Don't feel guilty: how to stop repeating bad behavior

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When most of us do something we shouldn't have -- or when we didn't do something we should have -- we generally feel guilty. However, in most cases, guilt is ineffective expiation. That is, we let ourselves off the hook because we beat ourselves up. The issue is that this doesn't prevent the bad behavior from recurring in the future. In this episode, I'll speak briefly on the emotion that -- if sufficiently cultivated -- can lead us in the direction of actual and sustainable behavioral change: contrition.

Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California.
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[iamthedreamer]

This is great, its a good way to look at it. Empathy is admirable.

[karindegraaf]

Very interesting!! On the one hand, guilt is a healthy function of a healthy conscience (healthy introject, healthy injunction, part of healthy socialization). But you are right: the guilt can serve as a bypass for not fully feeling into the impact one has created. I am learning now to discipline myself into fully experiencing all painful feelings and facing my painful thoughts directly. It is off course very painful and hard work, but I find it really works on a deeper level. I am now convinced that the way out is to go through it. (Learned a lot from Somatic Experiencing, trauma work, energy psychology, etc)

[thomasellis]

The problem is I have learning problems and could have autism and always say or do things bad at the wrong time. I can't just forget about it

[vanessamcbridebreathebelie]

some people dont even grasp this concept

make it more simple