What is Online Dating Like for Men? No B.S. Real Talk

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Jason breaks down what it's like to date online for men, looking at the number of messages, the quality of messages, response rates, and who it's easier for.

[renegade]

From my experience, online dating for men is a total waste of time. I had better luck in the real world. Best of luck to all men who want to give it a try.

[vileproductions]

guys if you’re new to online dating … don’t do it

[BlueCheeseNoFleas]

As a guy who's in his 30s who's pretty successful career wise, and who is considered tall. My online dating experience and general dating experience has been terrible. It's funny how women will often tell a guy in that situation to lower there expectations. However they will never lower there own. I think what your seeing now is more and more men moving overseas to places like south Asia to find women. Western women have massive entitlement issues. Living in the UK. The women in the country are not regarded as beautiful, most are very average looking. Yet there demands are through the roof, for most men it just isnt worth it.

[Centrist]

For women reading this, please DO NOT think that you are sparring a guy's feelings by ignoring his message. If you are not attracted to - or not interested in him, that is totally fine - so just send a message thanking him for his time and make an excuse.

But ignoring someone who has taken the time to contact you will be seen for what it is - rude.

(Obviously it is different with sleazy, inappropriate messages)

[jmoboyj]

The only way you'll find success online as a man, is if you find someone who immediately likes you and your chatting enough to ignore everyone else. In other words, she'll stop using the site voluntarily in the first few weeks after you first get in contact and focus only on you. Women who stay online and using the site for weeks and months after you start chatting are just not worth the risk and nearly always get distracted and let you down.

[kevbrooks]

Agreed with most of this, except higher quality messages from women. Women have absolutely zero game. Meanwhile I’m expected to be suave, funny, witty, and stand out on every message. I’ve not had one good message from a woman first and have been on 5 different apps for over a year. Bout ready to just delete them all.

[Berkanann]

The video starts at 1:43. You are welcome.

[kevin]

I average about 1 match per week across the 3 apps I use. However it's often someone who never responds to a message, a scammer, or, more lately, a profile that will disappear from my match list within a day or two. I average about 1 message every month and it's usually garbage from a scammer or someone wanting another follower on social media. In terms of actually getting a date, I average about 1 per year or every 2 years.

[Stew-D]

Man : wow so what do you do for a living?

Woman: teacher

Man : oh great you must love kids and have fun with the kids

Woman : yes

[Centrist]

'It's actually pretty great'

that is definitely a matter of debate.

Men are still expected to make the first move and I am tired of taking the time out to write a thoughtful, balanced message and the woman can't be bothered to reply. It is NOT that I think she is obliged to be attracted to me - it is just a question of politeness.

On the rare occasion female members have reached out to me I would always thank them for their time and sincerely wish them the best - even if I wasn't attracted to them, I respected them in that sense

[trevorc]

Online dating for men (don’t know for women) is applying for that first entry level job on job boards fresh out of school and hoping someone replies

[jayray]

Women like to be pursued, so of course men get fewer messages.

[ravipeiris]

It is interesting that there is such a significant difference in response rates when you consider that some dating sites have a 50/50 ratio of men to women.

[kevin]

I would agree that outcomes are roughly the same because if women are getting dates, men must also be getting dates. Could it be that 20% of men are getting 80% of the dates?

[martinmartin]

Stay off the apps if you don’t want to feel less about yourself, that is, if you are an average dude.

[sasCASsIOpeia]

Woman here🙋🏻‍♀️. Vast majority of messages I received said - verbatim - "your cute" 🙄. I would just like one full grammatically correct sentence, please.

[magdalein]

my perspective is that a man should reach out first, its the nature of a woman to hold back on making the first move. That's the way with African women, and there's also protecting oneself/ heart, i don't want to make the first move lest he does not respond. We are on these dating apps not for games at all.

[shydogwoofwoof]

Online dating is terrible, at least for me it is.. You write a few paragraphs to a lady, and you get a response of, "OK.." So what is up with that? 95% compatibility and an "OK" is an answer to a few paragraphs a couple days later.. I know that being a musician throws up a bunch of red flags to women thinking he is a player or what have you, but untrue in my case, I don't go out at all, that is why the dating site.. I want to get to know someone before ever going on a date, not just meeting in a bar and hooking up.. I'm 65 look 42, act 32 and have been rejected by countless women on dating sites, and approached by more than one on nights when my band is playing.. I don't go out with the girls in a bar, been there when I was younger and learned my lesson.. So where do you start?? I am about ready to quit dating sites and just sit home and watch tv... lol

[stevemt]

Not true. I got messages from women that are generic like. How are you?

[vernonkeens]

Very good mate some of it its true the rest is rubbish !! it all depends on where you live Your country and area, , UK here!