How Yelling at Kids Could Harm Them

The Doctors discuss new research about yelling at kids, which found that it may actually harm kids as much as physical violence. We welcome parenting experts Dr.Deborah Gilboa and Amy McCready to weigh in.

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[tjf]

My dad smashed my head against a window, spat in my face, chocked me, hit me with metal spoon, gave me a bloody nose but yelling at me everyday is what gave me anxiety as an adult.

[henkverhaeren]

What many parents forget after they yelled to a child, is to make it up afterwards by saying 'sorry, I've lost control, and I was angry because of so and so. But everything is ok now.' than the kid can relax, otherwise there system stays in a state of alert and keeps tensed. With all sad results as a follow-up...

[LiftRider]

I wish I could show this to my parents but this would only make them scream louder

[Jiafeibubbles]

My parents never yell at me, my brother, or our dog. But my aunts yell at Their kids. My mom learned that communication is the key. She was a nurse at a Pediatrics office so she was always with kids. Yelling at your kids doesn’t do anything good for them. For example, if your 10 year old son was to spill water and you yell at them, they most likely will get anxiety. But if you communicate with them and say, ”It’s ok, get a paper towel and clean it up”, that will make things easier for you and the child. And if you think yelling at your kids makes them behave, you’re wrong. My younger cousin is VERY immature for her age. She’s 7 and acts like a 2 year old. That’s because of her mom yelling. But if her mom didn’t yell, she would be more mature and act like a 7 or 8 year old.

[michellehollensteiner]

I have heard lots of kids yell right back at their parents. Some kids have gotten in their faces and yelled no. I’ve seen kids swat their parents back when the parents swat them first. It wasn’t pleasant to see. It made me sad. My parents hardly ever yelled at me. They didn’t believe in yelling. My mom passed away in October. I’m glad I still have my dad

[ShottaBoyzz]

I’m 24 single father I have twins a boy and girl, they are my pride and joy I can’t even lie I yell a lot they are only 3 I don’t even mean to yell but sometimes I get frustrated and yell and feel like shit I honestly just want to be a great father and I feel like I’m failing

[jasont]

My dad always raises his voice then shouts and yells so unbelievably loud at me or my mum whenever something doesn't go his way. He makes us dine together everyday but me and my brother never say a word, just silent eating with parents everyday. :(

[ranaeid]

So, true!
I am not a parent myself. However, I am an elementary school teacher. Not yelling at my students is my new goal. I always apologize if I yell and I try to explain why. I never liked it when my parents yelled at me when I was younger. It made me feel weak, scared, and unsafe. I don't want my students to feel that way because of my actions.

[PhilMante]

This is why you see so much drug addiction, alcoholism, obesity and promiscuity in people. Drugs, alcohol, food, and simps never yelled or screamed at a person and made them feel shitty about themselves.

[GoldenPink-fvuh]

I hear voices screaming at me with the same rage my mom has. SO DONT YELL AT YOUR KIDS FOR 23 YEARS N COUNTING

[dawoof]

i know this is old but i was yelled at by teachers and staff all through out elementary school and i still never understood why. Am 20 now and luckily i never grew up to be bitter from those years

[Josh]

I had had a dad that yelled at me every day during my teenage years (not exaggerating) and it changed me as a person and In the end I have been desensitised by it causing me to yelled back. But also scared to leave my room at night due to him being angry about me being awake to late, even though I was just enjoying what an average teenager does staying up late .

[sanyyy.]

my mother thinks its our fault her adult hood is miserable but she is clearly just saying that when I do nothing she compares me to first graders. Yelling is like a drug for her she likes yeling at me.

[DanneyTanner]

Here's the thing about yelling . There's different types of yelling . Not everybody can yell all the same. When my mom yelled it didn't bother me a lot. When my babysitter yelled at me it gave me chills up and down my spine that I'll never forget for the rest of my life. She had like this evil sound in her voice👹

[bellagiotapes]

I'm asian american (cambodian to be exact) I was born in 1992 . My dad always yelled at me for no reason, he would call me the F word for no reason, he would threaten me with a knife and all kind of stuff for absolutely nothing, when I got older all these things still built up inside me and I said you know what, screw my parents and I started doing drugs and screwing hookers, now I got an std and probly wont be able to have children due to complications it would have on my partner and the baby. So I would say yes yelling could harm children and cause them to self destruct instead of to self love and do better for there parents.

[mariestephens]

Yelling, or even screaming at your children at home, or worse in public, is demeaning to them makes them feel worthless, and most likely unloved.

[elywananda]

That point at 3:11 was weird as heck! So it's okay to yell at children because people will yell at them elsewhere and they need to get used to it. I mean, the same point applies to hitting too! But that doesn't justify anything.

[คเคภค]

my step mom needs to see this video. my little sister is 2. Only 2. And she’s going through her “terrible twos” I guess you could call it. When she doesn’t get her way, and cries and throws a fit, etc. but when she’s fighting taking a nap and just crying in her bed my step mom will yell at the TOP of her lungs for her to shut up, and when she doesn’t, she gets a spanken, I don’t understand it at all. Like y e l l i n g at a kid is gonna get it to be quiet and stop crying?

[jeannieboivin]

This is what happens to my nephew. My sister and borhter in law constantly yell NO! to their 1 year old son and always have...I dont know anything about having children but I honestly think that's not what to do when your child cries. I could be wrong but when they yell NO at him, it makes him cry even more.

[flops]

My dad yelled at me for not going to bed early enough at the age of 6 and he did it WAY TO LOUD. It was only a simple problem and could of been fixed without the yelling. He yelled at my whole family today my mom. My sister, and me. I don't understand do you think they behave because they like you when they yell? No. They do it out of FEAR. Do you think yelling will get your kids to be quiet or stop crying? LIKE I DONT UNDERSTAND!