Regret, how can we move past it? | Cooper Vardy | TEDxYouth@WISS

In this talk, Vardy attempts to define regret, outline the steps in overcoming it,
and express his thoughts on how to apprehend rewarding experiences one might
otherwise rebuff.

Cooper Vardy was born and raised near New York City, in a shoreline Connecticut town in the Northeastern United States. He lived in North Africa for two years and has travelled extensively across 4 continents. Now living in Shanghai, Vardy is a junior at WISS, and has undertaken many varied and miscellaneous ventures. In addition to being a world traveller, Vardy can call himself a published author, commissioned artist, paid musician, tournament video gamer, scuba diver, philanthropist, and stage performer, among other titles. In supplement, he has spent countless hours in the study of language, geography and history. He believes that, in partnership with hard work and perseverance, hunting and taming opportunity is the root of all success. He would like to share this outlook with those willing to listen, and, hopefully, encourage anyone who wishes to expand his or her own portfolio of life experiences.

[HeatherHanderson]

I know we're only human. We make mistake. And i know im throwing my future away if i don't move on. But i can't. Whenever i thought of what i did, it consumes me completely and it's all i can think about. I can't let it go.

[vefbndy]

I always find myself thinking of how things would have been if I would have chose differently, I’m glad I am where I am today though

[gallonsofwater]

I have done so many things that are irreversible, most of them were under my control and I messed up. I'm most likely exaggerating, but I cannot get over it. Regrets are much harder to forget than I thought they were.

[Coneman]

Often when we regret we assume what we have missed would have been awesome. But we don’t know if it would have, and we don’t consider the things we avoided which could have been awful. Catastrophisation makes things so much worse.

[thk]

I’ve made a huge mistake and don’t know how to move on.. it seems impossible

[rightwingtrollslayer]

It is only when you recognize that you don't deserve to suffer anymore and that your suffering is unfair from the guilt and regret that you learn to let go

[baetiful]

I don't regret doing things. The biggest regrets I have in my life is not doing what I want to do.

[TyCruzCast]

A moving speech. Regret is so hard to let go of. So hard to be free of. Many regrets of not doing something in my past that I try to forget about....

[Last.Dark.Emperor]

Trust me biggest regret u can ever have is not being with your parent and saying how much u love them and then they die, and u cant see them or tell them and u werent even there, there is nothing harder than that kind of regret, u will fall in love in many girls and u will forget them an dmove on and u will always find another job but u will never find another mother or father which loves u more than enything in world, pls go right now and be spend soem time with them if u love them.

[ferdinandbreezyegbo]

I made a huge mistake, whenever I think about I don’t recognise myself anymore… I hurt someone that I love and I can’t even express the pain that I’m feeling right now…
Living like this is not worth it, I can’t stop thinking about my mistake, my life as become a nightmare… I need help

[helghast]

If you've ever done anything you regret so much, and it seems impossible to fix, take a break. Go do something else. Take yourself out, take a nap, sleep. Because when you come back to it, you'll have fresh eyes. Works for me.

[trisplaysthis]

I've recently made the worst mistake I've ever made, there isn't a minute where I don't think about it. I would do anything to go back to that moment and change what I did. I completely own up to my mistake and I just hate myself now. I'm so sorry for what I did, and I'll never feel the same about myself again

[lilbro]

I tried so hard letting it go, the mistake I did. But the guilt just never stops. Even though I know I should be moving on, it's like a thing I can't control. I'm hopeless

[ethanharris]

This was comforting, though I don't know if my actions deserve forgiveness.
I spoke in a very vulgar and inappropriate manner to a girl I held strong feelings for: In the moment, I had wanted someone, something to accept me in an intimate manner. She, quite rationally, was disturbed and informed her boyfriend, who now despises me.
I don't know why I lack self discipline. I don't know how to forgive myself for what I said. Suicide seems more of a convenient escape from this weight of regret and guilt than anything else. I don't know what to do other than apologize and hope. I'm terrible.

[cameronsanchez]

I messed up in a way that nobody knows. My dad told me recently that I've been acting different over the last couple days and it's because of my regrets. I feel like a bad person, which is the exact opposite of someone I wanted to be. At times it feels like nobody's regrets are as bad as mine. I'm only 18 and I'll be 19 here in the next couple months but I don't know how to move on. I need help.

[daimsaeed]

My regret is laziness, ive completely wasted 10 years doing nothing and i dont know how to forgive my self

[khorommbilindiwe]

I'm in so much pain. I do not how or if I'm gonna over come this. I have messed up, big big time. I can't sleep. I can't eat. I can't stop crying.

[ShashankVermaa]

I also made a life altering blunder, a loss that cant be recovered, I feel like my life wont be the same again. I lost it completely now and my life has no meaning.

[twofiveb]

Serenity Prayer:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (the past),
The courage to change the things I can (me),
And the wisdom to know the difference.
For me it is seems easier to focus on what I can’t change (my past with someone) than it is to change what I can (me).
It’s much better in the long run to do the opposite.

[cloudcure]

I made a big mistake and I regret it so much, it weighs me down. The mistake made me lie to my friends and family because I was so ashamed of what happened and what I did I’m trying to fix it.