6 Signs It’s Obsessive Love, Not Healthy Love

In this video, we're going to talk about obsessive love and how to tell if it's healthy love or not.
Obsessive love can be a really beautiful thing, but it can also be really harmful. In this video, we're going to talk about the different signs that its obsessive love and not healthy love. From obsessive thoughts to staying in contact constantly, these are the signs you should watch out for if you think you're in an unhealthy relationship.

Writer: Brie Villanueva
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Cece
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[mehrish]

The way we all thought of that one person

[ORProductionss]

0:43 1. childhood trauma
1:36 2. micromanaging
2:26 3. love bombing
3:18 4. ignoring responsibilities
4:04 5. intense emotions
4:43 6. other mental illnesses

[beatrushx]

Went through this because I my first ever relationship ended, and I didn’t realize how obsessed I was until after the breakup. Definitely learned my lesson

[zenmindgamer]

Unfortunately I was the one who had to learn to distinguish between obsession and caring. Then got a dose of it in a future relationship.

Just need to accept that our partner is, and forever will be, an entity separate from ourselves. Enjoy the time together, maintain healthy hobbies and activities that sustain it, but don't stress worrying about an end date to those activities or we'll be the architect of their conclusion.

[xCCflierx]

I'm afraid of this being me. So I tend to pull away when I'm afraid of getting too close or when I think I may hurt the other person. Love was really rare when I was growing up. I'm afraid of losing it. But I desperately crave it

[idkyuwatchmeh]

I completely understand most people in the beginning of a relationship, go through an infatuation phase with there partner but after that rush wheres's down, the relationship, might start to become more boring also because you're in your first part of the relationship or just in the first relationship in general, you might be more clingy to your partner, which is another sign of unhealthy/obsessive love because you have not experienced enough relationships to set healthy boundaries with your partner

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Childhood trauma 0:42
2). Micromanaging 1:36
3). Love bombing 2:26
4). Ignoring responsibilities 3:18
5). Intense emotions 4:03
6). Other mental illnesses 4:42

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[BeaIsBi]

Thanks! This helped me step back a little to make sure I wasn’t being too obsessive. I wasn’t being too obsessive.

[NOTKNOWNLOGIC]

I figured it out on my own that I have this towards my partner and I actively try to not have it. But man is it hard. I'm getting there slowly but surely, thank goodness. This video confirmed my fears about myself and confirmed one thing I need to keep working on.

[walterelm]

My girlfriend and I have been on a relationship for seven months now. We see each other everyday as we live close by and we both enjoy being a bit too sweet to each other. She went on vacation with her family three weeks ago and the second week she was out I had a really bad time. I want her to enjoy the trip and I understand we both have our family plans and obligations but I just couldn’t help to feel really bad. In a way I had been looking forward to spending the Holiday Season with my girlfriend and more because this is my time off from work, and I had stuff planned and suddenly it all faded away. We chat a lot and last week sometimes I’d get angry for no reason or extremely sad. I’m wondering if maybe it is obsessive love. And again, I believe I understand that there has to be space and the logics of it but my insides hurt. This week has been better, I am enjoying my time alone and doing stuff, sometimes I get sad or frustrated. Thanks for the video

[cecelo]

I always try to share my thoughts and feelings with my girlfriend, she's my best friend. Always ask her what she's doing (not really always, but like, once in a while) in a way of getting something to talk about. I think I'm scared of the end of the honeymoon phase though. Actually, I think it already ended for her, but for me it comes and goes. We've been together for nine months, but till now things are doing great. If you got here thank you for your time and patience.

[AkayRoblox]

I love my girlfriend but shes checked off pretty much all the boxes and even she knows shes very obsessive. Her obsession has gone as far as her overdosing because our relationship was pretty rocky at that point in time. she even openly admitted that she would kill herself if we broke up and not in a joking matter either. shes even gone as far as telling me basically that she wants me all to her self and she doesn't want anyone else to talk to me or be friends with me. I talk to her about eight hours a day until 1 or 2 am even then sometimes she doesn't let me sleep and if I do she gets mad at me. I just don't know what to do I want to make it work I really love this girl. (we've been together for almost 5 months now) (theirs a lot more to write about but this is all I have for now)

[hades]

Sometimes I fear this is me because I've had the same crush for years but I know personally what's it like to be controlled so I don't really care to control them because that's not what someone does when they really like them. Glad to know that I'm not hurting them though.

[LaresHill]

Thank you for this video! And for the many others. I kinda knew that there is a problem with me, but it was lingering just under conscious level and destructing my life. Thanks to you guys I figured that I am a quitter and I also do this obsessive love thing. Omg and all is coming from the attachement style I developed by my childhood trauma. I am working on myself. Progress, not perfection. I wish you all strenght who is going through difficulties directly or via your partner. We are not alone!

[bijoysarma]

This is my joint account with my dear wife .My wife reads everything posted here.We are parents to two grown up kids. We are managing everything together. We are possessive and moving together in our journey in both good and bad days. Yeah these studies are good for psychological balance in various stages of life. Happy new year to you all .Stay happy, blessed and safe.

[aliksanderpersia]

Nothing speaks more about BPD than holding a person at high value one day, followed by the rapid devaluation of that person. It sucks and has kept me single for 14 years, which i absolutely love BUT it confuses people how such an intelligent and good lookin fellow doesn't have a gf. Sometimes I explain it but most of the time I just have to make up something more normal so they will understand better and that's the part that sucks.

[LoneWindtheWolf]

1:08 Holy Jesus. I never felt so related to one of your points as this one. I love my father, but i also fear him when he's angry or displeased with others like my mother or my sister, and even my brother. No wonder why every time i fell in love i tended to be obsessed with that person, and no wonder why no relationship has ever worked for me. I deserve to be alone after all cuz i'm a bad person :)

Your videos have helped me a lot on things i needed to understand about myself, but this is the most eye-opening of all for me. you guys (& gals) nailed it in the head with this one.
Thank you for helping me this year. I hope i can change for the better in 2023 (or die trying).

[CabVideoz]

I love that my aunt Dr. Dryden-Edwards was mentioned here. It's touching to realize her work helped so many

[AnnieStar]

can we just all appreciate how calming her voice is?

[KkRocks]

Thank you so much for posting this! This really hit home for me because I was in a relationship this year where I was “love-bombed.” After watching this video, it proved me right that the love from my partner at the time was definitely obsessive. I feel so lucky that my instincts were telling me that the love was not healthy and was able to excuse myself from the situation (permanently 😉). Thankfully, I’ve built such immense respect for myself over the years and I feel proud of myself for standing my ground to this day!