9 Reasons Why You Feel Lonely

#psych2go #loneliness #lonely

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Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
YouTube manager: Cindy Cheong

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[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”
― F. Scott Fitzgerald

[knurdcantdrink]

I feel lonely but I don't want people around me.

[destroyer_-ryjf]

“The mirror is my best friend because when I cry it never laughs.”

― Charlie Chaplin

[BombBadChris]

I swear this year made me feel lonely, depression, anxiousness and to the point I feel like I’m starting to lose myself in all of this.

[UltimateDragon]

I swear this channel knows me better than I know me.

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9 Reasons why you feel lonely:


1- You're lonely

[rayahasun]

Why do I feel lonely? Because whenever I get close or vulnerable with someone, it just feels like I'm a burden to them and they already have someone they like better.

[Simon]

0:39 You don’t know how to connect with people
1:09 You’re afraid of intimacy
1:44 You’re going through a lot of change
2:17 You struggle with codependency
2:50 You’ve lost touch with yourself
3:23 You’re feeling misunderstood
3:54 You’re struggling to feel worthy
4:23 You’re spending time with the wrong people
4:50 You may have depression

[baconatorrrrrrr]

I swear this channel can read my thoughts haha. Whenever I struggle with something a video pops up on the topic!

[night_hawk-]

I almost cry watching this all the signs are so relatable

[addivamp]

I feel lonely because the people I felt so close with ignore me for other people when in a social setting...just acknowledge me... please

[felixneumayer]

1. I always see people on social media doing cool stuff with their friends like going to concerts or visiting lost places or whatever... whenever I meet someone (most likely with my twin brother because on my own I never had the chance to meet others) we only sit in a room and play video games...
2. I am 19 and I never had a closer relationship to anyone... especially not to girls... and I think that wont change because I always have this unconcious feeling of not being good enough... I cant keep good conversations going for long because after a few words I just dont know what to say anymore... I am super shy around others and cant come up with fun things to say or to do... i can imagine that being around me is super boring.
3. well...not really... I started going to college a year ago but my loneliness started way back in high school.
4. Since I never had someone like this I cant really tell why but I still make others source of my happines... on my own Im sad most of the time and dont know what to do because everything bores me.
5. I dont really know what I want from life and I dont even know what I enjoy doing... my interests change every few days and I just cant do anything for a longer period of time...
6. Especially my parents dont really know me... I am kind of different when I am with them... I actually think of mysef as funny and I can make them laugh but I dont tell them about my problems because they end up belittling everything I say.
7. Well... like I already mentioned I dont feel good enough for closer relationships but I never experienced a break up... its more like whenever I tried to arrange to see a "friend" they always made excuses why they dont have time all of a sudden.
8. I dont spend much time at all with anyone... only place I see people is work.
9. since this is a problem for me since I went to high school first I honestly think depression is a thing for me.

I dont know why I wrote that... noone will read it anyways xD but I somehow wanted to write it down...

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“All I ever wanted was to reach out and touch another human being not just with my hands but with my heart.”
― Tahereh Mafi

[iisaniis]

“4. You struggle with codependency” - it all went downhill from there

[hmidontknowyou]

The only reason I fell lonely is because i don't have friends and im getting bored talking to my parents all the time

[sassylittleprophet]

Why do I feel lonely? Because every single person I get vulnerable with hurts me. Literally. Every. Single. Person.

Edit (7 months later): Okay, all except one. Good people exist, they're out there.

[teodortodorov]

Others think about parties, alcohole, smoking, girl/boyfriends
I think about "How I need to live to be better person"

[marbellacortez]

1: you don't know how to connect with people
Me: well this is going great so far *sobbing*

[lorilewlewis]

I'm lonely because nobody wants to spend time with me because I am Terminally Ill. My friends have told me that they feel uncomfortable being with me and don't know what to say. I have told them to talk to me about everyday things, the News, what they have been doing, etc and to laugh and joke with me.