This Is Why You Could Feel So Lonely (THERAPIST EXPLAINS)

As a therapist I think there is this misconception that we have it all figured out. If you follow me on YouTube, you know that the last 2 years have been very challenging. I've had this video in my drafts for 4 weeks & couldn't decide if I wanted to post this. The reality is that I want to control the outcome of things. I want to control my career as a content creator & control how fast and well I acclimate to this new life I'm building in Texas. I want to control my friendships and how I feel, I want to feel happy and content always. Because I'm a therapist, it doesn't make me any more different than anyone else. I struggle, have rough patches & have hard times in life where I don't always feel happy despite wanting to feel happy. And sometimes I may even feel worse because I'm supposed to have this figured out as a therapist, right?

But, with all of this said. I am taking necessary actions and trying new things that I haven't always done. And I'm sticking to routines that I know will make happier and feel better. And it's not always easy, and I don't always want to do it, but I know the power of these things. I also know that so many things in life we don't have control over. And part of life is doing our best and letting go out of the outcomes.

Are you asking yourself, how do I feel happy? Or tips on how to be happier? Or how to find passion in your work again? What are you currently struggling with? What is helping? Would love to hear from you.

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[kenrickbautista]

Coming from a guy who's been lonely his entire, I can really feel your pain. For so long, I been trying real hard building connections at home, work and gym because I been feeling very lonely and anxious that it's killing me. I just wanted a partner who loves me for me and people who make me feel important. It's so hard to find company nowadays.

[danielpieterse]

The “hustling for my own worth” and “proving I’m worth showing up for” hit me harder than I’d thought it would. Loneliness and feeling disconnected almost feels like a pandemic now.

[leti_ci_a]

This hits so hard. I feel worthless to the point I don't even try to prove myself. For the past two days I've been feeling really really really worthless because I don't have anything, I haven't built anything. I feel this loneliness since I was a kid and spent my life trying to feel worthy of affection with no success.

[moriahbh]

Lonliness is one of the most painful feelings, and it is truly disorienting.

[adamwells]

I think the pandemic pretty much destroyed any notion of stability that most of us had and exposed just how chaotic the world really is. We're all struggling to connect and find meaning because none of us are the same people that we were just a few years ago. Everyone's slate was wiped clean and we have to start over but none of us know where to begin.

[juliaarambula]

Loneliness is seemingly my life now. I feel the start of social media and cell phones and online dating really messed us humans up as far as connection. It sucks and I’m tired of hearing the same solutions when they don’t work because most people are so consumed in their bubble.

[lynylcullen]

You are DEFINITELY not wasting our time by sharing! We need to feel like we are no the only one’s going through this! Thank you Katie!

[ashleyevolving]

I felt the "trying to prove that I'm worth showing up for" so deeply.

[yayhoo]

I am totally isolated except for the 1 hour of therapy I have per week. I have work, but that actually makes me feel more alone as i interact with people on a superficial level that is not real. Then it is depressing to think I have to pay someone to talk to me one hour a week. Otherwise i would have nothing.

[fifik]

This is exactly how I feel. The loneliness is a physical ache. I am searching for my identity, for friends, for someone to love and be loved. I am like many others who belong to a family unable or unwilling to express love. A childhood without love has left me with an emptiness that I have been unable to fill.

[LLLegends]

Boom! Boy did this hit home! Girl, I cried with you. Some due to empathy but a lot due to feeling like you were my mirror. Your break through really resonated with my worth...whoa, that was heavy....and true. Thank you for being so brave and sharing the way you did.

[couldntholdacandle]

I made best friends with myself. I found the things I enjoyed doing. I stopped feeling guilty that I didn't have time to please everyone.

[katherinemartin]

I’m a therapist and wish I could be more open, authentic and vulnerable with people. I’ve spent my entire life hiding behind a facade. Thank you for showing your vulnerability Kati, you will have helped a huge number of people including me by doing this ❤

[dawnjoys]

You have absolutely described my life. I don't know if it is fixable, honestly, but what you have put out here over the years has been so helpful. It helps me know that I can't be as screwed up as I think I am. We have global PTSD. We are so disoriented and dysregulated. Thank you for your authenticity. It gave me the courage today..

[heidithesausage]

We all need extra hugs right now.
You've achieved great things & helped so many people. Thanks for all you do

[iffyangel]

As a people pleaser, I totally understand. One thing I have learned through my 67 years is no matter how much or many times you please/do something for someone else, they will use you and forget you. If you ask for the slightest help from them, they totally ignore you then quickly turn around and "Totally Expect" you to do whatever. If you refuse or can't, they cut you out completely and spread ugly rumors about you. Not just once, but every time! ... until they need you again!

[covert_warrior]

As a therapist in training. I love that you share your vulnerability like this.

[RandomAndReviewsbyRed]

I have a husband and a family but I feel so alone. I feel lonely I feel empty. Thank You for sharing this.

[azizmoawiya]

This made me feel less alone, thank you so much for sharing ! I'm a 23yo boy from the other half of the world, and I've been feeling kind of similar to what you've decribed, these past few years have been hard, especially with covid, I've been struggling with my identity it caused me to isolate myself from the people I love the most, but I'm slowly getting out of it, I've been focusing on my art more and my studies, and hopefully will reach out to my friends soon I miss them so much I didn't mean to push them away... but anyways I stumbled upon your video by chance and just you expressing yourself helped me feel so much better, knowing that I'm not going throught it alone, is somehow comforting thank you once again you got yourself a new subscriber <3

[VJGYtube]

I can't imagine how hard it was to press "upload" on this. Kati is a hero for sacrificing her privacy for the good of all of us. Thank you Kati. I appreciate you.