5 Social Skills SECRETS that Make You Attractive AF

I want to share with you 5 secrets that will get people to LIKE you. WITHOUT people pleasing, being fake, or feeling manipulative. Just like learning makes IQ smart - learning these make your EQ smart. Despite what some say, charisma and likability are learnable skills. the problem? No one teaches you this stuff - so no wonder so many people struggle in this area. Rather you want to use these next dates to increase the chances of a second one, everyday life improves interactions with whoever you meet, at work climbing the ladder makes more money, and incorporating just one or two of these tips can make all the difference. Literally, dozens of tips, re-frame, and techniques, but I want to share with you five of my personal favorite.

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Hey there, I’m Clark Kegley, a pro drummer turned self-improvement advocate. Here on YouTube, I provide guidance to help you transform into your 2.0 version.

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[dream-nzyb]

Also, stop trying to force a “connection” with everyone! Be kind and genuine. If you’re desperately trying to find something in common, it’s really obvious and not attractive. Especially to anyone who has read the book that all of this advice came from.

[amberbiggs]

Drawing attention to similarities between you and the other person is a big one for strengthening connection. Also, having your own hobbies/fun things you enjoy doing, and then talking about those things makes you so much more interesting of a person to talk with. You come off energized and like you are actually awake in life, not just going through the motions of work/eat/sleep.

[SeanLunny]

Being authentic is always the best thing to do in any scenario

[maggieborek]

I really like the 1st tip. I have a lot of anxiety around talking with people at work when it comes to confronting them about work issues. My thoughts take over, and I chicken out of communicating what is important to me. Thanks, Clark, for putting it in perspective for me 😊👍

[Domzdream]

I had an appraisal today with the head boss, made lots of eye contact while engaging the other interviewer. Nailed it !

[danielw]

I've always had problems with keeping eye contact. But then someone told me "Look at their eye color, notice if there's a difference between the eyes". It gives the mind something to do, it's not just staring... Works for me :)

[hlewis]

Also exercise and drink coffee. My confidence has been sky-rocketing ever since!

[princeofpeace]

Another good tip is active listening in conversation. For instance when someone talks about something they like even though you may not be on the same page, mention it in your response and ask intentional questions about the subject that point to the interest and the person your talking it. It shows you really care what they are talking about and want to know more about them rather than saying “that’s cool and than moving on to another subject.”
Also be sensitive to the conversation. Share the conversation. Don’t take over and do most the talking. Don’t dominate the conversation. Make it fair, share some of your thought and also leave room for them to share there thoughts. And most importantly ask questions. If they don’t ask back on your thoughts than I highly recommend you make room in your response with your thoughts so than you don’t feel drained. Not everyone has these social skills or awareness so don’t be a stranger to advocate for yourself by including your thoughts in your response just in case you talk to someone who lacks that social grace.

[SR-hfhx]

It doesn't matter if they like you or not...you do need them to respect you for sure

[williamhedelin]

First time watching you Clark, and I must say that you are a great storyteller! Love how you talk about examples happening in your real life or something that you came across which captures our interest, to then later on connect that with a social skill. Keep it up brodie👊

[merelymystic]

Needed this! I started noticing the past month that I don’t make much eye contact I look past someone or around the room. It was because I was more anxious. I’m now aware and have been trying to look at the eyes more . The only way I noticed this in myself was bc I was talking to someone who wouldn’t make eye contact and then it hit me I was the same .

[Dil.Careem]

Our experience with tip number 4 really resonates with me, and I can relate to the struggle of accepting compliments and the realization that my "humility" was, in a way, a form of backward arrogance. It's interesting how sometimes what we perceive as humility can actually be a mask for insecurity or a fear of vulnerability. When I started forcing myself to accept compliments genuinely and simply say "thank you, " I, too, felt exposed and vulnerable. It made me confront my ego and the discomfort of being seen and appreciated for my strengths. However, just like you, I recognized that this discomfort indicated an area for personal growth, much like a form of shadow work.

[ButchersNailsEnjoyer]

Man i love how literally going into public has become not only overly complicated, but a legit market for coaching 😂

[alphamorion]

Regarding tip number 4. I used to be one of those people; in many ways I still am. But at one point I realized that my "humility" was being a sort of backwards arrogance: i found myself having a much harder time grappling with my ego when I started forcing myself to just... Accept the compliments. I realized that just accepting, and genuinely just saying "thank You" was making me feel vulnerable and somewhat "exposed", so I started forcing myself to doing it more and more. I though "Wow, if it is feeling so hard to do, then it must mean learning how to do it it's good for me.". Kinda like a shadow work thing, If that makes sense

[johnpoprik]

Clark, you don't need to mess up twice. Most people will not notice if you mess up once, unless it's really bad. If I mess up and mention it when I come off stage, usually people will say, "really, I did notice."

[bonolosolomon]

Everytime I watch your videos I leave having learned something.

[thefilipinojoe]

Also, just because someone is wearing a name tag, don’t automatically start calling them by their first name. If you’ve not introduced yourself or been introduced, meaning that they know your name too, then it’s not normal and it comes across as weird and creepy. My brother always does this no matter where we go (🙄 thanks to taking the Dale Carnegie course in high school), and he has no idea how inappropriate and weird his behavior is.

[jqjyldu]

It's basically about the dream life of people with social anxiety. Thanks for spreading those tips!

[Domzdream]

It took me forever! To get used to taking compliments.
I was always - yea thanks but it can still look better…..etc.
Just say thank you. Return it with a likewise compliment. Extra brownie points.

[RARochester]

Just " don't care "; it's refreshing and the freedom you feel makes you standout.