DBT Skill: Radical Acceptance

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[alexisosofsky]

Radical acceptance doesn’t mean you aren’t going to hurt anymore. It’s facing the hurt head on, sitting in it, knowing you can’t change the circumstances. What we fear are the emotions and the pain

[finbarrtpf]

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
― Viktor E. Frankl

[EssenceOfRae]

“It isnt anyone’s responsibility to be what I want or need them to be”

[syfrb]

"I can't change what has already happened. But I can control my reaction to the situation, so be careful not to overreact. This too will pass."

[jessesaturn]

My mantra:

Slow down, this isnt an emergancy, youre safe.

[MsTaraVlogs]

They weren't kidding when they told me this is going to be a lot of hard work. I was in a puddle of tears after watching this.

[papondahoops]

I really liked this one. Thanks Kati!
My mantra when I get emotionally caught up in someone else's situation is "Not my circus, not my monkeys."

[finbarrtpf]

“Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.”
― Viktor E. Frankl

[markbarkley]

I have learned one very important condition about Radical Acceptance- Be very sure what you radically accept is the truth.
I was lost in intrusive and untrue thoughts and was very ready to radically accept that I had to die and I was in the middle of slashing my wrist when a friend stopped me. Thankfully I would go on to learn that I was believing more than a few lies. So please, only radically accept truth.

[imice]

there's a phrase i heard in a motivational speech once that goes: ¨maybe right now you can't fathom getting through another year like this, or another month like this, another week another day like this, but ask yourself if you can get through this moment in time, just this moment, and make that your goal¨ and that's something i say to myself over and over again when i'm feeling particularly awful, that i can get through this moment, i've had many many bad moments and i know i can do it, it's okay if i need to think smaller and simpler and take it step by baby step, the first achievement is making it though this one moment, and that much i think i can

[SEDSabuhb]

I'm in DBT at the moment ! I LOVE it. It's challenging but is having a positive effective.
I have bulimia and I get on with DBT much better than I did CBT.
My FAVOURITE mantra is ... You can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf !!!! 🌊🏄🏄
#wisemind #the most effective thing!!

[daniellep]

I'm in DBT therapy and it's been helping me so much. I'm learning that I'm not alone. I'm learning tools that are really helping me in my daily life. I still suffer but it's seems the days a suffer are less. DBT Therapy works.

[katfish]

I'm completely distracted by that really cool frog in your background haha

[atomiclisa]

"The thing I fear the most has already happened to me." and "Please remember love." It helps me to fill in the book of my life with good memories so the "bad" memories/pages are put in perspective more. A physical manifestation of this would be creating a scrapbook which is on my to do list!

[stellie]

I love that you did a video on this!!  DBT saved my life.  I have BPD and spent a year and half in DBT group learning the skills.  It's a lot of work at first but then the skills just become part of your life and something that you do naturally without thinking so much about it. 

[nephthyz]

"You can't defeat the demons you enjoy playing with."

[ElenaBrandtNJ]

Would you consider or do you know anyone who has a DBT group online? I can't find a group in my area that works with my schedule. Your videos are a tremendous public service. I can imagine you've probably saved several lives as well.

[mindsinging]

"Anything worth having requieres effort and courage" or "When people live, there will be sins. What's important isn't avoiding sings, but forgiving them. A world becomes ugly and twisted when people try to stay pure." This last one is from an anime, I really liked it and I found the anime very helpful, too! :)

[DestinySomeone]

at this point I have realized that not everyone's DBT experiences the same. But when I was in DBT the biggest part of the radical acceptance skill was the 4 options part. Them being
1. Solve the problem
2. change how I feel
3. Accent it
4. Stay miserable/ suffer
knowing that part of the scale was something that made such a complicated skill easier for me to grasp I don't know if you forgot to mention that or if you purposely left that part out but I think it's something worth mentioning.

also you didn't mention turning the mind and willingness. that was a big part of radical acceptance and my DBT course you honestly couldn't fully do radically accept if you weren't 'willing' ( meaning of skeleton willing vs. willfulness) and if you were in such a state that acceptance was impossible so you had to 'turn the mind' in order to get to radically accepting it.

I do understand that you probably try to keep your videos at a certain amount of time and DBT itself can be very complicated to explain. I very much appreciate your channel.

[joesmith]

Acceptance is not a distraction technique. You are completely wrong on that. Quite the opposite. It allows the person to completely immerse themselves in the sensations, knowing they are harmless. Invite the feelings! Welcome them! They are beautiful! Let them take over and warm you! This is when fear ends. Coping techniques only fuel the fire. When you completely accept these emotions, you are free to feel them in their entirety, and suffering ends.