Entitled Young Adult Children | What Parents Need To Watch Out For

Do you feel that you have entitled young adult children? What parents need to watch out for is what I'll be talking in this video. And I'll give you some things that you can do about it.

00:00 Intro & Summary
00:31 How Does Entitlement Happen
01:54 What Parents Need To Watch Out For
03:41 What You Can Do About It
05:06 What You Need To Consider
07:04 How To Connect With Empathy
08:42 How To Encourage Higher Level Of Responsibility

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[trhair]

This is so very true. Thank you for bringing light to this situation. I ultimately had to stop giving so much, setting up boundaries and ultimately asked my adult daughter to move out. Our relationship is estranged but I have peace in my home. She is not open to owning any of the entitled behavior. I know as a parent although not perfect I provided and cared for my children. My hope is life will provide her with the needed lessons to be grateful whenever someone blesses with you.

[lumberjack]

I would almost swear you've got a hidden camera into my home, because your content is so timely and on point! Thank you, Dr Paul. Your RAFT and PILL acronyms are super helpful.

[VirtuousPraiseworthy]

He's talking about 90% of the adults that I know and young people I know. Problem is compounded when the less entitled individuals feel like there's something wrong with their lives and the way their families are when the see on social media and at church and school that their friends are all having expensive weddings and having cars and schooling and houses and vacations given to them. The privileged are sometimes oblivious to it which adds to their air of superiority. Few people are modest and kind anymore.

[cocotulle]

I’m feeling resentment, anger, and frustration about the fact that my 44-year-old brother is about to move home for the FIFTH time lol. If I had been able to live at home for even ten months it would have changed my life for the better in so many ways, but I’m an adult, so….
I do not understand parents who let their kids come back again and again. If my brother knew it wasn’t an option he would make much different life choices and this wouldn’t keep happening. Your biggest job as a parent is to make sure your child can live on their own and take care of themselves. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[heyheyhey]

Imagine, the teachers are being stuffed in classrooms full of entitled children of which their parents have lost control of. Today’s teachers deserve more empathy and respect.

[loveheals]

Dr Paul you know 💯% what parents needs..Unseen traumas illnesses and disabilities has been caused by ourselves and thank you for helping so gracefully and beautifully🙏

[Anthony_in_Bloomington_Indiana]

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I love the part about - Don't think about control. Think about influence. 👍
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[orchider]

We gave our children allowances at a young age to buy whatever they like. One child from about 4 years understood the concept that you spend the money you have not what someone else has. The other child now in her late twenties still has not understood that concept. She does not necessarily demand a lot from us however she lacks discipline in general and prevents her from becoming independent.

The other thing that we overlook is the influence of social media, the strong pull to focus on entertainment, appearance and popularity that robs them of time and money. They are left with little time, focus or resources to truly grow and become independent. Even some who are educated with good incomes can’t seem to find a way out on their own.

[ssam]

I get the phrases "it's your fault you are in this position" (raising them alone...this comes from a 22 Yr old mind). I also have "I didn't ask to be born", "you chose my father" (who doesn't contribute at all) I have given and given. Supported. Provided. Encouraged. And I get entitlement that she should have her own room as no one else her age has to share. Guess what I can't afford a house big enough so move out. Ungrateful, blaming. I'm sick of it.

[aysha.humayun]

Dear Dr Jenkins, thanks for this reminder.All these three are powerful responses which are easily forgotten in the heat of the moment so it is so helpful to keep on watching your videos to keep going back to useful practices.l have watched your parenting young kids, teen-agers and now young adults ones as my children are growing.

[lisamarieclark]

So happy we gave check list for moving into a new place to our teenagers. We got a new house with a lot of unique light bulbs. They come to appreciate the opportunity learning about life long skills. I had to pay for everything on my own as an adult child. Multiple jobs and school as well. Teaching our children basic needs is important. They know we will be there for them all. Most importantly is love.

[joy]

Paul, thank you for all these helpful videos you and Vicki have been sharing. I'm just amazed how you've handled each and every situation you had with your young ones. I am learning a lot from your channel and very thankful to you both. 🙏💝🌱

[riverafamily]

We have been working with two different therapists. All we have asked for is our nearly.25 year old son do a chore or two and pay some of his own bills. He uses all sorts of deflection and avoidant tactics and despite us fighting cancer and major car accident injuries (both parents had a hard time medically), he just spends his money on his ling distance girlfriend and buying stuff constantly! And he refuses to contribute in any way shape or form. Literally expected "credit" for cleaning his own room once.

We have had so many conversations. And then I end up losing my mind because of the manipulation tactics he uses and I call him out anf then he uses more. I can not take it anymore.

Now therapists are telling me we need to evict him. We have a 20 year old living off of us still and we are trying to raise our 10 year old.

[shreyamehta]

A family unit is the ultimate commune. In my belief our church, schools, society and government and the madness to put friends before family have made this commune worthless and this brings in sadness, unhinged children and most of our childs time is spent building a base and not in living life. This brings up in many issues in the quality of life of our kids.
In India the family system is sacred and MUST be maintained.
We are a unit and its a brand, a corporation and commune that has everyone back and its strength is LOVE
We pool in our resources to make everyone in this unit strong
The child has to listen and respect elders.
The child does for a long time listen to their parents and milk their wisdom
Our elders are not put into old homes so this wisdom is lost and the connection for our grandkids so we treat the elder as an investment in our grandkids and is our wealth - not money
We pool in our money to start business and not be a servant in a large corporation. If the kid does go there he is putting money back in the family unit to make it stronger
I can go on and on but you get the point

[yesyoga]

I’m too exhausted to even speak after the brow beating I received today…

[charlottewhite]

We're going to try this out. Thank you again

[eurellbarry]

Can you make a video on how to stop putting someone else on a pedestal and dwarfing yourself?

[kimberlyfinch]

Try faith hope and love. The greatest is Love 💘

[hvngfunnn]

Resentment
Anger
Frustration
Time for the conversation

Permission (ask)
Invite consideration of another way
Listen to their response
Leverage

[IamTheWarriorGirl]

I Wish I Had To Stop My Anger, Stop Mad, Stop Upset And Stop Frustration