Stop YELLING To Save Your Marriage!

[michaeljones]

I yelled myself out of a marriage. Wish I would've learned to control my emotions. When you are raised in a household that sees fighting and arguing, you pick up those bad habits and think this is the only way for effective communication.. Wish I never seen those things because initially, it rubbed off on me. I am still dealing with this trauma and it's detrimental to my life. I am so sorry to whom i hurt due to the error of my ways....

[DarkWaldzwerg]

I am DA and yelling is enough of a reason for me to irrevocably remove someone from my life. And it doesn't have to be a romantic partner. This applies to everyone. Yelling people disgust me.

[harty]

I'm a yeller. Sigh. It's something I've worked on for ten years. I grew up in a household where that's ALL they did. So it's hardwired in me. It's so hard. I've got DBT therapy which has lots of skills such as the STOP skill, TIPP skill, checking the facts, acting opposite etc. But still. It's very hard. It's also hard when your partner keeps doing what triggers you.

[doranvee]

I am going to make a sincere effort to curb getting loud with her, especially when anything about her adulterous lover is brought up. Thank you for the advice.