When You Let Go Of THIS, Everything Will Change for Your Relationships | Mel Robbins Podcast Clips

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[alizabeth]

This woman, her podcasts. They make me feel normal. The mistakes i have made, the experiences i have had, the way i have been treated, these videos just gives me confidence that there are many people out there who have done the same stuff, and been through same situations. And that they have broke the pattern. Kudos to you ma'am, you're doing a great job!!

[nooooopeeeee]

"Master yourself and you will lose the desire to master someone else."

[dodalton]

I am an "advice vomiter" mom. I'm so glad I watched this because I know it's stressful for my daughter. I can feel/see/hear her shut down when I'm talking to her sometimes. I've tried the "listen or advice" option, but I'm definitely going to hand that button to her and just make listening my default. It's so hard!!!

[katiemoyer]

“Let ‘em” = Allow others to experience thru their imbalance to the point where They eventually self clean/reset themselves. When we “let ‘em” we take ourselves out of their pathway as an energetic obstacle. In this way We get out of our Own way.

[bryantpettey]

If you're doing something for someone, let it be just that. Not some expectation needing to be attached.

[CLtvMichele]

I love how you are bringing them all in to discuss this. Kudos to all of you!

[lauren]

6:05 sometimes I will call someone out about their negative attitude and also tell them I am letting them continue it if that's how they want to act (e.g. being pissy but if you dont want to move on and have some fun or get along, thats fine, enjoy your mood!). Not sure if that's helpful, but at least they know I want us to get along even though we had some disagreement 🤷🏽‍♀️

[cab]

Whilst you’re allowing the person to move through it, they learn to regulate their own emotions.

[arelijordan]

I have started letting my husband near the end of the year have his moment's and I walk away now and I did it one day and he noticed. He asked me why I had left after he had calmed down because he got frustrated and was starting to yell and get mad because he was working on something and it wasn't working out. I told him why I left the room and I simply said. I didn't leave to be mean I could see you were getting mad and frustrated and so you wouldn't lash out at me. I left because I would of taken it personal and have tried to help you. I let you deal with your own frustration because me staying and trying to fix and help you hadn't been working for us. I was taking your frustration personal your anger personal and its not its your feelings. So when I walk away from him either because I need a moment or he does to ride out our emotion at the moment. We have started saying. I need a minute. Which means for the other person to leave or if the person chooses to stay I'm still going to have my moment just don't take it personal.

[BeyondClaire]

This was so valuable to see how you as a family unpacked your feelings and how you explained both sides of the “Let them” technique. Thank you Mel…for not picking up your stuff 🤣

[bluecube]

You're a wonderful mom, your daughter doesn’t understand how fortunate she is.... to have an emotionally available and healthy parent.

[taihicks]

I love your videos Mel! I have been watching all your videos all week! I'm so glad I found your channel. Thank you for being so real & honest 💚

[yumnom]

That was freaking awesome! I wish my family could allow me my feelings and be open with me too. It's really nice to see that thank you! 💙

[annamolly]

I understand where her daughter is coming from when she says, "It needs to come from the person who needs the space." Because as well intentioned as it is to ask "Do you want advice or do you want me to listen, " it comes across rather commanding.

Sometimes the person venting doesn't always know what they want in the moment which is why I believe it's important to just LISTEN at first. As was said, "assess" the situation before you say anything. Because at some point, if you give the person time, there's always going to be a space where the listener can interject and ask, "Do you mind if I gave you same advice?"

Doing this shows the person venting that you're actually tuned in to what they have to say, that you're actively trying to understand them rather than just "waiting to talk."

[stephaniejones]

Good morning, my friend Mel :) I watch ALOT of your podcasts because I ALWAYS take away a "nugget" of knowledge or some tools that can help me improve my well-being. I really, really liked how this one was like a real family "meeting". Seeing this interaction where you guys, who seem to have very different personalities, share your perspectives, how you guys gave each other space and respect, and were working toward finding a better way to handle potential conflict was helpful for me as an "advice giving tornado" Mom. Seriously Mel, your content has made such a positive impact on my life. 💛

[Sobergirl]

This was great!! Love seeing the family discussing things!!

[courtneyhill]

Thanks for sharing this conversation. Hearing and meeting our people where that are at is powerful.❤

[patriciaaguilar]

Dear Mel, I love your podcasts, they have helped me a lot with my goals and with my learning of English, you could put subtitles on them. It would help a lot more to enrich the vocabulary

[michellehendrickson]

You are right! And i do believe it comes from childhood trauma

[Sobergirl]

Omg I advice vomit my daughter!! Wow thank you for sharing some ways to better my relationships!!