shrimp]

notification appeared right when i started missing and reminiscing about my ex 😋

i definitely went through all four stages, and i can say that this is (hopefully) the last time ill ever get obsessed and overly attached

[marevoievod]

This animation style is very cute; the eyes are highly expressive! Kudos to the artist!

[KRHHwks]

My ex boyfriend is in the throws of stage 4 with me. Scared for my safety. So it beyond just being angry, he tried to run me off the interstate recently. But a Protective Order has been delivered today. I pray 🙏 that my codependency will not make me faulted by letting me back in my life. With God all things are possible!! 🙏 🤲

[themorrigan]

I went through something like this after I fell in love with a guy, and he ghosted me. I didn't want to hurt him, so I avoided the urge to do anything toxic no matter how strong my emotions got. After about half a year, I got in touch with him again. He actually responded and seemed happy to talk to me again, but then he didn't respond to my message for 24 hours, and I got really sensitive about it because he had ghosted me before. I lashed out at him over text, and that was where I drew the line for myself. So I apologized and blocked him. I haven't talked to him since and I only think about him every once in a while. Cutting him off was the best decision for me. I let him go before I went too far, and I feel good about that. If you truly love someone, respect their decisions and their agency

[kbo]

This video was eye opening, this was something I always knew about myself but I didn't wanted to recognize. I reached stage 4 and I hated myself for this. Few days ago I started to practice self love, so this video came in the best moment. Thank you.

[moreliatapoc]

I had an experience of obsessive love from a former stalker which traumatized me for years, it still bothers me whenever I came across that person even when it happened ages ago. Hence why I found it difficult to deal from traumatic experiences perhaps because I haven't yet healed from it.

[ickyoverratedally]

My grip of obsessive love had me in an in and out relationship where I'd get with my ex then break up and get back with him then break up and get back with him. I was the one who was obsessed and thought things would change and that we could really date this time but he started spoiling me and doing things that had me obsessed again....so eventually the cycle broke and we started arguing to the point of screaming at each

[MilesPlayzRoblox]

The fact that people think of this situation in a very lustful way is just 💀 ☠️ 💀

[fireofdreams]

This video opened my eyes a bit. Naturally I'm easy to make anxious, naturally my partner is quick to anger. Just generalized problems the two of us have.

I may not be controlling to them, though I ask for (admittedly) a bit much reassurance sometimes out of fear that I've done wrong or upset them- as I know (And they do too) that they are quick to anger.

This video made me realize that I should look further into myself, assess the few issues I have, and continue with the happy relationship I have. I shouldn't let anxiety dictate what I feel or ask to my partner. I do have a bit of a habit of asking my partner what they're up to, but only in the intent to spark conversation and talk about the activities they're doing.











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