What To Do If He's More Experienced (& Why It's A Good Thing! )

What To Do If He's More Experienced (& Why It's A Good Thing! )

When you’re seeing someone new, you tend to talk about anything and everything. But what do you do if it turns out that he’s had way more romantic experience than you? Is this a dealbreaker? How can you avoid embarrassment and make sure that you don’t do something to turn him off due to your lack of practice? Keep watching because I’m going to tell you why not having experience isn’t necessarily a bad thing and give you some tips to make sure you keep your cool.

Hi, ladies, I’m Amy North, a relationship expert from Western Canada. I’m on Youtube to share my top tips and answer the most commonly asked questions I get about love and dating. If you want to stay up to date, subscribe to my channel and you’ll get to see my videos before anyone else.

So what do I mean when I say experience? It’s about more than just the number of sexual partners you’ve had. This advice also goes for those who have less experience in long term relationships, casual relationships, or any kind of romance. The truth is, dating someone who is much more experienced than you can create conflict and insecurity. But there are ways to make sure that these problems don’t crop up between you two.

In fact, dating someone who is more experienced than you actually has its upsides. As backwards as it may be, many guys prefer a girl who doesn’t have a lot of previous partners. Guys don’t necessarily want a virgin but many of them appreciate the innocence and optimism that you’ll bring to a relationship and this can balance well with a guy who is more experienced. Plus, some guys like the feeling of being in control and being able to teach you new things. So don’t see your lack of experience as a drawback but as an opportunity.

But there are potential problems that can come from a lack of experience. It can result in miscommunication as you don’t have practice picking up certain cues that he may see as obvious and unspoken. For example, can you tell when a conversation is over and he wants to end a date or are you overstaying your welcome? Do you text him all the time even if he doesn’t reply? Be mindful of your interactions and err on the side of cutting the date off early. The worst that will happen is you’ll leave him wanting more and that’s never a bad thing.

Another red flag for men is when you share extremely personal information right away or get very attached and lovey dovey before you really know them. Aim to take things slow and avoid broadcasting your feelings for him early on in the relationship. Focus instead on getting to know him and spending quality time together. This will show him that you’re mature and that you want to build something real with him specifically rather than just anyone that comes along.

Communication is really important in situations like this. You don’t have to tell him how many people you’ve been with or that you haven’t had many serious relationships in the past if you don’t want to. That information is yours to share or keep to yourself as you see fit. But do be open with him about your boundaries, what you want out of the relationship and, as things progress, your expectations of him as a romantic partner. These can be tough conversations to have but they can help you two bond and will prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings going forward.

Dating can be hard at first but if you follow this advice and take things slow, you’ll learn all you need to know to make things work with the guy you want, no matter how experienced he may be. Do you have any advice for dating guys with a lot of experience? What about when guys have less experience than you do? Leave it in the comments below. I love hearing your stories and tips. Thanks for watching youtube!

[lavayuki]

All the guys I've been with were way more experienced than me, I didn't feel insecure about I need to develop a good level of trust before anything

[indisingh]

Well in this case he's more experienced than me and that's kool because I normally b shy but I gave in nevertheless

[Uservisi]

I need some help, I couldn't find him, I got worried and asked his friends about him, when he knew he got really mad from my action... He seems overall mad with me, I'm expecting a call from him, what should I tell him to let everything calm again?

[chriscodling]

i have no experience so its not a problem for me.

[anavrin]

Can you please give some clues like if he puts a message trying to say something but you don’t realise

[mihaelabobos]

I made him some compliments trough text after we had a phonecall (he initiated it) and he texted back "You make me so shy!".
What should I text him back??

[beetrixTTV]

Make a video about how to get a guy to kiss you

[evelynpham]

hi please make a video about " How to make a first move with your firends brother"