What stage of Narcissistic Abuse are YOU in?

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[k.prince]

1)
2) Devaluation/Depreciation
3) Discard

[emmarae]

Going through this bs right now. They don’t care who they hurt. Their existence is the only thing that matters.🙄

[wendyanneroutledge-patton]

Was with my narcissist for 19 years just been discarded (not the first time it's happened, ) but least i now know what he is!

For years I thought it was me not good enough, but thought he loved me, because he would always come back ( hoover) but since a friend told me about narcissist and trauma bonding it LIGHT BULB 💡 moment! It's as clear as day, physically I'm free. Now i just have to free my mind. Because I understand I'm still vulnerable to hoover after 19 years of conditioning😢. I need to make sure I counter act my own brain towards him.

[SusanNikbeen]

All absolutely true . Went through all of this basically in that order 🙄🙁

[LauraLou]

6 months post divorce. Covert Narc. I’m in the ruminating stage. Can’t believe I didn’t connect the dots sooner. I really thought I was the problem.

[StarflyerT]

The more I watch narc abuse videos the more I'm recognizing what I saw and lived with. The bulk of the abuse wasn't happening to me, as I was the GC, but as an empathetic woman, I saw it and tried to fix it with my actions. I had to believe both mom and stepfather and questioned my own reality. I lost myself trying to be who they wanted me to be. I didn't notice the anxiety but felt creep up when I wondered if mom was in a good mood or not. What would I have to do? How can I fix things?

I don't see a lot of empathetic golden child content, and I hope to find more or one day make some. It's a different experience from scapegoat and invisible. You're watching someone you love destroy someone and inherently sacrifice yourself to try and fix things. My co worker is ironically also a egc. It's amazing to have someone to relate to. Hugs for all!

[lisamariegriffin]

I used to call it Pout Pout PMS. Every 6 weeks, on the dot pretty much, he would become an utter nightmare and treat me like shit. I had no idea it was actually the devalue stage. Rinse and repeat. 15 years. I'm DONE.

[_Matilde]

That’s so strange why would a covert narcissist hoover you after 5month break up ..then finally after Hoover texting me for a month meets you but saying he can’t have sex only kiss and and leaves and ghosts you just disappears..well I’m not texting first but I’m just thinking this behavior is wtf?😂😂😂 we been together for a 1, 5 year before I saw many different behaviors I like to study and learn about it to be educated but what is that ?😂🤦🏾‍♀️ don’t even know what that means 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[francesbernard]

There are some men out there who want a Christian wife without them having to practise Christianity themselves for real. They prefer a Christian wife with connections and who will some day inherit land. You can tell who they are when they go to church every Sunday only when looking for a wife and then the day after their wedding day all of a sudden they quit going to church during both their honeymoon and then later during their predictable discard of their Christian wife phase. Whereupon sometimes they try to get away with bedding their now divorced from wife plus their latest narcissistic supply newly wed again next wife. My dad was like that. My mom said it was like waking up with a stranger on her wedding day instead of the mask she had grown to love whom she thought my dad was during their courtship. However to this day whenever any of us long after his death tell the truth about him in public there is always someone around who believes in his mask willing to accuse us of being the heartless ones for tarnishing the reputation of the head of our family in any way shape or form.

[avgonyma]

If the don't buy gifts and build a pedestal, and move on fast, but just sexually, and not getting engaged or moving in together or saying "i love you" - are they then not a narcissist?

[shukriaapso]

Dude, no bad intention but for someone who wants to send his friend your video to help them realize they were victim of a narcissist, you should not make first 2 minutes about your programs but leave it at the end of the video

[saumurify]

Wow you just got my attention, my husband as told me that there's no more passion and told me more then onces to tell him 1 good memory since we moved here, its our first house together since 29 years together this last June 2021 and i told him, we had good moments since we leaved here ...
I told him you see it the way you feel it, I don't feel what you feel, I'm happy and I love our new home and i see good moments and I told him I'm so sorry that you are not . And I told him
It's on you I, I can't t make you feel happy only you can. And i said the problem is you not me, your in charge of your feelings your feelings are controlled with your thoughts if you want to see yourself happy it will feel happy and if you don't want to feel happy then it's an excuse to remove yourself from me .
I can't control or force you to love me .
He wasn't happy, he was telling the truth but that was because of something he was hidding from me and i didn't see it coming ... but now I know why, he was having a secret affair that he later regret has I exposed him with the truth and proof.
He left me stranded more then 7 hours away from our home and took our car for a homewrecker that was using him for our money. She leaves permanently in motel room and she was very not his type. But still warned after telling me everything that had happened in detail to not cause her any trouble as she was going through enought and that i should be happy that its me that hes coming back to and shes not the winner thatvi am .... If I would show you a picture of this lady you would probably laugh also .

I dont like bragging about myself i just want to say im a good looking woman im sexy and attractive and this woman is never going to make feel inferior never . He told me he was embarrassed and said if I was there at the motel he stayed at I would of laughed at him . But he never trully said sorry either, he was very cold and he couldn't wait for my tears to stop and the next day when he got back home he said he was ready for a fresh start .and he wanted to be happy now .. I told him I'm not a left over and that I wasn't ready and he said in a soft vouce i understand and of course i wasn't and many times since he has threatened me saying if I bring the subject up or ear her name one more time that i would pay consequence and I would be a bad person etc... you get what I mean ....

After saying sorry but.... he said next time it won't be with her again but with 2 girls and was laughing about it...that was the next day he came back home and hevwas extremely mental abusive at thevpoint our dauther called the police ont him he tried to get a divorce and continued to torture me in many ways mentally then saying he loves me then later i saw a message on his cell phone from that homewrecker that he told her i was making him go through hell and back .. I confronted him and he said he blocked her but then when I'm an issue he laughs at me saying I blocked her but I have her cell number ... then he said he sais that to get at me but would never go back or talk to her again ...