Explain narcissism to others using the C.R.A.V.E.D. method

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DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL.

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[skfotedar]

narcissist - someone who takes a dump on your floor, leaves and comes back 2 hours later and complains about the smell

[MadisonWestfield]

Last night the narc in my life reached out to me begging to talk. I went no contact and blocked months ago, but he keeps using burner numbers. He was awful to me for years and when he called in his lost puppy dog voice wanting to talk I didn’t say a word and hung up, blocked and deleted the number!! I feel really proud of myself because sometimes it’s tempting to get sucked back into the chaos for some reason. But don’t do it!

[rfwoolf]

C - Conflict
R - Rigidity
A - Antagonism
V - Vindictiveness / Victim / Vulnerability
E - Entitlement / Exploitativeness
D - Dysregulation

[MM-nlff]

Ramani, the bestfriend/parent we all needed.

[crencottrell]

*C - conflict (high conflict)* - narcs enjoy having someone to feud with 😯
*R - rigid* - narcs are inflexible to progressing 😐
*A - antagonistic* - narcs will treat you like you're their enemy/be irreconcilable 😕
*V - vulnerable...AND vindictive* - they're vulnerable in that they can receive narcissistic injuries, and they will be vindictive as those injuries will set off narcissistic rage 🙄
*E - entitled* - no surprise that narcs think they're more fill in the than they actually are 😅
*D - dysregulated* - narcs lack self-control and can Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde switch up on you unpredictably 😬

*What's crazy is all those acronyms factually describe how narcs behave* 😂
Happy Friday everyone 😁

[NarcSurvivor]

Try to spend time around people who do get it, people who do understand narcissism. It’s very unhealthy to be around people who invalidate your experience. You need to be around people who have the same level of awareness.

[jeffmcilroy]

The frustrating thing for me about narcissists is that the narcissist doesn’t see themselves as the narcissist .. they see the people around them they won’t put up with their BS as being a narcissistic ones.. and they gaslight it back onto them . Very frustrating.

[Niles-Guy]

Trying to explain to family or friends what narcissism is and the pain you suffered is like describing what it’s like being set on fire 🔥. Nobody will ever understand the experience until they experience Devils touch . Not to mention the humiliation, that awful shame of having to explain to others what you went through and allowed yourself to be abused after ignoring all the red flags 🚩. As a result, we suffer in silence 🥺

[suzyhomeacre]

Dr. Ramani, you’ve changed my life & held my hand through this dark, but very enlightening journey. Thank you!

[Steve]

This is excellent advice. Most people don't even know what narcissism is. People don't identify narcissism as abuse, which is what it really is. Sell the sizzle, not the steak.

[yaseminureorion]

That's true, when you use the word narcissism or narcissist, mostly people think that I am just exaggerating everything and talking just by my emotions and I am using the N word like a child as if a word that I just learned lately. They really shut down and don't listen to me with the same respect...

[Jess-knvl]

In therapy, I felt like I was put on trial at times trying to explain this behavior when recalling "examples" and "facts". Looking at the forest now instead of through the trees, its a repetitive pattern of behavior. Any vindictiveness I experienced was often minimized by the therapist and it was hard to articulate at the time that this is how this person operates and it IS intentional. I was diagnosed with PTSD in 2018, but I started telling my story and have had the mental and physical symptoms for at least 20 years. The 3 therapists I saw before all dropped the ball. Thank you for educating everyone on this!

[imnoel]

Thanks Dr. Ramini! "C" could also stand for "Controlling"-the CRAV-ing for control.

[octaviojimenez]

Conflict, with the NPD person also looks like hate. They´re haters. They go around saying "I hate it when" this or that.

[joniangelsrreal]

I’m not explaining anything personal to anyone… they don’t matter … I’m completely over all of it…. Period

[Ash-hbcj]

If u were talking about my ex the “V” could also stand for volatile/ violent. And the “D” could also stand for draining.

[jessenutt]

❤ this! As a nurse, I was taught 2 VERY important things:
1. Document EVERYTHING! If it's not documented, then it didn't happen.
2. You are not a doctor, you may know, by your assessment, the diagnosis, but you can NEVER diagnose. ONLY assess the situation, symptoms, your observations, and what the patient "says" in thier OWN words.
This video reminds me of that.
Thanks Dr. Ramani

[LXSeaV]

Even easier to remember: Show, don't tell. Don't tell people someone's a narcissist or whatever adjective. Just say what they did. I think more people react to that and come to the conclusion that this person sucks if I just say matter-of-factly what they literally did or said. Then that person can decide for themselves that this person is definitely a narcissist, asshole, etc. When we describe people in labels and generalizations, I think people are naturally skeptical for good reasons honestly. Pressuring others to believe someone is a narcissist just because you think that can be perceived as pushy and manipulative itself.

[DisturbedBurger]

"You try to bend them and they snap"
Nice double entendre.

[islandia]

C – conflict
R – rigid
A – antagonistic
V –
E – entitled
D – disregulated

Thanks Dr. Ramani, this is a great topic! This gives us a solid framework for describing narcissistic people without saying the word. I've benefitted very much from the DEEP acronym and appreciate you sharing this one.