Common behaviours displayed by abuse victims

In this video I talk about the most common behaviours that are seen in a victim of domestic abuse or narcissistic parental abuse.
Due to the strength of the trauma bond that is created, the person still in a relationship with the abuser, acts in ways that may seem strange to outsiders.

[aPumpkn]

This was very informative, I've been writing about many different varying topics and this video helped aide that tremendously for me. Thank you!

[officerfarva]

You explained what has been nagging my mind but I could not pinpoint it or why it was happening. My husband has an abusive sister and he acts as if getting away from her would be his death sentence. I couldn’t understand this until now. Thank you for explaining this!

[sarahfountain]

when my little brother who is now 22 was 5 or less would be around when his father (narcissist) mother (enabler) would fight he would run & hide somewhere or go out side but when his father would say he's going to leave he would get very upset start screaming & crying. When I was talking to my brother about the past he said how well when your in danger your going to run from it. When I shared with him him physic abuse done to him & I he down played it, kinda made excuse for it, seamed like he didn't remember the story about him & his memory is like a steal trap. I found our conversation bothersome, I fear he will turn into his father a narcissist, I can see signs of it already along with signs of our mother codependent. It seams like only a mater of time before 1 dominates. I wont to help him but like my mother he doesn't see a problem.

[johnasson]

common behaviours would include. denial decrial hope for eternal sleep
and his abcense from my prescence as much as possibler!

[therobustmole]

How can i help my girlfriend stand up to her mother? she touches her like she is an object and manipulatea her...
I can't do anything about it because my girlfriend keeps opening up to her...

[jessicah]

how often do abuse victims become abusers? I see the abuse my husband has/is going thru from his family but he refuses to see it. at the same time, I believe it is affecting our relationship because he is using unhealthy methods to feel "in control" in our relationship. for us, he has this strong need to feel "control" yet he goes about it the wrong way. with them, he is willing to bend over backwards yet they are not there for him nor does he feel comfortable being vulnerable to them. the bare minimum support this will provide (should he need it) is a couch to sleep on. at some point i am willing to leave him if he doesn't improve his ways. i understand some separation from his family will help him be less influenced. it is very frustrating what negative traits he carries on from their household to ours. at least i am doing therapy and he is getting closer to it.