This Dating Advice Is Making You Look Stupid! (Fix It Now)

There are few absolutes in life, and even fewer in dating. So it's important to avoid absolute black-and-white thinking. Always and Never are words that, when you hear them, you should stop and think. Most often when you're using these words, you're thinking about the world in an unrealistic and ineffective way.

[swaggybaconcheese]

Absolutism will be the death of learning.

Love your content Todd

[svenphil]

Most often this works best: indirect for nightlife, direct for daygame.

[FIFI...]

hey todd, i don't know if you personally read this message or not, but i'm dani from the netherlands. I've been listening to your content for years. I am now 36 years old. and 3 long relationships behind me. and every time I'm single and have to get back into the game I listen to your videos. I wanted to say you're great. do what you do, you are the best. thank you very much bro. anyone reading this this man is a fucking legend!!

[xristoskostoulas]

Unbelievably beautiful and simple the way you described the difference between theory and experience Todd! As a physicist, I genuinely loved the example with Newton 😆

[abdul.arif]

8:13 if she makes eye contact with you and showed some interest by smiling then by being super direct it’s mostly always better and you can escalate right away

But usually indirect openers are better and you talk to them for a bit and warm them up before showing interest. Like saying hey, I thought you were cute and wanted to say what’s up is a direct opener

8:30 adapt to different models for different situation’s. 9:00 do you want to capture the nuances if you want to reach a high level in anything. 9:05 at this point Todd urges us to make a distinctive line between our action time and thinking time. When we are in the field, it is action time and you need to trust the model you have, and be decisive. Outside of field is when you think and reflect.

[MattEliteStorm]

I'm not interested in an online course at the moment, but I'll probably consider it in the future. Could you recommend who is the best online 1 to 1 dating coach?? Someone I can talk to in a call & can answer any question, who will be more reasonable & charged me hourly. That would help a lot & would be appreciated.

[marioottaiano]

Should you always or never? It depends on the situation, if the situation requires it, you do it, if not you don't do it.

1. Should you always kiss the girl on the first date? If you created enough attraction and everything is ok, you can kiss her, if the situation is developing in an awkward way you don't kiss her.

2. Should you always buy a girl a drink? On the first date if you bring her to a bar, it is creepy, unpolite and awkward not buying her a drink, since you invited her, is like inviting a friend to your home and asking him to cook, clean your house, ecc

3. Should you always open indirectly or directly? Here too depends on the situation, if you like a girl who is in your job environment you might consider an indirect approach since it can be perceived as creepy a direct approach on the job workplace and you can risk to be fired, instead in a discoclub girls are there for that reason and a direct approach is more appropriate

[MrX_]

4:35 yep 🤦‍♂️ this happened to me lol learned from it.

[niklas]

The whole premise of this channel seems shallow but then you come with Nassim Taleb. Now I don’t no what to think.

[alanwakeup]

You've answered this like 10 times already.

[stephonpowell]

I go out to bars pretty often and many times the girl starts heavily escalating at the very beginning. Then it feels like that's the highpoint and everything goes down hill from there. How should I handle that? Should I put the brakes on?

[PeterParkerwon]

For me specifically I have difficult establishing a man to woman vibe on first dates and struggle to know when to kiss the girl unless its the very end of the date. Even then I almost have to sneak it in. Obviously this is a beginner level issue should I go for a kiss to establish myself as a lover and get comfortable with kissing on first dates and to avoid being friendzoned.

[Starsteam]

What are the reasons for why you shouldn't think much in the field? Is it too distracting from being optimal? and thank you.

[gerardoparedes]

Esto si funciona pero deberían darle el acercamiento adecuado, yo lo hice por un tiempo pero no me trajo los resistidos que estaba buscando, era muy joven Pat entender que dormir con la mayor cantidad de mujeres posibles no era mi objetivo, si te enseña a hablar con una mujer y entender los marcos de conversation and how to lead and make you a win for her, pero dale con cuidado que muchas veces no estas buscando eso y probablemente por mas que intentes la mujer no se va a querer ir contigo a tu casa y puedes terminar con un mal sabor de boca y terminando en la razón por la cual empezaste a ver este video

[prof.puggle]

Mate, this is something I'm trying.. Next time you catch someone's eye, keep it. And see if you can get them to smile..without smiling more than they are.. until she's laughing..

[MattEliteStorm]

I don't want to rush things & play it safe, what do you think the longest I should leave it kissing a girl on a date, should I leave it to the 2nd one 3rd or even 5th??

[COMARto]

Can i just say Todd is aging spectacularly. There is hope for us :)

[McKCM]

Wouldnt going super direct already signal to the girl that she already has you?

[ajedrezbrasil]

I would add that some cultures really don't mix well with direct openings todd..

[azizmarzouq]

When you make anything like a challenge you almost fail.
If it's happened it's ok otherwise it's ok.
We could get sex anywhere these days but to have an experience should be spontaneous and fresh.
Game is to prevent the stupid actions and should be smooth not as a rules and a (model)!.