If You're Feeling NEGLECTED Because Your Partner is Busy, WATCH THIS | Relationship Theory

How do you support a highly ambitious partner with a hyper-focus on goals and success? It’s so easy to fall into a selfish pattern of thinking. What about time for me? When do we get to focus on each other? Being with someone that is highly driven is not an easy role to sign up for. Tom and Lisa happen to both be highly ambitious and focused individuals. Lisa has played her part as a supportive wife and a successful business partner. In this episode, Tom and Lisa break down the hard truth about what it takes to sign up for that lifestyle and also what it takes to prioritize each other as number one.

SHOW NOTES:

Family Goal |Lisa on why they decided on a family goal and individual goals [0:54]
Focus | Get what you focus on, so see how you are a team supporting each other [4:12]
Ambition | Why you have to know what comes along with it when its the life you chose [5:21]
Mismatched | Collectively deciding the life you both want, is it aligned or mismatched [7:33]

QUOTES:

“And I know deep down that I'm not number two, I'm your number one.” Lisa Bilyeu [2:19]

“If you're focusing on the fact that you feel neglected, and you're put second all the time, you're going to start to feel like that.” Lisa Bilyeu [4:21]

“you're so good about not being abusive, that when you speak up, like whatever it is like I have that switch that goes, ‘nothing else matters.’” [6:54]

[RelationshipTheory]

Have you ever been in a relationship where someone tried to control you?

[shellbell]

IMO family comes first. No one lies on their death bed and thinks "I wish I'd worked harder" but they do think "I wish I'd given my loved ones more time and connection."

[nutriwellth]

Having a thriving relationship is just as important as doing your best work. Because once you feel you relationship start to crumble your work will suffer as well. So it's in your best interest to make more time with your partner.

[AhmetKaan]

*5 things to quit right now:*

*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself*

[lumendelsol]

My problem is that i get no time with my SO. She is always going to the store for her mom or doing something for her brother. She works all week and has 1 day off in which she sleeps to catch up on sleep so we basically have no time together. Now she feels like were not connecting and wants to seperate, but to spend time together she has to give up time with everyone else and to be honest i dont see how she can. So right now im packing and shes all upset and crying because she has no idea how this all went wrong. I tell her but shes not seeing it at all so im guessing its time for me to move on.

[veronicaj]

This video gives me anxiety. But you do have a choice. Crazy how you have to schedule time with your partner when you're ill, instead of your partner seeing you that way - and he/she keeps "busy." All this empire talk, building business, working harder FOR WHAT? You might die tomorrow and you missed your scheduled appointment with your mate, because you weren't a priority - the world was. And you agreed to it. WOW!

[binebum]

Wow. I feel sorry for the lady who wrote the question. She may not have had a 'support his business venture at all cost' agreement with him when they entered into the relationship, nor find fullfillment through assisting or vicariously living his goals nearly all of the time. He sounds like a guy who 'has' a family, not 'lives' a family, which is a crossover of (in his case) three people's lives. Lisa is role modelling the total co-ambitious wife, driven, 'building an empire', 'smashing' it. But this lady who wrote to you, may not have signed up for that! At the end of the day, her husband may have to decide, is this relationship and family precious to me, I'm going to have to step up and meet my responsibility to devote more interest and quality time, not the other way round💕⚘

[Powerofpositivity]

Having a goal as an individual and also as a family is very important. You need “your” time and “us” time. ❤️ love this episode so much 🙏

[mob]

As a man in this day and age you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t! I left school with no qualifications but after struggling I managed to earn good money and I’m able to do more for my partner, but it means I work away from home 3 times a week. She hated it when I was broke and didn’t mind telling me, now she doesn’t like I’m away from home. I just don’t want her to tell me I’m not a man ever again!

[samanthamakhafola]

I don't like goal driven and overly success driven guys. They never prioritise relationships n I always feel lonely

[paula-elizabeth]

Lisa, I feel you’ve definitely hit the nail on the head.” 🎯 - Being drawn to Ambition myself I am fully aware that that will mean less time with the person I marry. Of course deep down - With the “Right Person” - You Know you are each other’s No.1 - Life doesn’t necessarily permit you to always show that.

- If your partner is Truly Your No.1 - It’s worth considering; “What type of partner would I be to hold him/get back from his/ her dreams?? - My job as a Loving Partner is to support them and not stand in the way.” 🎯🥰🌈

- This is why establishing priorities and focus as you both have done is a fantastic strategy to avoid ever feeling like No.2. X👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽😃🌈🌟💖

[maryana_me]

I just want to thak you so much 🤗. This is such a helpful content!

[dainepetrou]

Yes When is enough. And why should one book in for time with another. If you had any empathy you would feel and pick up on the fact the your partner is withdrawling and not

[jjztcvm]

And why is it the other person who has to cope with one person’s goals. Our time is our time not one of us gets to go violate “our” time for xyz reason. If you often expect your partner to go and “deal with it” then they will learn to live without you eventually and your existence won’t matter soon

[NoahAvery]

Yes to having been in a controlling relationship. Some rules are important, but seems the more rules you have, the more opportunities there are to get upset

[pharmclare]

Awesome and helpful information
Thanks

[amdeko]

❤❤ i will keep clapping for others until its my turn 🎉🎉

[bystandersarah]

Kids change everything. Even if you discussed the lifestyle you wanted before and were in synch then, (human) kids change everything.

[lilysuga]

I had never dated before I met my current boyfriend. After graduating, he had to leave and we started a long-distance relationship. He doesn't like texting, video call is our primary. From day to day, he became so busy he only be able to call me after 11 PM his time which is 5 AM my time, and most of the time he feels sleepy. Sometimes the whole day he couldn't make it to call me. I got upset sometimes even though I understand his condition. I don't really have experience and I am curious is it too much wanting to talk to bf everyday? Is it okay if he doesn't call u and doesn't even send a text to let u know what he is up to? Is it considered too busy or am I overreacting?

[juanwononeyuan]

all girls simultaneously love a man with ambition and a purpose, but also want u to make them ur purpose, thus making u no longer attractive to them. smh

guys, make sure ur girl is happy and not necessitous on her own so u don't fall into the trap of co-dependency. SET BOUNDARIES!
ladies, stop wanting it all, learn to be content. u'll ruin the relationship and take u both down with it.