REACTIVE ABUSE EXPLAINED! #narcissist #narcissistic

🔥 *One-on-One Coaching With Christina*

REACTIVE ABUSE EXPLAINED! What's the Real difference between Reactive Abuse and Real abuse ? #narcissist #narcissistic #narcissism #abuse #toxic #toxicrelationship #narcissisticabuse #support #shorts
*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[noura.]

This made me feel so much better. Thank you for the insight it’s cleared up the thoughts I had about myself

[mommymonster]

I suddenly started screaming "just because your mom didn't give you the love you must have required and are holding in is not my fault!! I'm not here to be tortured over your buried trauma", etc etc out of the freaking blue!! I don't know why or where it came from but his normal stoic nature that he has during these moments snapped and he instantly started tearing up. I felt like the biggest bitch in the planet and instantly started apologizing. I am still in shock I said that

[roberthayes]

Looking back I'm clear now my parent's abusive narcissistic behaviour made me feel guilt that would lead me to depression and ruin my life until I understood this, 60 years later

[michaelstapelberg]

its that self reflection.. thats the difference.. so true

[mongoose]

I can never understand why someone wants to push another person so hard. It must be because they haven’t matured.

[jeanineposey]

Please let me say ABUSE is ABUSE justified 😮they are insane I was gaslighted by my ex the things he put me through…. He’s still walking around out there doing it to someone else there should be a way to stop these men and women STOP Justifying them talk about how we can get them off the streets hell!!!💔💔💔

[noworneversoulbeach]

This is why I stay away from people these days, most are crazy, selfish, angry and overly judgmental af but hate being judged themselves. It’s the era of sensitive insensitive people.😂

[lenam]

I had reactive abuse for everything after 14 years I wrote everything what I think about his role in this life (have checked what hurts them) I did it intentionally because he hurt me intentionally as well.

I don’t feel guilty at all… finally I feel justified- he deserves that… no remorse - I hope he had narcissistic injury - good feeling - I hope he enjoys that… the person I loved was me who he mirrored at the beginning… he is low, very very low

[proverbs]

We normal folk don’t blame others for our actions. It’s not your fault I cheated or I hit you. I don’t see how they can believe such a lie. My spouse had 3 convictions for domestic violence against me and still he says to his family and me that I’m the reason he did it. If I had a better job he wouldn’t need to drink and take drugs to cope with his long days at the shop. Like what? This mf makes so much money yet tells everyone he’s poor and it’s all my fault. Really?!

[netlizard]

😂 right, sometimes just raising your voice and expressing yourself is considered abuse to them

[FuelAirSparkTime]

I used to feel guilty, then it changed into feeling like she actually deserves what's being said to her after crucifying me in such a malicious and unfair way

[danaschield]

Should one apologize for reactive abuse?

[meganbrewster]

The guilt can take you back be careful when you finally tell a toxic person the truth even though it may be damaging own it and walk away. My "guilt" always had me doubting and going back!

[timothythompson]

So I'm just an not an abusive monster. Good I can work with this.

[jamielee]

I feel very very guilty for slapping the person I love the most. I feel guilty for yelling. I feel guilty. ALL. THE. TIME. Repeatedly.

[ZFabia]

It's a bit more complicated
Because maybe both peaple can feel guilty

Even though i really don't like the words feeling guilty

Regretting having lost it makes more sense to me

And feeling justified does not make you the bad one, if you are being abused you can feel justified in fighting back

Sorry it's much more complicated.
This info can make the abuser feel innocent all because they can have a conscious also
It's not so black and white.
Give me a break

[davidjthayer]

Thank you for sharing this !!!
She abused me on so many levels, it's unimaginable !!
She was incredibly skilled at the art of deception !!!

[solusemsu]

So, say a wife pushes a husband's buttons to get a reaction, and she does it over and over again until he finally loses it and punches her. He then realized that this wasn't like him, and he felt guilty for it. So then he's the victim of reactive abuse? He's defending himself? Can this be true?

[marcuseason]

It's so messed up I got this right? So yesterday I'm on a business call trying to recoup money stolen from my account by swindlers and deceivers she took the time while making the phone. Call to point out how much like her mother. I was in the fact that not mentioning the specific purpose of the call was needless. She thought that was entertaining I took a fit to it because 1st of all it was doing. The business call 2nd of all. It wasn't serious enough for her to make the comment. It was absent of any sort of sophistication or intellect. Where I felt like all she had to do was simply. Say could I finish this call? She did nothing when I brought it to her attention? Why was she gasliding during the call? She had this blank typical blank lost look on her face.

[linafalvo]

Omg thank you. I just don’t want to be like them