Are You In Love or Obsessed? (5 Differences)

Love and obsession can sometimes go hand in hand, especially in a new and exciting relationship and can be perfectly normal. However, where does the line start to blur? How do you know when things have gone too far? Love is different from obsession, so in this video, we will be comparing love and obsession to find out. We'll also be talking about Obsessive Love Disorder (OLD).

Writer: Sid Thompson
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:
Fellizar, K. (2018, October 26). How To Tell The Difference Between Love And Obsession. Bustle.
Schwartz, S. (2022, June 18). Obsession vs Love: 12 Critical Differences You Should Know. Her Norm.

[Dev.Yadav.]

When you realize you're not in love just in love with the idea of being loved😔💔

[endlesswonderland]

0:21 You need constant contact with little space
1:11 You don't truly want them to succeed
2:04 Your conversations are surface level
2:42 You give a lot of yourself
3:25 You have no long term goals

Lol the third point punched me right in the face. Nowadays almost everything I care about is anything but surface level stuff (though this is a totally different story)

[betelgoose]

I’m curious what it would look like if both partners were obsessed. It seems a bit unlikely but it’s an interesting thought to me that even though what two people might do may be a tad bit unhealthy, they do it together and to the same degree for each other.

What a great video! Props to your artists for always making such cute imagery! Keep up the good work!

[ashwe]

Weirdly enough, I experienced being obsessed and in love the same year but diff month. Thankfully I realized how toxic I was with my best friend. Before I thought I was just madly in love with her but overtime I got back to my senses and apologized to her and we started our relationship all over again. We've been best friends for the last six years and we have grown to have a much deeper and healthier bond.

My story of experiencing being genuinely in love for the first time is another story but I can summarize it as: Full of warmth, changes, and green flags (and probably a lot of rollercoaster rides)

[UndercoverTherapist]

The worst part about this is that the line between healthy love and obsession can be very thin sometimes that you don't know when you cross it.

I am glad we now have videos like this one to guide people and help them know when they are going over.

[kenrickbautista]

This is one of the real reasons why I've been single for the 26 years I been on this earth: I'm not sure if I'm really in-love with that person or just simply obsessed with them just for the sake of obsessing.

[heyadanny]

Thank you! I literally just got out of an obsessive relationship with someone who I thought loved me, but was actually more obsessed with me. This person even flew a handful of states away to meet me, and.. well, at the end of the week I had to break it off. Guess we're both still learning about relationships and what we want. It hurt but it really was for the best. Y'all take care of yourselves first, ok?

[wolfcry]

Glad this video just came out. Based on this video, my former relationship was a mix of what is considered "love" and what is considered "obsession", I did some of each for both things in that relationship.

[casiel.]

i do feel obsessed, and i realized it more later on in the relationship. I'm trying to give them space they deserve, but im still.. "clingy" as some may say.

[angelmarie]

That moment when you realize your entire relationship with your ex was an obsession.

[star-stonelegend]

I was asking myself if what I am feeling is love or obsession and this video was released at the best time
...this did help me answer most of my questions. Thank you.

[minapaige]

This is something a lot of people should be looking out for because people think that being obsessed with their partner will solve all the problems but in reality if you’re a believer in God like me, it’s actually having a person as an idol and that causes more problems instead of actually solving any of them. So really balance out whether you are obsessed or in love. This is a message for me too

[Dev.Yadav.]

Sometimes they don't love you they just love that they have you. It took me a few years to figure that out lol

[vapour_xs]

This answered so many questions I've had in the past. As far as I know now, I've gone through 2 relationships that were very obsessive. Both times my partner was very obsessive over me and constantly wanted to be around me, even going as far as breaking my boundaries, such as: pulling me away from friends and family, guilt tripping me into being with them whether it be passive or direct, and always watching where I was. I always found it super creepy when my partner would text me "You never told me you'd be at (friends names) house??", signalling that they were watching me through Find My Friends on their phone... I had conversations with them about it and they always just sorta pushed it off...

I don't get it... Why do some people want you all to themselves. It's not like the world is going to take me away, I'm still here. I wish I could sit down with one of my ex's and ask them this without them throwing a bunch of jargin in my face about me breaking up with them. Hell, I wish I could've sat down with them During the relationship and asked them about this and had them understand.

Dating is hard... But, from past experiences comes a present mind for future events. We learn from everything

[sgaf]

Our conversations were always just on a surface level. Whenever I try to open up, I could tell he's not taking it seriously. I never had a moment where I could feel that I could count on him. He likes talking to me, but only about his romantic plans and ideals. I had to say bye after trying to build that emotional connection that we don't have. It's for the both of us. Even if we do find ourselves being in a relationship, it will still not work. Not with an emotional person like me.

[siimplybrxnie]

I saw you’re community post, i hope this comment helps a little i don’t always need the video’s you Guys make but i always find comfort in the animations and voice thank you very much. ❤

[dracaboi]

Thank you. My last relationship I had was definitely obsession from her, but I'm hoping good things for the newest relationship I have.

[balazsszucs]

I'm glad to say that I'm actually in love and not obsessed. Although it was me diagnosing myself, so I might be biased.

[naomi]

I think I'm obsessed with my close friends but none of these signs match. A lot of your videos about crushes or relationships are somewhat relatable and I can understand how they can be similar in a friendship, but this one seemed a bit different, or at least for me. Could you make a video about being obsessed or clingy over friends? Or maybe how your parents, childhood or trauma can affect your relationships with other people?

[casiel.]

0:20 - you need constant contact with little space
1:13 - you don't truly want them to succeed
2:04 - your conversations are surface level
2:46 - you give a lot of yourself
3:28 - you have no long term goals