“Moving on from an emotional trauma in a relationship/marriage”

Video in English 10/1/2020
How you move on from an emotional trauma in a relationship or a marriage?
How do you get over the situation when your partner neglects your emotional needs and sides with people who cause you psychological distress?
How do we protect our relationships?

Thekla Petridou is a Greek Cypriot psychologist, author and YouTuber.

[kgrymp]

In my humble opinion, the only way to deal with emotional trauma in any kind of relationship is to go "no contact" and move on! These people are NOT CAPABLE of understanding or comprehending your emotional discomfort because they do not believe there is anything wrong with them, therefore, there is no point of even attempting to make them see reason...There are plenty of non-toxic 'humans' in the world, thank god, who have genuine empathy and compassion for other people and are able to share love in a humanistic way!! Thank you Theklara mou!!❤

[sophiavelizioti]

Πραγματικά χρήσιμο και εύστοχο βίντεο!!!Πολλά μπράβο κ.Θεκλα!!!

[PhotographyDiaries]

Thekla! You are an international star!

[MR-trfz]

I wish I could put 100 likes, Thekla this is awesome! I especially liked the phrase "they're siding with your enemies". Can you believe, I've lived this so many times, and this is the first time that I hear these words placed together. I mean, I knew it happened, I just couldn't put it into words an act of betrayal (which, as you say, it's exactly what it is).

[eldiputacio]

We do not know the motives why someone would form a romantic relationship with us.
The healthy motive would be that they like us and enjoy to be with us and they eventually want to love us and be loved back by us. In that case I assume they would betray us if they come across someone else that they may desire more.
But there can be a number of less healthy reasons why someone would want to form a relationship with us.
It could be that they are after the social status that it offers them, the confirmation of their ego, the need to cover up their insecurities, a material reward, or simply their inflated ego and their one-way need to be admired.
In any of these situations, including the case that they may have feelings for us but they are also jealous because of insecurity, they can betray us.
We need to have enough experience in life and use it in combination with our gut instinct to identify the motives behind someone's behaviour. Unbeknown to them, and if we are cool enough in a relationship to judge objectively, they give us the clues.
A betrayal hurts when it is happening to us but if we rationalise it and even better if we can detect someone's motives before it happens or early as it happens, we can respect our self worth, stop someone in their tracks before the abuse becomes established and move on. Let them deal with their issues or find another victim.
Do not accept to become the victim yourselves. You never know the goods that life is holding up for us on our next stop !

[UltimateMoralizer]

Εγώ δοξάζω τον Θεό που δεν είμαι σε σχέση και που η ζωή μου είναι απαλλαγμένη από τρέλα, δράματα, τσακωμούς, κακομεταχείριση κι εκμετάλλευση. Προς Θεού, το λέω διαρρήδην! Αν δεσμευόμουνα σ’ ένα γκομενάκι, σίγουρα θα πληγωνόμουνα, θα ψυχοπλακωνόμουνα και θα σεληνιαζόμουνα. Εξάλλου, στην ουσία, το να έχεις σύντροφο, είναι σαν να ζητάς σε στέκι παραπανίσιες κρεμμυδοροδέλες με το γεύμα σου ή σαν να αγοράζεις επιπρόσθετο περιεχόμενο για ένα ηλεκτρονικό παιχνίδι. Με άλλα λόγια, είναι απλά πρόσθετο, τίποτα παραπάνω, τελεία και παύλα.